Love
There has been a lot of talk on here about love. I was just thinking about it and I want to throw this out there to see what you folks think.Is love just a mirage? We are told it exist, we have a difficult time explaining what it is and what it means to us. Is it possible we are told love exist for some sort of reason? Even when you feel you are in love, are you really? Or, are those just your emotions of infatuations you are labeling and believing as the feeling of being in love? Personally, I really do know now but I would be very interested in hear what you think.
I know I would love to think love exist. :)
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but whats happened to Jenny and Teddy, is one of proof that Love can be found here... they are able to say "I LOVE YOU" or "I AM IN LOVE" and so on. Dont you think it is amazing ?
so, I believe love is exist in our heart.... whether it is emotion of infatuations or not, it will be depending on our purpose whether we just play a game or we really want to have it.
Ironically, I was introduced to this site by my best friend, he recently found his wife from China on here. Maybe love does exist?
I do agree with you, love does seem to exist. But, I am not so sure if it is just a label we use to identify an emotion. A word we tell ourselves and others to express how much we want to be with them. To let them know how we "feel" toward them. Maybe love is just an emotion also?
For love to make sense to me, it would need to exist on a spiritual level.
I think LOVE is not a thing, it is a feeling, something like the electricity or spirit that makes our mind, eyes, body and everything else work. It is a feeling or spirit communication or unification between two minds, two hearts, two souls. You either feel it or you dont, but when the right person comes along, it can overtake you like nothing you've ever known before. It is not logical or scientific. It cannot be explained, it just a feeling one must experience to truly understand and appreciate.. or perhaps just experience and never truly understand.
Yes, love does exist. You and everyone of us here is living proof that love does exist, for we are all made of love. Where would be without love. None of us would exist. Perhaps nothing would exist.. cause no one would love or care for anything nor anyone without it. Love is real. Again, one must experience it to know it and truly appreciate it.
just my opinion.
Have a good night and good day tomorrow.
Hi Johnny,
Just a small question here; how do you get it to last 7 to 8 years? The best I could do was 5 years.
Jokes aside now; let me give you my view of it. I may be altogether wrong but don’t crucify me for that.
Falling in love is not love; at least not yet. It is a temporary physical attraction that draws two people together and if it last long enough the couple will get become joined; be that by a legal ceremony, tribal customs or living together.
But at some stage this feeling will come to an end. Typically 3 to 4 years later. This is often referred to as ‘when the honeymoon is over’. Now their eyes will open for the shortcomings of their partners and this is where most relationships bite the dust.
Something else is needed now to sustain the relationship until the REAL LOVE is in place. Respect, common interests and patience are now needed while the couple get used to their ‘new’ partners. Given enough time, the couple will now grow into each other and the real love, based on mutual respect, will be born.
As I said, just my view and may be totally wrong.
Most people believe that after 7 years is critical time of relationship; it could be many things like middle age crisis or missing to refresh romance but if people value they're relationship they will work it out
Love isn't blind or deaf or dumb - in fact it sees far more than it will ever tell. It is going beyond yourself and stretching who you are for someone else. Being in love entails seeing someone as you wish they were: to love them is to see who they really are and still care for them. Love isn't bitter, but you can't have love without pain: sacrifice is the hallmark of love , the coin of love.
Love means that you trust the person, would do anything for the person, know that person is with you through thick and thin, isn't afraid to be seen with you. make sure they treat you right.
Additional Contributor Opinions:
Love means having strong feelings for someone that can be close friends, family or even someone in a romantic relationship. Love is a strong feeling that represents affection toward someone dear to you heart.
There is no true meaning in love. love with meaning is not love.
The meaning of love is prolonged mutual protection. Love is real when it is found. It is free when it is grasped. Can you tell with a kiss? Love is the magic/mutual in a kiss. There is no magic in a kiss if there is no love/mutual within it. A kiss with magic has no forced for love makes it gentle. There is no magic in just a lip kiss. Love has a different kiss. Some kisses are only stolen breaths. If you need to ask: "is this love" then the Answer is: "no" for when/if it ever happens you will know. Ravonseed.
The possible real meaning/purpose of love is: to reproduce. To stay together to protect each other long enough to continue your blood line/genetics. The meaning of love is prolonged mutual protection. Love is real when it is found. It is free when it is grasped. Can you tell with a kiss? Love is the magic/mutual in a kiss. There is no magic in a kiss if there is no love/mutual within it. A kiss with magic has no forced for love makes it gentle. There is no magic in just a lip kiss. Love has a different kiss. Some kisses are only stolen breaths. If you need to ask: "is this love" then the Answer is: "no" for when/if it ever happens you will know. Ravonseed.
Love is when you are certain that you love someone, and then you think you love someone else, then you both realize that you could never live without each other
The true meaning of love is found in the word "unconditional". Loving someone through their flaws and all. Accepting and embracing each others differences and compromising with their offerings.
Bokonon tells us:" a lover is a liar to himself he lies the truthful are loveless like oyster their eyes."
"Being in love is the connection u have with someone and feeling the same way they do. u wouldn't have a problem fussing and fighting with them at times because you love them"
What is true love? This is the question that haunts our everyday being. well, my friend, you certainly are in luck. For I have the intangible answer.. -love is devoting your God given LIFE to a person who
In my eyes.... why should it matter? I'm happy for the time being. Why should I tire myself with those bothersome questions if it is "true"-truth is in the eye of the beholder.
Life is a constant wave of change, accept it all as it comes, for it can never be stopped.
Love is Change-I have found happiness because i have embraced that change, that change has taken me many places i never thought possible. the past now dwells in it's rightful home, the past. never to live again..
Love is finding the beauty in one's self, and finding another to embrace it. No matter how strange one's beauty may be.
Love is learning to see the beauty in everything.
Good is walking away when she comes up pregnant with someone's else kid; love is staying long enough to carry her through the miscarriage.
Hi pal Johnny,
I think LOVE is not a thing, it is a feeling, something like the electricity or spirit that makes our mind, eyes, body and everything else work. It is a feeling or spirit communication or unification between two minds, two hearts, two souls. You either feel it or you dont, but when the right person comes along, it can overtake you like nothing you've ever known before. It is not logical or scientific. It cannot be explained, it just a feeling one must experience to truly understand and appreciate.. or perhaps just experience and never truly understand.
Yes, love does exist. You and everyone of us here is living proof that love does exist, for we are all made of love. Where would be without love. None of us would exist. Perhaps nothing would exist.. cause no one would love or care for anything nor anyone without it. Love is real. Again, one must experience it to know it and truly appreciate it.
just my opinion.
Have a good night and good day tomorrow. cool
Very well put and nothing you say I can disagree with.
Your response was great for the deeper exploration of the mysterious feeling of love.
Thanks for sharing.
BTW...waiting for the next party and the next chapter. :)
It does seem that the feeling of love does stem from the heart. I believe the heart knows more than the mind.
Thank you.
Hello Plato,
I agree with you, love is very powerful. I really did know how powerful it was until it was lost. That is the beauty of life, you learn as you go.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
I was talking with a very intelligent friend of mine about two months ago. He was telling me there was a scientific study out that found on average, relationships lasted around 7 to 8 years. They figured it lasted that long because it had something to do with the children.
As far as making it the to 7 to 8 year mark, you are close. You make that average (7 to 8 yeas) possible for the people who had 9 year relationships. :)
Maybe you could keep your partner longer by promising to buy a personal yacht for her. Then after two years, tell her you were just BSing??
As per your second response. What you say makes complete sense. I think you are absolutely correct.
However, what about after that honeymoon period? Why does "love" take on a different meaning in that relationship after the honeymoon period? Shouldn't love be love? This is what makes me wonder if there really is a such thing as love.
I do believe love does exist. This blog was meant to hopefully uncover an aspect of it that I have not thought about until now. Is there really love, or is it something we think exist?
Kinda confusing, I know. :)
Thank you for the elaboration Cat.
It sounds like you have a beautiful relationship. In my opinion, a relationship like that, especially now days, is very difficult to find.
Does you gf have a sister? lol...j/k.....not really.
Hopefully you have the same effect on her.
Thank you so much for sharing that. For some reason it puts a smile on my face when I hear of two people in "true love."
Absolutely, the elaboration on what you said, about what Cat said :)...is right, I think.
That is what I heard also, around that 7 year mark is critical with a relationship. I heard it had something to do with children, but it might be something to do with middle age.
I have a question, if you do not mind. The question pertains to people who have been in a relationship for 7 or so years. Do you think when people approaching their middle age believe they might be missing out on something? You know the old saying, the grass is not always greener on the other side. Do you think they think it might be greener on the other side and this is why many relationships crumble at that point?
Thank you for your post.
Well...that pretty much sums it up for me. From everything that was confusing about love, Fromm's explanation answers my questions.
I find it interesting, to say the least, how the same positive feelings can turn to feelings of hatred. My brother was just talking to me about something similar.
I appreciate you sharing this information and for the recommendation on the book. This is another one on my list I will need to read.
Yes. I believe that to be correct. Although, through time, that feeling seems to erode. As Cat put it, after the honeymoon period.
I think that is what made me wonder about love. If love is love when we have those feelings, as you put it, why do we lose that feeling after time? Does love just disappear? Because, I do not think those feelings, as you describe, last for ever within a relationship. I really think Socrates hit the nail on the head. At least, it makes complete sense to me.
Iot....thank you so much for the post.
No problem at all, you can continue for as long as you wish.
Thank you very much for sharing what you found. There are many different interpretations of what love means in there, and all of them were very informative. I especially liked the one about kissing. I was fascinated to hear how much meaning a kiss can convey.
Also, I like the statement about life as always being a changing wave. It seems as if love does not escape that wave.
Very beautifully put. It is too bad many people do not understand that.
Thank you for posting your thoughts.
Very nice perspective. I think so. People are looking for that "perfect" person, most of the time who does not exist, and they miss a beautiful thing right underneath their noses.
Thanks for sharing....certainly some food for thought.