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RE: Five Easy Ways to Reduce Your Caffeine Intake
Early to bed and early to rise... Makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.From experience, if I go to bed before 10 pm, I wake up at 3:30-4-5 am with no alarm and need no caffeine to start my day on an exciting and productive note.
RE: How to make Long distance relationships work
yeah i agree with u that trust,patience and honesty are the basic foundation of having LDRs to last..its really hard thu but nothing comes easy if u want to achieve something in the future..RE: Phoenix Rising
Can you please give me the name of the book you mention? I'd like to read it.
RE: How to make Long distance relationships work
Long Dis Relationships - Starts with exchange of e-mails and msgs. Some friends will ask to come out of CS on some other site to talk or chat.Many will start asking favours like tickets to visit or money to buy the ticket. In such cases one should avoid the person next time. I follow CS's advice in this matter.
Another phenomenon is that the person starts talking and then sometimes takes the call other time dont, which is not fair.
At the start writes two mails each day and later it reduced to one or neither one in two days.
So, my experience is that Long Dist Relationship takes a very long time to flourish.
fish
RE: Don’t Lose your Identity in a Relationship
100% Agree..You are Right..........! thanks for such a nice ArticleRE: Why Most Men Get Scammed!!!
mayor uve got a strong traditional values..kudos to u..RE: What makes a man a Gentleman???????????
It's so nice to see a gentlemen, these days. Because, there isn't too many of them around. I've came across a few.It's not like along time ago, around my grandparents days.
I think it's about time guys should do this a more often.
RE: The Chase
i wonder if your friend list "honesty" as one her attributes.being not a real good looking guy, i will email them once, and maybe once again a week later, but i am not afraid of asking a question or two, esp when their profile is skinny.
but if one is looking for a partnership, as opposed to some one begging, i don't believe her way would be the right way to arrive at a partnership.
some where in the distant past, pbs, put on a 1/2 hour little documentary, and the gist of it was that the person who is the "lessor" partner generally gets resentful, and then it fails. in my observation of mine and others it does seem to work that way.
obviously i like your approach.
steve
RE: The Chase
Well hi,i read your article.let me tell you some thing,to come to the point after with..i am trying to find some real interested female for long term relationship in various dating website from a a period...But mostly i found the scams people from Nigeria or Africa countries...!
People are gaming others.....here involve male and female both,but i will agree with you that it's really really unfair to play with some one feelings...
I really appreciate this website of dating,that they mentioned all the possible trick of Scams to be avoid from there and make your self safe...
but here same like others have already scams,but we have to pointed them and safe this place
I have a suggestion: If with mail of the user could send the ip of his computer or his ISP,so it's would be a bit easy to know the person that how he is true on his/her words....
Thank you my friend
Jimmy Khan
Athens Greece
+306956468522
RE: loves 13 branches
Yes, these are beautiful things to have... and learn. Seems we aren't born knowing; we learn along the way. And people seem to be at so many different points on the way... for many reasons.Which is why I think this is a fantastic article. You have some wonderful insights. A lot of us can learn at least one thing, if not several from your writing.
One insight that esp. stands out is this - Listen: letting her words and thoughts be given value ..in paying attention to detail. So true, so important, and means so much.
That you realize this & so eloquently put into words is just amazing to me.
This is a GREAT article. Thank you for writing it.
RE: How to make Long distance relationships work
It works.To me. and we start as a friend. we met on other dating site. and since i joined this (as i suggest him as well) and i met some others man from CS, but not work well (they never send me email, chat or teks messages anymore) after we may chat for two weeks example, then he said (my friend) why not us? trying to have relationship?. i was shock. i never though of this. since we are so open about our routine and our story. He said : I began to knew you, i feel comfort about you, and i think i had enough to search girl like you did on man too. But since two month, i feel something about you and bit worried to tell you at first time. But i think better i ask you now, then i knew what you think, as you still not success your self to find a man.
so i said to him on that day chat, i will be right back, and sign off for 2 hours, he still there, then i said are you serious?. he said yes. then i said yes too.
I dont ask him to much questioned about his decision, as i knew his story and we talk openly about us, our daily routine and our problem, our sadness, our happiness. he was my good friend over net, so i feel comfort to tell him openly and honestly. and now, we are in relation, we still talk openly and honestly. just like a before. as that what we plan. He will come to Indonesia soon. we have chat over the webcam. and phone now. I hope he have no delay to come here.
By the way, he had a girlfriend from Indonesia as well on 2002, and he came to indonesia to met her. But he said it wont work with his previous girl. and he didn't believe with LDRs, even when first he met me and we become friend and chat for at least 6 month now. only after i joined CS for two month, then he feel start to believe in LDRs again.
GREAT POST. I always believe in everything if we have a positive thinking and good trustful communication.
RE: How to make Long distance relationships work
its very hard but trust is the key!RE: How to make Long distance relationships work
hi i do believe in all those thingsthank you for putting it up there
although some may have there doubvts
bout long distance it just might work.
ive been on dates .they never really worked
maybe i didnt give time to get to know.
so im gonna try long distance and see
how it goes
thanx
RE: How to make Long distance relationships work
Long distance relationships just don't work.RE: Just DON'T Do It
I agree with you, with what you post here. Life is too short to be stupid and stupidity. i did just a year, then move forward as one friend of mine get fallen her self into drugs and suffers...i wont be like her. my life is more valued when i can laugh then EX see me i still can laugh happily even though stars not yet shining on me. But now, i woke up again, with more big giggles on my face as i am survived with his kid. And he the one who email me, begging whether the kid need him to come back to our life again...well...who need who?. Good posted. I love it. I found my half soul in New Jersey now...RE: Some women can be as bad as some of the men!!!
It must have been very tough on you when you found out but it is better to let her go. The outcome later on down the road could have been very....how should we say it....painful if the husband had found out. I'm sure she went right out and found someone else to "play with" after you dumped her. More power to her but I am a firm believer in "what goes around comes around." She will no doubt pay the price one day. Good luck in finding a lady who truly likes you and doesn't play games.
RE: Some women can be as bad as some of the men!!!
I'm sorry you had to go through that!.. You did the right thing to stop seeing her. The woman should have got a divorce or at least filed for one before using a dating site!This goes to show that all of us must be truthful in our profiles. You don't have to tell your life story but, be truthful about your motives, age, weight and height. The rest of your life can wait to tell to the right person...
RE: Some women can be as bad as some of the men!!!
It is sad when we are deceived by someone we come to care about. You can't let it ruin your future relationships. As true as it is that women can be as bad as men, you have to keep the faith.
RE: Rejection...dont give up.
your article is making me feel better, it puts things into perspective. i learned stuff i did wrong and how my insecurities played a role also. thanxmonica
RE: What Do You Do After Making Love To Your Woman?
Hey gymrat, you are remarkable!!!!! I love your response and the way it was said. Right On!!!! Love you sweetie! Keep up the good work!RE: Just DON'T Do It
Very good post. I know that when I was served with divorce papers and had to go through the agonizing pain of watching the world I knew go tumbling into oblivian, I thought of many ways of getting even with her. But then two things came to mind. 1. The divorce might not have happened if we had done a few things differently but both of us were mule headed and didn't want to talk about it. 2. I knew that if I did something dirty and illegal that I might be creating an unwanted relationship with my new friend "Bubba" down at the city jail. All I can say is what was said...let it go and learn something from all the pain you went through. You'll be a lot happier and a better person for doing so.
RE: Why are men saying many women play mind games online????
I read your profile, and wanted to send you an email.I was told I am blocked due to my age and location.
Fair enough.
You said you were a passionate woman; I love it when someone so passionately does not desire to hear from me.
Fair enough.
I just wanted to quote a line from an Edie Brickell song:
"Philosophy... is talk on a cereal box,
Religion... is a light in the fog.
"Philosophy... is a walk on a slippery rock
Religion... is a smile on a dog."
I don't know why these four lines always make my eyes misty. I guess their power of truth.
The other thing I wanted to say was the mighty ducks group photo.
Oh, and that I worked as a cashier for a passenger-ferry boats company. Our name was "Ferry Docks", and I always put the name on the deposit slip for the day's take as "Ferry Dogs". Nobody ever reprimanded me for it. Maybe everyone just more interested in the money beside the deposit slip than in my budding literary creativitism.
RE: Why are men saying many women play mind games online????
I loved your literary grammar. "A few"... and a plural case for the verb. Many other examples in your main text. The "I'm a women" I chalked up to its being a typo.Why are men saying women play games? I am not a man, and I still don't know why people say that. I think it's the ease of expression that is so attractive about it. No two women play games the same way, and they don't play games in the first place. Those who play games are scammers and Goddesses. (Try to get a straight word out of God just once, and you'll see what I mean. The New Testament has more games-playing by the inspirator than all the women could on this site -- why the parbles? Why the temporal relevance? Why the need to interpret every statement? Is it complexity that makes us wonder at the Bible? I hardly think so. Complexity can be sorted out. Stupidity and incoherent compostition can't. So infinite complexity and incoherence have one thing in common: Hopelessly incomprehensibilty by man.)
What I mean is that to say "women play games" is a perfect umbrella expression to say "I'm too poor, fat, ugly and old to intgerest women. At first they act interested, but eventually they retract all the promises while they were still (falsely) believing I was nice, debonair and intelligent." Men can't say that, really, can they now. So they say "women play games". To the point, completely meaningless, and everyone understands it.
It's time we stood up, over our heads, and being over the overstanding, we won't be understanding to people who are in over their own heads with their lies.
RE: What makes a man a Gentleman???????????
THANKS FOR READING MY RED RUBIES--- THE PRICE OF A VIRTOUS WOMAN IS FAR ABOVE RUBIES! PROVERBS 31= LOVE AND MAKING LOVE IS SACRED AND PRIVATE- KEEP IT THAT WAY! PRIVACY IS HONORABLE AND KEEPS THE DEVIL OUT OF THE PICTURE!!!!--PTOTECT EACH OTHERS HEARTS AND FEELINGS-- I DO AND I WILL!!!RE: 10 Reasons to Avoid Dating a Married Man
Ten reasons to date a married man:1. He is not desparate, which means he doesn't act desparate. He makes up for the woman's loss of social respectability by being and acting dignified.
2. He is well fed, but not fat. He does not live on beer and pizza, and he has no visible signs, either physical or behavioural, of starvation syndrome on long week-end Mondays.
3. He knows how to please a woman. Any man who doesn't, is not married. Pre, post, or widowed, but never married.
4. The married man has a good job and lives a respectable social lifestyle.
5. He looks elagant. His wife's taste touches off on him. He won't come to a date with unshaven hair and a dirty tee. Or in his underwear on a hot day.
6. More imporantly than being elegant, he is clean. No days-old reeking of under-foreskin odour. No jam between toes. Never. He is... clean.
7. If the woman does not tell her mother or her girlfriends, or people at work that her boyfriend is married to another woman, then nobody will find out. He is not going to tell. I wouldn't think he would. So the dater woman does not risk at all any sort of reputational damage if she can keep her clapper shut. I know it's impossible to do, I am asking for too much, but don't blame the nice man for your inability to keep a secret.
8. The married man drives safely.
9. The married man gives to beggars and leaves huge tips to service personnella.
10. The married man is the last one to cheat on you. A cheater is a man who is commited to you, and has a lover on the side. In this definition, he can't cheat on you. He is cheating WITH you, so there is no chance in hell he will cheat on you. Try anything else, you stupid goose who put up the post in the name of Connecting Singles: Try marriage, resepectable lifestyle, virgin til you keal over, and your lovers will always cheat on you. Not him, not the married guy.
RE: Corporate Courtship: A Man’s Guide for Dating Professional Women
I agree with three of your four points.The working professional woman of high calibre is busy, and her schedule's fullness, her battle-gear behavioural get-up at her place of employment, and her precious five minutes off the suits and out of the suit must all be absol-lutely respected. I respect a woman who can do all that for a promotion and a whatever. Men too. It's not me.
But please don't ask me not to ask her for money. If I am not allowed to do that, what's the point? Two and a half minutes of her time each month? Because her even more private life than her life with me, with her partner, chews up the other two-and-a-half minutes?
I can't call her at work... I can't drop in and goose her at her desk... I can't even look up at her window at night.
So fer crying out loud, at least I should have access to some of her money.
If not, she can go use her precious time for darning some socks or knitting two lines in a sweater each month until Christmas.
But whom can she give the sweater to when it's finished? That is YOUR question to answer, my dear young lady writer.
RE: The Chase
I have another thought about your plight. First I tell you the conclusion:Do as you please.
Reason: men only look simple and uncomplicated. But they are humans, too, and as such, are completely unpredictable (with my being a sole exception. ALL women who've known me've called me predictable.)
So to scheem... is futile. You may be doing the right thing by the scheem, or the wrong thing. You may be doing the right thing by following your natural moral urges, or the wrong thing. "Right" and "wrong" being defined as "the thing that hooks him" or "the thing he will reject you for", respectively.
There is no telling ahead of time.
The only thing that will help you case is to look attractive. Everything else are reductive reasons to stop him from rejecting you.
If he finds you attractive, but you are too smart for his liking, he will reject you. If he finds you attractive, but you are too rich for his taste, he will reject you. Etc.
You can be all he ever wanted, or less, all the way down to all he ever wanted to not have, in small graduated steps on the scale of suitability; but if he doesn't like your looks, he will never bother with you.
In conlcusion, you're right, inasmuch as playing games is childish. On the other hand, you have no assurance whether playing games will help your cause or destroy your chances. It could go either way.
RE: ScamProof from Root
Let me add my two-penny's worth.I know that women are sometimes genuinely not interested in a man, but sometimes it makes me wonder why I didn't get responses from some of the women on this site, especially if my message is deleted UNREAD. When I reply to profiles, sometimes I wonder:
- Will she think I'm fake?
- Will she think I'm someone in some African country pretending to be in London, England?
- Is she fed-up of hearing of scams or being on the receiving end of scams that she doesn't want anything to do with black men?
- Is this a scammer pretending to be a genuine woman? (It's a blessing in disguise if these don't reply)
Despite those concerns/obstacles, I still write with a positive attitude, believing that somewhere out there is that wonderful woman also looking for me and one day soon we will meet. Perhaps not on this site, but we will definitely meet.
Yes it's also occured to me that some of you reading this post are probably wondering, "is he for real or a scammer?"
Or am I now getting paranoid? :-)
Whatever happened to the days of boy meets girl, boy & girl love each other, boy & girl get married and face the challenges of life together as one?
RE: ScamProof from Root
Why waste your time spotting scammers and annoying them when you can spend that time actually communicating with genuine people?RE: 10 Reasons to Avoid Dating a Married Man
This ridiculous article reminds me of that joke..."Baby, you know how I feel about you...I love you!"
"But what about your wife?"
"Ahh, she thinks you're a tramp."
RE: What makes a man a Gentleman???????????
very interesting, it's sad to see something as simple as basic manners and politeness not being put in action, it makes all the difference
RE: Five Easy Ways to Reduce Your Caffeine Intake
I used to wonder why I could not sleep at nights, even when I went to bed early.