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This can happen to you bloggers in real life too.

I attended a funeral today for the mother-in-law of a friend who shares the model aircraft hobby with me and a handful of other friends. The woman's health was failing and they were making plans for her to stay with them. Things changed and she was hospitalized. From there it was a downward turn. Hospice was called in for the final few days.

We all know my friend's wife, but none us met his mother-in-law. About 5 of us attended the ceremony. It was the first time I've seen them in 'nice clothes' as we usually meet on weekends wearing shorts, sun glasses, baseball hats and athletic shoes. The mother was in her 80's and nearly all the folks attending were over 60. Friends and family made for a pleasant reunion. My friend and his wife were appreciative we were there for support.

Listening to those who gave testimony about the woman and her life, it appeared she was into photography and famous in her city for following many of the sports teams starting from high-school into college. I believe her photos were used in amateur sports publications locally.

Now that she's gone, her 2 children will clear her house and get it ready for sale. The realtor they selected had the house appraised and made a list of items that need to be brought up to code so there will be no complications in making a sale. Expected to sell for above the appraised value, this is no surprise for nice houses in South Florida.

My friend and his wife are content in the house they currently own and will probably pay off the mortgage with the inheritance money. I would think the rest would be for some investment when the time is right!

Summing things up, the pastor said "Betty is in a better place now..."

They must be lying to me as many people I come in contact with think I'm (much) younger than my real age. Thinking back more than 40 to 50 years ago would I have envisioned I would look this way now?

I've been slowly getting around to a project of setting a scanner and computer for archiving old photos and saving them to a few hard drives as some of the oldest family photos date back to 1920ish with my grandfather and grandmother's portraits in sepia or black & white that was hand painted to appear like a color photograph.

People say I look like my dad and comparing myself to photos when he was in his 60's has me with more hair, but him having less grey. The only other significant difference is his nose was larger. Thanks mom!

Its a new one on me
but its what I'm just after hearing on the radio.

The idea behind it is share and express your gratitude of them, how they are or once were ...
or so me thinks

Given both of my grand mothers were stern witches....
and both my grand fathers had the view " children were meant to be seen and not heard" at the moment I can't think of anything nice to say, so perhaps its best I leave the comments up to you...
that is, if any at all.

Anyways, to our grand parents
hopefully I'll make a better one, then the ones I had.

Please Please Please, don't use your children ,in a break up ,I said to girlfriend at the time ,if we break up ,do it nicely ,and when we we'd, the same ,but life ?? is sometimes like hell ,my ex did not want me and or 9yo daughter ,but I told my daughter to send ,mothers day card to her ,not for my ex ,but for my daughter ,because I did not want her to have regrets, :Terry

It's no secret that a good percentage of the Asian women on CS are Philippine working in other countries. It could be cities like Hong Kong, Singapore or Dubai where they are contracted to be domestic help and in many cases, English teachers for young children.
The ones who have a medical background usually hire out as nurses or health care workers.

One profile stated she is an OFW. That acronym was new to me and it means Overseas Filipino Worker and describes people who leave their country in search of opportunity that is not available in Philippines.

My father was in the Navy during WWII and traveled the Pacific. While docked in the Philippines, one of his buddies met a hospital worker and they started a relationship. After the war, she came to America where they married and lived happily ever after!

There is a large Philippine community in Miami and some women I've met were in the medical field having received their nurse training in the Philippines.

A lot of credit goes out to the women who accept the challenge of working in a foreign land to aid their families back home!

I saw an article where Ivanka expressed her desire for her father not to run in 2024. It's been hard on her and Jared as their personal lives still require security. Media follows their moves and they don't enjoy the continues stress of questions by news asking about their future. It's kind of a "Just leave us alone, we want to return to a more normal lifestyle" sentiment.
Melania is right behind her with the same sentiment.


Blog tagged family as it's family that's affected.

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Do you think being prepared for death of a dear one is easier than it happening unexpectedly? Maybe
In my experience life blindsided me in my youth 3 times from late teens to early twenties with the sudden death of my 3.5 month old son, a 29 yr. old husband and the murder of my biological mom when she was 39 yrs. (all within a 3 yr. period) Not getting into the details of the emotional. It’s as harsh as it gets but you eventually keep moving forward.

In my experience I’ve also learned that waiting on someone to die is the longest wait to endure. My Dad has had a very rewarding long life at 93 or 96, can’t remember now he is one of the living Dead. Will his eventual death hurt as the ones that blindsided me when I was younger? My guess is it won’t be as agonizing. This watching him die also lets me watch how much Mom and him still love each other. Yesterday was their 66th anniversary – WOW huh. It’s a long time to love.

I love “the Love” my folks have even though they are each other’s third marriage. I only get to experience that kind of love with a dog and it’s a wonderful love. My little dog Bella has been by my side 24/7 for 16 yrs. (she made it to 18 yrs. Old). I watched the end coming which is hard enough seeing them lose their abilities. I’ve wished many times at the end of my pets’ life they would go in their sleep but always dealt the card to make the decision when their life quality is gone.

It was a harsh goodbye. Every time I leave the house I try to grab her and in an instant the finality of the reality flashes. Heart hurts like hell but the rest of me is actually great. My mind is in constant thought of the gazillion wonderful memories to be thankful for. The pain of the loss is SO WORTH all the years of LOVE.