Good point mystical....some people are just that shallow!!
I believe that people do not spend enough time getting to know the whole person. People don't appreciate the fact that it takes "time" to get to know a person and you can't make snap judgements or you may just lose out on the opportunity of getting to know someone wonderful.
It may be that she was initially interested and is no longer interested. Some people who claim to want honesty and then expect the same from the other person, aren't capable of being honest with themselves. She may possibly be emotionally immature, so the best thing you can do with this situation is to move on and be the better and wiser next time....and yes sadly for some honesty is too much to ask from people who can't be honest.
I agree people lose teeth for several reasons, but to ignore dental care and dental hygiene. I'm not talking about people who lose their teeth to accidents or diet, I'm simply talking about people who drive $20,000 cars and only have two teeth in their whole head because having a hot set of wheels is more important that having a nice "grill" so to speak.
I wouldn't be adverse to dating anyone I had a connection and chemistry with. I believe everyone has someone out there for them and when you least expect it, whomever you are meant to be with just kind of falls into your lap so to speak. Keep up the positive energy and you shall have no problems finding your perfect match!!
To me being a true friend means that I am there for my friends when they need me, stand by them through thick and thin and to never judge them, just being there and listening. Offering my support and advice and always being honest with the person is the kind of friend I am.
racoon you are starting to scare me you have a post up about teeth and shortly thereafter you put up a thread about "hygiene"........whats up with that??? You saying you wanna date a toothless woman whose Right Guard took a left turn or what???? Teeth and hygiene are very important OK, it's not just my opinion it's the basic requirements for most people out there. If you are lowering your standards to find someone to date then maybe the teeth and hygiene standards are maybe the last things you would want to budge on hey buddy?
Victor..I can't explain why she would have done that to you. Maybe its not as bad as you think. she maybe sitting around thinking about what to write and rehashing the date in her mind, trying to figure out what she wants to say. Give her some time and don't be so worried, I know its the natural thing to want to think the worst but don't allow your mind to take over and think negativity. One less than ideal experience doesn't mean that you are doomed.
Just wait it out and don't seem so overly eager. I know its hard to control emotions and thoughts but now is the time when you need to do that. Don't let this one experience determine how you are going to react and don't let it chase you away from CS. Take your time, talk in the forums, stay positive.
If this woman is any kind of woman and has a iota of emotional maturity she will contact you to explain or tell you how she feels. You never know what she is going to say to you, but if you pull your profile down then you won't be able to get any response at all. Just take it one day at a time and if she doesn't contact you back then you haven't lost much because a real woman doesn't behave and play high school games. You wouldn't want to be with someone like that anyway would you?
Kind of makes me chuckle back to a time when ex and I were playing a game with my cousin and her husband.
Us girls were just learning how to play and the boys knew how to play so when we whined about moves and whatnot being unfair the boys retorted with "It's not our job to tell you how to play so I guess you should read the rule book!"
Fast forward two weeks later and I introduced my cousins husband to euchre. He had no idea how to play so he kinda limped through the game till my ex husband and his wife got home then we paired off into partners again, boys vs. girls.
In the middle of the game the girls were whopping the boys pretty good and my cousins husband looked over at me and said you "you need to add up our points and write them down correctly!" to which I promptly replied "Oh boys it's not our duty to make sure your score is recorded correctly and perhaps you need to LEARN THE RULES!"
Guess you had to be there but it was pretty fitting and quite funny to turn the tables on the gents..lol
Oh yes, unfortunately I've been on the receiving end of this scenario twice before. It made me realize that the men would have left w/ or w/o an "excuse" but having someone on the side just speeded up the inevitable...and they wonder why women get bitter and a bit jaded right?? lol
Thank you to everyone who has posted some very informative and helpful suggestions. I called her today and arranged to meet over lunch just the two of us and I told her I was taking her some place nice and she was very excited. I am hoping that in the right environment/setting I can somehow muster together the words to make her aware of her odor issues in a dignified, respectful and discreet manner, wish me luck!
thank you rwantin...I was scared to do this! LOL, just putting myself out there with something so personal is a scary thing to me, but I am glad I did it.
Here goes nothing.....be easy I'm a poetry virgin here guys
You
No one can know the you that I see for you can't be for them what you have been to me MY laughter My joy My reason My friend The vessel of hope that this feeling won't end. But we came to a place Where the path does divide A choice is before me from this I can't hide. Chosing is losing My joy, my friend Cherish the one heart, pray mine will mend. When the choiec is made as it surely must be In the losing of you, I lose part of me. Then No one can know the me that you knew for I can't be to them what I was for you.
cold as ice honey cold as ice...lol more beer, more beer. I myself am enjoying some adult cocktails with my neighbor lady, having mimosa's tonight, YUM! Champagne, OJ and orange curaco
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RE: why do guys go for looks rather personality?
Good point mystical....some people are just that shallow!!I believe that people do not spend enough time getting to know the whole person. People don't appreciate the fact that it takes "time" to get to know a person and you can't make snap judgements or you may just lose out on the opportunity of getting to know someone wonderful.