A place where reformed vigilantes can come and rest their weary heads. There are only a few simple rules here ladies and gents...
1.) Please leave all weapons, flaming torches and pitchforks at the door we want no violence here...only peace!!!
2.) If you have an offensive screen name you are asked to leave this thread now..because this will upset the atmosphere of the vigilantes and we don't want that to happen again!
3.) We are here to post ideas about "would you" threads, recipes, beauty tips (for the women members), and lastly feel freely to discuss any and all vigilante experiences with other members..
We are all vigilantes and we are here to help one another...lets beat the anger together! We are each strong on our own..together we are invincible!
OK, on a more serious note here..lets be completely truthful and honest..and put it out there like this...
The females that you see in Playboy, Penthouse, Hustler, Cosmopolitan, Forum, on TV, in music videos, walking the red carpet......you think these women fall out of bed just looking like that? You actually believe that these women just were born with beauty au natural??? No honey, sooooo sorry to disappoint...they aren't. They employ people who shop for them, personal trainers, chefs, make-up artists, hair and skin care professionals, etc,. etc. Beauty in that realm doesn't come cheaply at all....but they have a "public" image to maintain. Therefore they take 6-8 hours to get ready before a big event, they don't eat like a normal person, they dress in millions of dollars worth of jewels and have dresses that are worth more than maybe 2 or 3 peoples yearly income put together.
Of course the old saying is true that "water seeks its own level" and this is particularly true if you have not one ounce of self-esteem. If that is the case then you probably should be working on getting some self-esteem before you try to date anyone....JMO
A person defines their own perspective of beauty, with this in mind, is the only women who arouse you at all the ones in magazines?
If you are attracted to women that take care of their appearance, you think that is a bad thing or something to avoid??? If you have never approached a woman you deem "high maintenance" how do you know whether or not: a.) you will be able to hold an intelligent & stimulating conversation with one another b.) if BOTH are attracted to each other You never know until you give it a try! Never judge any woman by appearances only..you never know what you like until you try interacting with a variety.
As for mentally you like being with a "homely" figure??? what kind of a statement is that? Do you think the woman you dated would like to be thought of as homely??? I know I sure as heck wouldn't, its just kinda mean.
I don't know what you are going to have to do to be able to live with yourself.......thats a very good question..
I don't think just a few emails would be enough to really get to know someone well enough.
You can't rush meeting someone over the net, if they aren't comfortable then obviously if you really want to meet them give them a bit more time to come round to the idea.
I think it is common to have initial apprehensions and theonly way to overcome any apprehensions is to get to know the other person.
Take your time, have patience and if you are meant to meet someone you will know when the chemistry is right.
That's part of life..going through whatever one is meant to go through. It has made me much stronger, wiser and more careful. I learned much from that situation and it showed me what I know I never want to go through again.
My ex husband used to go through my purse, wallet, car, glove compartment, clothing, pockets, undergarments..if it was mine nothing was sacred or above suspision.
Got really bad when we broke up and he snuck into my house and bugged me and put bug in the car too. He has listening to things I was doing, people I was talking too,etc., etc.
I moved out of that house and went and stayed with friends till I could get my own place. He followed me and my friends, called me at all hours of the day and night.
he did'nt tell me about the bugging until after we got back together "briefly"..he brought out the tapes and told me that I needed to tell him who was on the tapes with me and if I did that then he could forgive me and we could move on from then.
I rushed out of there as quickly as I could and divorced him...I don't judge every man by the standard I use for him specifically,but having this done to me I think I am more than qualified to pick up on the "RED FLAGS" and signs of control, I guess I should be thankful for that??
The three sides would be the one on video, the officers and the criminals...the truth is evident, but if I'm not watching the right clip, my mistake. There is a link here to the one I watched, so if you have something different please let me know. Thanks.
It is extremely unfortunate that she is pregnant and in this predicament, things happen in life that we don't plan for that is certain, however, the only advice I can offer is to let your friend make up her own mind. Whatever decisions she has to make are difficult and life changing, just be there for her and don't judge her.
B, agree another great thread here. I write stuff down all the time because between, work, family, school, children, etc., etc. if I don't write it down I know I will forget it. Juggling is hard to do at times, and for me I have to do it, nobody else will do it for me. I am going to graduate in the spring, get a kick *ss job, am moving into my own home and in process of buying it now, so everyday you have to make a clear statement about your goals, to me it reinforces why I am doing the things I do now.
Judy as usual you do not disappoint, you were spot on in your post...as for holding something against you.. I wouldn't say that too loud in a BND thread...LMAO
To Judy yes you are correct, you are very wise and I appreciate every post and comment you make.
Perhaps as you stated,if people would bother to read the ENTIRE thread in its glory, and know all the details...one could draw obvious conclusions...but then again why do that when its just as easy to skip over the details and make a blanket statement??? Who knew people would be averse to checking facts and forming the obvious conclusions about this thread.
I digress...women aren't supposed to be offended by the OP's mere screen name????
The threats and degredation he displayed towards the women on this thread was highly offensive, and I'm certain it wasn't just to me either.
Oh well, like I said some travel in packs but everyone needs a fan base right?
Perhaps the women who don't find his drivel offensive will get a charming email or a flower in their box..how would this make them feel? Special?? Remember the OP said that he already has a number of children and a few on the way.....so how special would you feel just being another BABY MOMMA???
Maybe I should google to find an appropriate answer..wait..I think my mind is telling me something...yes, my mind says THINK DAMMIT!!!! How unfortunate for me I have the ability to think for myself! LOL Great thread, B!!!!!!
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BND's Time Out Cafe
A place where reformed vigilantes can come and rest their weary heads. There are only a few simple rules here ladies and gents...1.) Please leave all weapons, flaming torches and pitchforks at the door
we want no violence here...only peace!!!
2.) If you have an offensive screen name you are asked to leave this thread now..because this will upset the atmosphere of the vigilantes and we don't want that to happen again!
3.) We are here to post ideas about "would you" threads, recipes, beauty tips (for the women members), and lastly feel freely to discuss any and all vigilante experiences with other members..
We are all vigilantes and we are here to help one another...lets beat the anger together! We are each strong on our own..together we are invincible!