Can It Be Coincidence?
I have never applied a set of criteria when meeting a new woman. Well, at least so I thought until I took stock the other day.
I was married twice and had a few longish relationships. I was astonished when I realized how similar the women in my life were. I can include any lady who lasted more than 3 months in my statistics and come up with the same staggering similarities.
None of them smoked. All used alcohol very sparingly.
All were very neat both on their bodies and in their homes.
All were financially independent. Most were fairly honest.
None were exactly illiterate. None had exceptional academic qualifications.
All could type well. Most were computer literate.
All were intelligent, level-headed and rational women
None were blond – don’t ask me why, this was a shocker to me.
They all followed sport and could recognize individual players.
None were very religious but did go to church from time to time
All were easy going as I am. None were naggers.
Few of them looked at a lot of TV. Most of them liked reading.
All of them were kind hearted and cared about the sick and the poor.
None were obese or skinny. All were more or less cuddly.
None were really big breasted. All were 3-5 inches shorter than me.
All enjoyed fairly good health. All liked the outdoor life. None got seasick.
Most were outspoken and called a spade a spade.
Most were good conversationalists. None were introverts.
All had a good sense of humor. All could laugh at themselves.
None liked dancing. Most preferred seafood as a favorite dish
None got angry very easily. None were very moody.
Most were at least 25% younger than me at the start of the relationship.
None were the only child. Most were the eldest child.
Most could drive a car. Few possessed a car. Few possessed a house.
None ever went to gym. None ever had a ladies night out.
Few of them cooked well. All could pour a decent brandy.
None suffered from chronic headache.
So maybe I do apply a check list after all. Only I never realized it. Am I alone in this or are you like it as well?
Comments (51)
~DAN~
It is good to have somebody dedicated in your life. But when you get old as I am you start wondering what went wrong with all those relationships starting off good.
They were all women.
Yes that is a similarity I did not even think of.
Yes about.
And then I did not even think much about similar bad qualities. Believe me, they had the same shortcomings too.
We are looking for our mirror. A person who can reflect ours.
Just an opinion.
Most were at least 25% younger than me at the start of the relationship
I wonder what happened with them at the end of relationship?
i just wondered why it took me so long to realize it. And all those not meeting these criteria were filtered out within three months. Some of them were really good woman with very good other points.
Of course I sure I was filtered out of a few equations too.
I remembered having quite a "discussion " on the forums as I wasn`t agreeing with the ladies night out...
Yes, probably a checklist imbedded in our brains which is applied subconsciously.
Re the mathematics: Refer to my reply to Smartasss.
The percentage difference do change as we age together.
If two persons are aged 2 and 1 the first is 100 % older than the second but when they get to be 50 and 49 respectively the else is only 2 % older.
Simple elementary mathematics we learn in primary school.
Ps....
I learnt to cook up a storm, love an Irish coffee, originate from your valley and I an not the jealous type or nagging. I guess I rate "8" on a scale from 1 - 10..
Without a past there can me no future. We must learn from our past not to make the same mistakes in future. We dare not forget the past.
But there is only four of them I have been trough all long term but two. The last one, I met here, almost three years ago. the shortest term, yet the most endearing and truest of what love made me feel. To a point where, I claimed and declared and perhaps will not change, that it is the love I will take it to my grave.
Great introspective blog Cat.
Take care and have a nice day. It is 7:35 in the morning at my side of the world.
Hi to my friend.
SR
You're making fun of an old man.
In my handbook any couple living together don't go out on their own. I won't go on a boys night and expect the same from my other half. If I'm not good enough for her she should go elsewhere.
I have dated a few blonds but for some reason they never lingered. Sometimes by my choice and other times by their choice.
And never marry an old woman unless if she inherited the bulk from her trillionaire lat husband.
Re marrying a rich old man; just make sure he has one foot in the grave and the other one on a banana peel.
Sorry for stealing your blog
Pas op, Bobbejansberg is nie so ver nie.
No check list for the first few dates I fear. But...
I mostly date woman who are family/friends of my family/friends. So she will be known by at least one person I know.
Well you know trees do not have many faults if at all
I cannot really answer you there bur I can tell you that I'm still friends with both my ex wives and most my ex girlfriends. So their experience with me could not have been so bad.
In fact, a few years ago my first wife was troubled by an abusive boyfriend and she ask ME to get rid of him.
Marrying your husbands son is frowned upon in most cultures and forbidden by law in some countries.
The real problem with me is that I cannot maintain a lasting relationship for some reason. No problem to get it started. I cannot keep it. Best I could do was the six years of my second marriage. My first marriage lasted a bit longer but it was interrupted.
In my case 'Twice beaten once shy' will do better.
No, never been a Casanova or a Don Juan. I am very serious about the feelings of others.
Hmm ok, the reverse form of my one. But maybe if you avoid a certain set of men the set that you seek must have some similarities too.
I don't dote on old relationships either. I just found it so strange that they were all so similar. It only confirms what I read once. The article said that if we never met our first spouse, we would have married somebody similar in any way.
But when you get old as I am you start wondering what went wrong with all those relationships starting off good.
I'll start wondering about that the day I reach total uselessness ..