Basic Human Needs
If a woman is married to an uncommunicative man, she has the choice of talking to herself, not very satisfactory, or else sharing with friends, or even strangers. That is considered acceptable to all. Right?When a man is married to a nonsexual wife, he has the choice of doing it with himself, not very satisfactory, or else doing it with friends, or even strangers. That is considered acceptable to all. Right?
Wrong.
It's not acceptable to all, very few indeed.
The woman may not want to leave her marriage because she doesn't want to break up the family, especially if the kids are small, but at least she has an outlet for her frustrations.
The man may not leave his marriage because he doesn't want to break up the family, especially if the kids are small, but he is left with no outlet for his frustrations.
Sex is a form of communication, a basic human need, especially to men. Just as sharing a conversation is to women.
Does society place unfair restrictions on one human need over another?
Comments (107)
a TV show?
That is the joy of having two good communicators.
And also having the maturity to know what you want.
People often lack that when they are younger.
See my answer to Aragorn above, maybe that is what I was really asking
I'm getting tired now, so I don't know anymore
Goodnight Peds and all !
Good topic
I'll read it all tomorrow when my eyes aren't so tired.
For your morning Eye Opener.
As a generalisation I would agree with you.
Children slept in a separate home from the intermingling adults.They were all educated and musicians as well. For these reasons,they were accepted by the locals.They held concerts,picnics on their grounds for the public.All residents were learning new skills despite gender.It disbanded as the next generation sought marriage outside the Utopia and traveled for unemployment.Circa 1900s ?
I guess there are some specific needs to all mankind, and others vary from need to want.
User, thanks for your input.
Ash, I am sure there are also indigenous tribes which work that system. It is something I would like to know more about. Thanks for that insight .
I think it must just be a topic people have an interest in
If something can not be saved, then leave. The kids would be fine.
I know a couple in the 60s who have an open marriage
Well, it is a very open marriage actually
They often invite others in to play.
But, they are the most devoted happy couple you would ever meet.
It takes all sorts
as it was that what I was lacking in previous relationships.
It is great that you have learned from past relationships
Many don't
No, I don't think its fair to expect all our needs to be met by one person.
Although there is a line between needs or wants lol.
I personally think that we all should have something that is ours, exclusively.
Something we do, or participate in that is outside the relationship whether that be alone time, meditation or sports or whatever. We all have 'other' relationships whether that be family or friends and we all need stimulation imo. Very difficult to get from one person. The most successful relationships I have seen is where the couple are not together 24/7.
But then I guess we have to have the debate on what is a need and what is a want,
I try and differentiate when I go shopping
Do I need those red boots, or do I just want them?
PS. I bought them anyway