PeachesandRay Forum Posts (1,358)
Hip.. Hooray for a Mom who says, "yep, I'll help" but when it comes to repayment, you hold the adult child responsible and accountable for what he or she agreed with from the start
Kudos Miss Joanie...you're on the same mind set as me...occasional help yes, but repayment when it is deamed appropriate is reasonable for everyone
We perservere until we find what we're looking for
not much...got that problem from my crazy brother-in-law in NH
Love ya..Mean it
I believe we should always be there for each other as a family Not really sure how my Dear Friend is going to handle this situation, Thanks to all you folks, if I'm ask for my advice, I will have some very good opinions to share with this person. Like yourself my adult children have also not come to me everytime there's a little problem, but they always know they could if absolute need be. I know they would not take advantage of me, and I know I could count on them too if the chips were down in a situation for me. I don't want to push my beliefs off on someone else, instead respect how they want to handle the situation. Thank you for sharing your opinion on this subject. Everyone's opinion so far have been fair and thought provoking for sure
I believe being a parent is for Life
, not at the same level of responsibility... I would not ever pay my grown children's bills or allow myself to be taken advantage of, course my children have not ever done that . But we do all "hit bumps in the road" old and young alike...I would like my children to come to me before they would go to a perfect stranger...knowing I trust them to be responsible in managing whatever type help I would offer
Seems sometimes we will help anyone but our families at the drop of a hat
doesn't make much sense that the people we are supposed to love the most, gets the least from us
Thanks Shipoker55...you've given more insight into this dilema...much to consider for the parents I appreciate you taking the time to give your ideas
Thanks, this is why I'm asking, and very much appreciate your opinion as a man I believe especially if the child being assisted is a man, he would be able to keep his self respect intact if he made the first move and not the parents, so he would feel he has some control in the decision making process Great advice!!! Thanks..Peaches
It's just to be able to see what will happen in the future as the result of a chose made today
Thanks for your input I know if I was the Mom in this situation, my heart would want to assist, not offer a handout
You are so Right!!! We all hit "bumps in the road" and it you think of it if we live long enough to need help in our much older years, the "good deeds" of our youth will come back to us tenfold Course "good deeds" should be done without expecting repayment of any kind
Seems your opinion is the same as I have raised my children so far , but I'm not so closed minded that I'm not open to a variety of ideas of how is best to handle parenting grown children Thanks, your opinion is valuable and appreciated as always Take care
Hope you can decipher
...or even a slight financial boost to get them out of a tough spot, 
when he or she has already proven they normally conduct their lives responsibly..just kind of hit a bump in the road haven't we all needed a "helping hand" at one time or another in our lives? And if you do give them a "financial boost" would you expect "full repayment" back? I have a person dear to me who would appreciate your honest open opinion on this Thanks alot...Peaches
, but that's our American priviledge
Sometimes when we go camping I have to carry my own cause it's not sold in some locations
Whoa Baby!!!
He's made his mistakes like all the other presidents, but he still has a job most of us would not "touch, with a ten foot pole." I try to pray for him and all the decisions he has to make and all the lives those decisions affect I don't think I can honestly judge him until I "walk a mile in his shoes" (Peaches here )
at 5' 1/2"...that won't take too long 
After all the rain we've had this last week...just listen for my giggle Naughty Boy 
Hey, Earl, the grass needs to be mowed
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Parents of Grown Children please respond...
Hi Ms Chele1964, seems this thread has presented the opportunity for alot of us CS'rs to be in mutual agreement about to me some of the most important people in our lives, "Our Beloved Children" ages 0-99