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RE: Dilemma with my teen.. what would you do?

Be sure to drop him to the station and pick him up though... if he was anything like me as a teen.. not being allowed to drive wouldn't have stopped me jumping into someone elses car...

RE: Dilemma with my teen.. what would you do?

Thats a tough one... I definitely wouldn't let him drive..it really is a tough one.. I remember what I was like as a teen... ... if it wasn't 300 miles away.. and if there wasn't a strong liklihood of drugs and alcohol or at least if there was a decent adult then maybe.. would you consider taking a mate and going urself.. you can emphasise that you and your mate will do your own thing and not breath down their neck.. if nothing else it may mortify him into submission...

feel for ya babe!!

RE: Im a bit confused - any input would be greatly aprecciated......

Hiya Trish ... sounds very promising... I have a really good feeling about it in fact... am thrilled for you..

Don't question just move forward in confidence.. and enjoy each moment for what it is.. a moment.. and don't worry that you don't have this huge powerful attraction for him... while these experiences can be intoxicating.. they are quite often short lived... all my long term significant others (2 ok not so many) were slow burners in the sense that initially I wasn't wow!!... but it was the people they were and the things we had in common that was the basis initially.. the attraction and passion came later... and it didn't disappoint .. just enjoy Trish.. am thrilled for you.. really I am..

RE: whats the difference between love & Infatuation

RE: whats the difference between love & Infatuation

Because they probably got married on the basis of infatuation and therefore unreal expectation....

Love is being in it for the long hall...

Sometimes love is only one sided also.... one person is willing to work at it, but the other does not have that basis, and is not willing to work..

Think of love as a rooted plant.. if they are firmly rooted in the soil, wind rain and storms will not uproot it...

RE: whats the difference between love & Infatuation

... beautiful

RE: whats the difference between love & Infatuation

Infatuation is for fair weather...

Love is for forever...

RE: Have a chance

very true... which makes me think even more that it best that you meet him on your turf... but again.. totally Stephs own choice and I wish her the best of luck whatever she chooses

RE: Have a chance

Listen to your gut instincts Steph.. they generally don't fail us... is he practicing/devout? if he is it will never work unless you consider converting, and unless you consider what that will entail.. my cousin married a Muslim... she loved him and she was happy to convert.... however it does mean that she has taken on the traditional Muslim woman role.. now while for her that is ok and she is happy to do so... consider these kinds of things if you are serious about him...

RE: Have a chance

To be very honest (maybe am a little old fashioned) I think he should be the one to pop over to you (for the first meeting at least) I really do believe (given mens not so good reputation and hormone let behaviour generally) that the guy should work a little bit for his girl in the beginning... its a good way of sorting the wheat from the chaff so to speak.. good luck though Steph.. whatever you choose to do

RE: Help me out here!

I agree... communicate.. be upfront... tell her that you like her and would like to give it a go, and ask her out straight if she feels she needs time, and that you can give it to her if needs be, and also say to her that it makes you feel uncomfortable talking about ex's... with all the cards on the table at least you will both know where you stand...

Everyone is going to have an ex (unless you are like 12 or 13) so fact of life.. its just that some people are more open about talking to them... so I wouldn't write someone off.. just cause of that JMO

RE: Have you ever

I hope you can sort things out honey.... give him his space though... guys are different to us in that respect.. when we have something on our mind... we need to talk about it to anyone who is willing to listen... when they do they need space to think.. also guys need to know that they miss you in order to clarify their feelings... give him a little space, if he feels the same way he will realise it and come back to you..

RE: Happy Birtday to the Prince of Peace.

Really lovely photo Chris..

RE: Happy Birtday to the Prince of Peace.

Prince of Peace??? do people actually refer to him as this?

RE: marriage ??

We are just gonna have to agree to disagree on this one sweetie... gotta hit the hay... nearly 4am here... nite, nite

RE: marriage ??

I'm sure ur kid is a lil angel... nothing wrong about that

RE: marriage ??

Well I agree with you there Kid... people have to go INTO marriage in the first place with a sincere and genuine intention to commit in the real sense.. its not a game.. well not to me anyway... If I ever do get married.. which tbh probably not... it will ONLY be with someone that I genuinely want to spend the rest of my life with.. now I know I can't tell the future etc.. but the intention will definitely have to be there... as to living with someone first.. no way.. unfortunately.. been there bought the t-shirt..

RE: Why do men not want to get married any more?

You are right. My recent ex-fiance and I went through this with his ex-wife. She used to call me @ my house and tell me what my fiance and I would do and not do and if he didn't do as she said he would not see the children.

She assaulted me when we went to pick up the kids once - I was stunned one second there is an excited little boy jumping up and dow beside the car while his dad is introducing me and then she starts yanking me out of the car by the hair with her son between us and his sister screaming .. . AND during all that time she was living with another guy and pregnant by him too!!!!!

There was no excuse for that. they were in the middle of a divorce when he and I met. Divorced when we went to get the kids.

My ex-fiance's mother told me it would be that way with any one b/c She didn't want him but didn't want anyone else to be in his life either.

She still causes him so much drama today. That is one thing I won't miss. I never did that with my ex- husband. I loved him so much I wanted him to be happy so I let him go.

I commend your attitute... and I admire the way that you can be happy for your ex... people aren't possessions... end of... My parents seperated some years ago and I have to hand it to them.. it was the most amicable parting in history.. .there wasn't even a piece of paper signed.. they just talked it out, made the necessary arrangements and got on with it.... so much better that way... I also love the way my Mum has never said a bad word against dad.. ya know cause at the end of the day his is still my dad.. in fact all she has to say is good things about him really... makes me wonder why they even split some times

RE: What are the three "nevers" of your life?

Never date a married man

Never do heroine

Never..... betray a loved one...

RE: Why do men not want to get married any more?

I know!!!



Though having said that, I don't really care either way at the mo.. quite content to never marry tbh.... the standard of guys that I meet generally... can't be bothered.... where are the real men gone???

RE: marriage ??

I agree 100%... living together is like playing house without the commitment... relationships... any relationships even family and friends requires commitment and work, having a situation whereby you can walk away without really trying to make it work, is a recipe for disaster, and is detrimental to any hope of future success... been there bought the t-shirt....

Any marriage that is worth its salt has survived conflict of some sort, some of the best marriages I know have survived all sorts of things including infidelity, financial struggle.. etc... these are the marriages that work.. why do people not want to make the effort any more.... when you marry someone, they become like a member of your family.. you become a new family... if I were to turn my back every time a member of my family have pissed me off over the years I dread to think.. unconditional love... thats what its all about.. none of us are a piece of cake when you think about it.. JMO

Catholism, Mary and 'False Gods'..

Jesus desires that we develop a personal relationship with God (through him), this is achieved not by intercession of any other individual... try praying to Jesus/God... I have never said anything bad about Mary (have a look at my posts) she is indeed blessed among women, of all the prophets and saints her annointing was the most significant and most important in history, to have chosen her is very significant indeed.

I of course ask others for prayer from time to time, it is said in the Bible that when two or more persons are gathered in prayer, that prayer is more powerful. But these individuals are not praying to anyone else but God...

Ok tell me this.. why do you require Mary to pray to God on your behalf? Can you not pray to God yourself? that is better surely and more in keeping with what Jesus asks of us, I know you love Jesus, that is clear from your post.. so why bypass him..? I just don't see the point.. I also reckon that if we were required to pray to Mary, or if it were Gods intention that we pray to anyone but him (through Jesus) then he would have said it.. in plain black and white, but he hasn't, in fact he has plainly said the opposite...

Now.. It is clear that you are a man of faith... and have a desire to get closer to God.. why not therefore do as he says... We indeed (when we accept Lord Jesus Christ our Saviour) receive the gifts of the Holy Spirit, I myself have received a few.... if you have been gifted in such a way, ask the Lord for confirmation on what he wants you to do, the Holy Spirit will quide you to the relevant passage in the Bible.... Just ask and you will receive enlightenment.. this will take the form of a 'word' i.e a compulsion to look at a particular chapter... or an action.. randomly landing on a page... when you do that, something will resonate in your heart, and you will know that you are being spoken to.. try it.. see what happens..

Anyway.. no hard feelings you seem like a sound spiritual person, and I know that your views are heartfelt and sincere

Catholism, Mary and 'False Gods'..

Just looking up some of the Marian prophesies there... none (so far) have come true.. if indeed these were genuine visitations of some sort, who ever it was, was not of God.. God doesn't get it wrong, prophets are merely messengers of God...

Catholism, Mary and 'False Gods'..

The Bible critisises the very type of behaviour you mention, and it criticises hypocricy, religious zealousness (Pharisees e.g.) and it emphasises that there is one God for all, and believe it or not it mentions a church without walls, churches were never meant to be the institutional things that they became.. church was intended to be a collection of people with a common desire to worship God, the simple message of the new testament is love God, love your neighbour and keep the commandments.. Jesus' role was to lead us.. mainly by example..and to show us the way...so the Bible, if it was intended to manipulate the masses for the benefit of the powerful few, it didn't succeed.. what the powerful few did manage to succeed in doing however was re-inventing God's law, confusing people and hiding and misinterpreting the truth for them...

I agree with you on many things though B.. I agree that there is one God for all.. I just wish Religions would keep there noses out of his business and let the rest of us find the truth.. as to our sole capacity to achieve what is expected of us in God's eyes?... we have made a pretty awful job of it so far haven't we? with or without religion.. we are led mainly by selfish interest, and where we are confused, or have little or no spiritual base.. the chances of us getting it right or greatly reduced.. people should aim to have a personal relationship with God and keep the rules simple...

Anyway B... you are closer to the truth than many others..

Catholism, Mary and 'False Gods'..

With the Catholic church clearly anything is possible including re-inventing Christianity in accordance with its own agenda and basing it (among other things)on some dubious 'visitations'.. and alleged documents and studies which have never been made publically available.. so yeah.. anything is possible...

Catholism, Mary and 'False Gods'..

Hi B... my assertions are based on the Bible and the Bible alone, Catholic dogma is based on alleged writings and studies based on materials which nobody has access to... the powers that be, made up their own doctrine, a doctrine which was not based on any publicly available document... the whole Mary thing was fired up by these alleged 'visitations' which the Catholic held out to be genuine.. these were never prophesised in the Bible.. as Jesus and John the Babtist and many other key events in history, including events which are said to happen to the future..

I base my beliefs on the Bible... which I assume to be the word of God (now whether you accept it as the word of God is another argument) but at least it is based on something...

The Catholic church.. from their shiney gold and jewel encrusted pulpit have unilaterally rewritten God's law so to speak, and they require their congregation to conform to rules and practices which have no scriptural basis.. I chose to accept the Bible and its contents and I chose to worship in the way that it (and only it subscribes)now while I do not know the mysteries of the universe, in the same way that no other living being does, at least I chose to base the practice of my faith on the Book which represents the foundation of this faith... phew!!

Catholism, Mary and 'False Gods'..

I must look it up... though I have to say, I thought that given Mary and St Peter's role in history, their saint status was presumed i.e. no formal process...

Catholism, Mary and 'False Gods'..

Following various alleged supernatural 'visitations' the Mary theme gathered momentum over the years... that has partly contributed to it.. also.. to pray for intercession through Mary (which according to scripture you can only do through Jesus John 14:6) is to place Mary in a place where Jesus should be, and given that Jesus is was the son of God (the human manifestation of God) that places Mary in a place where only God should be.. so yeah.. it is treating her as a God... we are not to pray to anyone but God (through Jesus)... that is what the Bible says.. the Bible is my source.. I am not saying this for the fun of it, I am not making it up.. and No.. It is not because I hate Catholics.. I just want all Catholics to realise that what they are doing is not scriptural, they are mislead.. to their spiritual detriment.. in a way that is contrary to truth.. that's all.. you a devout Catholic then?

Catholism, Mary and 'False Gods'..

Ok... forgot to ask in the last post.. can you please point out where exactly it says that we are to pray through Mary to reach God.... Jesus said himself, no one comes to the father except through me'John 14:6.... he is 'the way, the thruth and the life'.. this is repeated many times through the Bible... have to research the exact passages for you.. and I will.... each and every one of them, while I am doing that, please do me the curtesy of locating the passage in the Bible where it says pray to Mary.... there isn't any that I am aware of.. but perhaps you can enlighten me..

Catholism, Mary and 'False Gods'..

I know!!! he is referring I think about the comment that Jesus made to Peter, telling him that he would be the rock upon which he would build his church etc... but Jesus also said that churches were to be without walls, that is part of the symbolism of the falling of the Temple.. a church is to be a body of people united in their beliefs and united in worship.. NOT opulent and powerful heirarchies.. good grief!! am going to have to do my research on Peter now .... I'm tired.. you don't perhaps know do you? maybe you could enlighten him... I'm wary at this stage