Family drama that can't be avoided
I'm living my dream. I retired from my job of 20 years in Orlando in April to move to Tampa just 2 miles from my folks. I wanted to be a helping hand but before the accident they didn't need me too much, now they do.Mom fell last week at a doctor's office during a stress test. She was sent to hospital by ambulance ($$). Turns out she dislocated her should which they had to pop back in, a giant hemotoma the size of a grapefruit on her hip and a huge gash on her leg.
I'm upset that someone didn't assist an 82 yr old woman with Parkinson's off the x-ray chair and into the other room they were sending her. Without assistance she fell and has been in horrible agony since. I contacted the most advertsied "slip & fall" attorney, Morgan & Morgan only to find out they don't want the case. I called the FL State Bar for another referral and will deal with that Monday. Mom may not want to sue because she is afraid she won't be able to see her beloved doctor.
As luck would have it my 28 yr old nephew, their grandson is staying with the folks temporarily so between the both of us it's good.
However after 9 days of hardly any sleep I have brain fog and have come home to spend one night in my own bed. With Dad's wandering mind, the challenges are interesting in what he does and doesn't remember but he is still good at barking orders. I'm still bad at getting frustrated instead of just agreeing and letting it go.
Since I'm so blessed to still have my folks. I tried hard to get from Orlando to Tampa but was more loyal to my job. Luckily my bossed pushed the issue of me retiring and let me go slowly by taking duties away over the last two years. I made it to Tampa 8 months ago and as hard as this job is, caring for one's parents, I'm still thankful to have them.
I'm not the best care taker because I'm clueless but I'm open to new experiences. Wish me luck.
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Try to take as many breaks from it as you can, whenever you can. Even short breaks. Go for walks, go to the cinema etc. Anything to give your brain a break.
We must remember, that our parents did lots of things daily to overcome challenges & frustrations in raising us. This is our way of partially paying them back for their patience, care and stamina involved in raising us.
I think it did me good therapy to write it off my chest. Thanks again.
Smiles and be nice to someone
Reading that made me queasy...
Sorry to hear such bad news.
As for your care of your parents, you're a good person.
also brought quarrels amongst brothers and sisters
not easy