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"Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Good luck Jeepers.
I wish you the best.

RE: "Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

"Friendship and love have very different energies though."



What a great combination that would be eh ?
Maybe one day this will happen. I will keep the faith. Nothing else one can do.

Why Are Women More Affectionate Than Men

Hi! This article is not about me! I get your drift though. I have met many nice people. I'm a blogger on a gossip site and I get questions like this a lot. That's why I posted a blog about it here from my site. It is true that the article can apply to anybody. Thanks for your comment!

RE: Are you a control freak or know one?

Hi Marie,

I was so very happy to read your article! I've just been here for a few days but I already experienced a thing you so well put to words. I feel lonely, as I believe most of us do, and after recieving some flowers and mail, I started to communicate with a guy I really liked. He does not know me at all but already feels free to ask me so many questions related to my past and present relationships. It got me so sad, although I am aware that it is not rational. It's just like you said: during our conversations I felt even more lonely than I was before we started to chat because those questions made me very tired and pessimistic. I have been out of a 5 year relationship that almost ended in marriage and now it seems like I'm just drifting, carried away by some alien, blind and unfriendly force.
Your post is very useful and I hope that all the people out there should find the strenght to erase this negativity from their lives (myself included).
Thanks and good luck!

RE: Do You Know Who St. Patrick Was?

St Patrics day is a public holiday in England . But celebrated on the 18th of March not the 17th ....

This is because so much Guinness is comsumed on the 17th know one is fit for work the next day ..

"Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Hello nitrus,
you say that you went out first with those women but for one reason or another you are just friends now. It would be interesting if you could share any of those reasons if it´s not too personal of course.
You sound like a very balanced man. Nice to meet you.

"Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Merci cherif.
I agree, those friends are really special and very few.

"Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

I see your point karlovonamesti.
I guess every situation is different and we all react differently, depending on our past experiences, self-esteem and trust-comunication we have with each other, either friends or lovers.

Thank you for your input.

RE: The Danger in Dating a Control Freak

Not to bad an article ,,human issues etc , but like one person on here said it isnt exclusive to just the males ..

Seen some females who get ill treated yet seem to rellish in it ,God knows why ? ? ? Seen others move on , and rightly so ! ! !
There male partner being an a** Hole..

But there are females also that are a** Holes ,,

Ive lived with 2 in the last 10 years and eventualy although it was heart renching for me , i got rid ,, hurt like hell but some of us , both male and female have got to see the light of day and move on ... Someone on here said iff they abuse themselves then they will abuse others ,, i think i have to agree ...

Thanks for the read ..

RE: My Explorations - Human Nature...as I see...(2)

The World is in Chaos and the people in charge , well what can i say ,, ?

There just looking after there own interests not ours..

RE: How to Dress to Attract a Man: A Guide for Women over 40

Havnt wread to much of this article but got the jist ,,

Obviously its talking about the Female of the Species , in this case , but the most attractive part of someones dress sense is class , not what they dress like , that helps in a small way ,, but iff theyve got class ,, AND i aint talkin money , or dress sense ..Ive seen PIGS IN SUITES , PIGS ON CAT WALKS .

No offense to the Author ,, maybe im out of order but to me clothes may help in some way i agree ,, but like i said ,, lovely clothes on a Pig is a waste ..

RE: How to Dress to Attract a Man: A Guide for Women over 40

Havnt wread to much of this article but got the jist ,,

Obviously its talking about the Female of the Species , in this case , but the most attractive part of someones dress sense is class , not what they dress like , that helps in a small way ,, but iff theyve got class ,, AND i aint talkin money , or dress sense ..Ive seen PIGS IN SUITES , PIGS ON CAT WALKS .

No offense to the Author ,, maybe im out of order but to me clothes may help in some way i agree ,, but like i said ,, lovely clothes on a Pig is a waste ..

RE: Why Are Women More Affectionate Than Men

Hi , answer to your topic , you must have been meeting the wrong people now and again , just like we all do now and again ,, but i get your general drift ,, i know what you mean ..

There loss not ours ... x

RE: "Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Speaking for myself yes.I have made a few friends that i did go out with but for one reason or another we are just friends and yes I talk to them just about everyday.and i do love women but at the same time I am faithful.most of my friends are women and I love it.

"Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Ok, Mr. Jeepers. I see your point.
Frienship and love have very different energies though.
I agree that love grows from friendship. But what happens long term is unfortunatly very different. Just see how many couples dissolve and end up hating each others guts. On the other hand, I truely beleive in friends forever. I guess intimacy comes so very early on that people don´t take the time to know each other well,be friends, and then best friends.
Thank you again for your post

RE: "Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

yes that can be but only with some special people

"Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Hola paloma, I thank you for writing you comment. I also think that CS is a great place to meet people from far away and have a close friendship. I guess both, man and woman must have same intentions not to cross the line.
Thank you agian, dear

"Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Hello bingo, You can consider yourself a lucky guy.
Not only one but a few lady friends. Great for you!

RE: "Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Okay Ms.colibri,
Let's say I make a best friend here....a best friend forever. In my dreams, my ideal match would also be my best friend. You can only have one best friend. When is a best fried no longer a best friend if you find someone you want to spend your life with, or how can you find that special best friend when you have a best friend ?

Two best friends ?

RE: "Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Dear azul colibri.....from my experience on CS,this is no myth to me I have met some very decent males,Rob,for one is a very decent friend,I go to him for advice when there's a problem & he so sweetly finds a solution,we are just good poet friends,there are others too who have been in touch for quite sometime and we have a good healthy rapport.So it is possible my dear.Thanks for this interesting article.

RE: "Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

i am a 56 year old male who has had woman friends since i was 20 and they are still my friends a couple of tem are very good friends but it never has gone any further and wont from Alistair

"Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Hi jonnt,
I alway say it myself. Respect is the only way to go.
Nice to see you again.

RE: "Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Hope im going to talk a little sense tonite ,, been busy all day ,little sleep last nite ,, freezin now in front of p.c.and brain aint workin to well tonite ,, so this is going to be all higgily piggily ,,

Come out of a happy relationship of 24 yrs 10yrs ago ,
In that time have had 1 or 2 live in partners ,, all attracted by me and also my lifestyle {not a lot of money but Music }
I could get a few more iff i wanted ,, Not being Concieted but look at the Props ,, Music AND the Alchohol , and whatever they also maybe getting off on ?. So yes , things could be favourable !,,

Thing is to me ,i love the music , but the rest is just a superficial road an empty space of no significance that i personaly dont choose to go down .
Not for any religious reason or whats rite or wrong ,,but for ME REASONS ,, MAYBE THATS BECAUSE IM ME ? The way we are all made, we are all made different ...
TO me to treat things without respect is to treat your own self without respect ,,

Ihope im facing up the hill iff only a little, and hopefully not down it ?

"Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Hello jonnt,
You can say that again!
Thank you

"Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Hi jonathan,
I don´t really think it´s a conscious or subconscious matter. For me it´s more a chemical(hormonal)one and personality too.

I ask you the same question I asked Lonely1,
what if that woman is ugly, would you still do it? consciously of course, don´t tell me "yes, after a few drinks".

Thank you for your post.

"Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Thank you Lonely1 for sharing your opinion.
Your input on the subjet has really made me wonder. I guess there is always the possibility of crossing that boundry in a special situation, maybe when one on them is going though a difficult time. That is why I posted this thread.
I don´t know how I would react myself. It would depend on the relationship I have with the other person.

"I must admit that as a man if I had a gorgeous female for a friend, I would try to xxxx her at some point."
That I understand.But, what if the girl is not gorgeous at all, would you still do it?

RE: "Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

Some Men and some Women can think above the kneck ''

Some Men and some Women cannot ..

Simple

RE: "Just friends" between a man and a women: myth or reality?

complete myth!!...millions of years of evolution tells us its fuking impossible...there's always a hidden agenda...did i say ALWAYS!!!! weather its admitted or not by the man,he,s subconscious brain is always more clever than the conscious part..and its in the sub were the evolution stays and influences..do you think its going to be overridden by a mans desire to be friends,or if he thinks hes actually friends with a woman??...c*m on now,to even ask a question is fairly rediculous, bordering on if not passing out THICKNESS!!..No such thing as being friends,cos at the drop of a hat he,ll carryout or at least try what hes being thinking since he knows ya..whoever the"ya"ma be...hope i was of help in this matter....

RE: We Are All Born with Psychic Ability !

so nice your article! indeed all people has it but very few pays attention to it i owe so much to mine i try to listen to it when ever ii talks to me greetings from greece!

RE: The Danger in Dating a Control Freak

i did not just date him i married him and stayed with him for 23 years being treated like a possesion and only allowed to go wher he thought i should go. when he started to try and controll the children who were then becoming adults i knew it was time to go. I walked after that length of time with 2 suitcases after giving a life time of building a home paying for it and everything else. after nearly 2 years i am finally getting my life back on track after a lot of help. He did not just destroy me but also my oldest son may god forgive him because i never will.If u are in that situation dont just walk away run.

RE: The Danger in Dating a Control Freak

Hello,dear readers.
I have to say,that pressing and control is the only way to keep the partner in his or her hands,when a partner isnt perfect himself.He/she is afraid of losing a good and creative partner,
who has social life,friends,interests.
Lasy,stupid,helpless losers all are agressive controlers.
My ex-husband controled me even in toilet,when i had a smoke,
and opened the door of my classroom,when i was giving a lesson.
Never let them to manipulate your life. First,make them to
respect you,if not ,let them go out.
These situations happen,when people are of different levels.
Be happy!
Nobody has the right to hurt his partner.

RE: The Danger in Dating a Control Freak

Too many times we deny the actions when we should be looking at them. I dont go by what someone says if their actions dont' equal their words.