Basic Human Needs
If a woman is married to an uncommunicative man, she has the choice of talking to herself, not very satisfactory, or else sharing with friends, or even strangers. That is considered acceptable to all. Right?When a man is married to a nonsexual wife, he has the choice of doing it with himself, not very satisfactory, or else doing it with friends, or even strangers. That is considered acceptable to all. Right?
Wrong.
It's not acceptable to all, very few indeed.
The woman may not want to leave her marriage because she doesn't want to break up the family, especially if the kids are small, but at least she has an outlet for her frustrations.
The man may not leave his marriage because he doesn't want to break up the family, especially if the kids are small, but he is left with no outlet for his frustrations.
Sex is a form of communication, a basic human need, especially to men. Just as sharing a conversation is to women.
Does society place unfair restrictions on one human need over another?
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Map, petrol-station flowers are always dodgy. Give them up
Track, even if you wanted to be with your kids full time?
And
Reading the blog
Or Map either!
Starving or starved to death
Nice choices
A woman who wants her rich cake, and eat it too
Some people can never be satisfied, no matter what you give them.
They think that if they are good providers, etc., that should be enough .
eh" what do you mean, you could of been all of those Things
LOL
But as we have seen from earlier comments, some women are very demanding. ..They want it all.
I am sure they would be perfect for some people.
Me, I like a warm, cuddly, real human being.
There are also men who want it all too.
Example..seri is only attracted to high iq men, that's her turn on. Whereas some are so desperate they will take what comes along..I say don't have kids until you've been together at least 5 years..kids do change everything, get to know each other before spoiling the broth with rug rats.
I'm just putting a human situation out there for ideas and comments.
What you describe on your blog is the harsh reality of many homes.
I have an older friend that has 3 kids for three different men...she opted to stay with the last child's dad because she didn't want to paint a negative picture for her daughter about principles and concepts of marriage especially based on the fact that she had three different men. her daughter is a teacher now and her marriage is still standing.
But they stay out of either a sense of duty/honour , or because of the kids.
Where have I given that impression?
what? Invidualistic? I don't think so.
And, and I agree with Itchy, whatever she says.
Besides, I like her new pic. Really pretty.
Mind them well
It affected my son for sure breaking up...but he's level headed and loyal boy to his gf.now!
Woman talking to friends.......... acceptable
Man breaking marriage vows....... unacceptable
You are correct.
It was just a topic to put out for discussion
Thanks for your input though
"Kidding of course"
Interesting topic
Night now, off to me Bed
I guess your son would have been affected either way, whether the marriage continued in the way it did, or it breaking up.
Do you think it is possible for just one person to provide all the needs of another?
I am basically asking, as I asked KN, is it right to expect all of our needs to be met by one person?
The person who needs more verbal communication is allowed to get it outside of the marriage, the person who needs more intimacy isn't.
These needs are different from person to person. I do think some people do expect too much from their partner, others are not willing to give much to someone else...
We have talked beforehand about what is important for us should we get together and I think we are pretty much on the same page. No point otherwise imo.