Ha Amity, you know what usually happens when you are not looking? That is when someone shows up in your life.
I stopped looking after dating some losers. I rather be doing something else than being with a octupus. Then something happened, I met someone online and felt a connection. We are meeting in 2-3 weeks. He is moving to Virginia this month. He's getting a cam Sunday.
Ha, Ambrose, I didn't catch it. It's quite alright. So far so good with the other Doberman (the new guy). We are talking every night, and he is going to get a cam. He is due to move to Virginia in 21/2 weeks. We can't wait to meet each other. I haven't know many people that I think so alike. Last night we finished a sentance with each other and again too night. I had one girlfriend who was the same way with me.
I will take all 10 please, use one a day. When though with all of them, repeat again the same thing, over and over and over and over. Oh, did I say over?
Well, you all know I'm a nut about animals. I would let a cat sleep with me but never my dog. But being alone and also knowing that my Doberman has a shorter life span changed my sleeping habits. Wile sleeps with me now, and the dog hairs are worth it. I no longer have an empty bed. After being married 25 years, you get use to having someone with you. I have also found someone new that I have already discussed this with. We haven't met yet and are going to go real slow. We will not be hopping into bed for quite awhile. But we did have the discussion about if he could handle a dog in bed with him. He said he would be fine with it. I really get comfort with my Dobe next to me.
But if a man was really bothered by it, I would put Wile in his crate. He was crate trained but doesn't need it often.
Well, decided to call the separated guy to discuss what happened. He said that he had done a typo about me going to fast. He said I was going slow and he liked it.
He meant for the note to be things to consider. I'm sorry, it seems like he is just not ready for a relationship.
He said he wasn't sure he would be the type of guy to go to a dog park with me. I said, that I really didn't go often. He also likes small dogs, well, not too much I can do to make my Wile the Coyote, Blue Doberman smaller.
But this is what sealed his fate - he said between selling his house and moving from Maryland to Virginia, plus divorce matters he wouldn't be available much until Summer. I said, it would seem the best to meet each other. So we set up a date for Saturday, he is suppose to call sometime today to give me the time.
Well, I've changed my mind. I am not waiting on him. He does have things to do and I understand it.
If I went on that date, and liked him, put myself on the shelf, I would miss out on the special single guy I've been talking to for hours. The separated guy doesn't like to talk long, the other guy loves to talk to me. It's a easy choice plus I'm taking charge better. Picking the best guy and not getting hung up on the bad boy type.
When the guy who will be out of my life soon calls, I'm canceling the date. I feel great about it.
I don't want to be out on a limb.
The new guy is more my type, he's funny, my age, and wants to spend time with me. He has had a Doberman. He wanted to see my Dobe's picture.
I have a friend who has friends who lives in Japan. He was so relieved his friends were ok with the first earthquake. He is going to be so upset. He was actually going to go there to try to help. He is an American and he gives a dam. I am glad to see so many in this thread have feelings for Japan. It hurts to know they are going through more pain.
Duh, you should be concerned because of their Nuclear Power plants. You are of the type that can't give a dam about anyone except yourself. Congratulations on about the worse posts you have ever done, it's always me, me, me with you.
Hey Jac, I'll keep you posted all right. Thank you. I'm feeling good about this guy. He's my age and great to talk to. Can't wait until he moves in a few weeks.
Believe it or not, I talked to him today. He said that he had not meant to stop seeing each other. He meant about the dog, he was leary would it like him. I told him, he loves people.
So we got things straight and are going to meet. Then were going to be able to see each other more in the year when he got his house sold, etc.
But I'm going a different direction. I am gooing to cancel the date. I just feel there will be more issues.
The other guy I have been talking to seems more my type and also likes Dobermans. He's been divorced awhile and isn't separated. I need a break from drama.
Hi Ambrose, I would agree with the other 2 Dobes I had. But Wile likes men alot. He likes everyone.
Boy, do things change fast. I'm talking to a guy now who had a Doberman. He has no problem with me having a dog. I met him on another site and we talk every night.
He is in Florida but has gotten a job in Virginia. Strange how things can fix themselves.
I think you did a good thing asking for help. Venussilk helped get the cost down. I think it will be interesting what her reaction will be also. Not every meeting between people will click. Things are very different in real life. You have to face facts besides fantasy.
Hi Rohaan, this was a confusing experience. One night we are talking about a date and it seems fine. No mention about the dog. Then a day passes and I get the it's not working for me note and oh, by the way, you have too much zest for your dog.
I do appreciate that he let me know but also a little put out. I had no clue it was going to happen.
Then another guy, also separated wrote to me. I knew he was separated but thought we go on a date. We had not gone out or made a date. I wrote him a note saying, I do not think we should met. Then he reads this thread. He was upset thinking I had led him on and liked to date a bunch of guys at the same time.
Again, not true, I do like to date 2 for a couple of dates then go to just one.
I did not know if I was going to hear from him again and we were not exclusive.
I sent him a note explaining my thoughts on the matter and I was blocked. That was a real adult action. I will be talking to the single fellow tonight, enough of separated men for me forever. Believe me I understand what it is like to be separated but I also want to be treated right.
I am like Rohaan, if you have a problem with my dog, it's not going to work. Go find someone without one. It's a easy answer.
Well, I've moved on. The new interest wrote to me this morning and I'll be talking to him tonight.
Things usually work out. I think the new guy has some better qualities than the other. He's open to meeting me, and knows what he wants. The separated guy is not for me. I had sent him a note after his, and today no answer, so let sleeping dogs lay@!!!!
Hi Mjames, yes, it's right on. I forgot to say he mentioned something else about having a problem with my dog. He knew it would cause problems in the future. Ha, we got a problem Huston. Thanks for what you wrote
It's up to you my friend, Wineman. But it sounds too good to be true. Getting info about her, using a CAM and skype are the way to go. Also, get off the cloud so that you can really think about reality. This whole plan worries me. None of us want too see you unhappy either by finding out she is a con or trying to stop you from seeing someone who is fine. We are only doing what you asked.
It is you that makes the final decision. There are pros and cons to everything. Good luck in what ever you chose.
The Dobe
Also, I would hope that CS people reframe from trying to make Wineman look bad in his idea. It's not necessary.
Exactly Venus - the emergency or if you get involved after the trip, it could be a ploy for emergenices in Russia or Norway, milking you of money but acting like how much they love you. Con's are good at what they are at. Until you find out more about the things they do to bring you in to do whatever they want.
diablito, A fool and his money is what I think of your advice. Who has money to throw around these days and then be conned. Do you also believe in happyly ever after???
Wine, this is the last person I'd listen to. If you listened to him, you might as well get a sign on your back saying con me, please.
I also know Wineman you care about people. Listen to the voice inside you, it is always right. That voice of yours is speaking to you trying to help you think things out.
Wow, I didn't know they would do that. I think some that have advised to go to her are right on track. It's sad to say, but there are plenty of people ready to con others. You really do need to know everything you can before you get there and afterwords.
It may be a con and then again maybe not. But you do not want to be conned. I think people here are only trying to help. I'm glad that your gut feelings are kicking in.
That sounds like a better thought. But I would be worried that she wants to stay. It takes time to figure out if you are right for each other, not in just a meeting.
What would you do, if you don't like her. You would go on with your life. Even if you really do like each other, I think time apart and getting to know each other is extremely important. You don't want to get involved and then find out things after you are together either married or living together.
That is good to know about the scammer digger site. Wow, see your suspicions were right on about a friend.
I would assist her 1/2 of one ticket perhaps. I do understand where you are coming from. It could be that she doesn't have the money in reality, but also could be scamming. There is a fine line.
Funny, I had a guy who thought I had to much zest for my dog. He also didn't want to meet me because he was separated and didn't want to get into a relationship. Luckily we had not met. Then he said down the road, there would be a problem with my dog. Well, my dog is not the problem. It is him. Who does he think he is? What would happen if I didn't like it that he played golf which he does. Oh, there would be a problem there wouldn't it. So he's out the door.
But I just started talking to a guy who has had a Doberman and is fine that I care for him.
Why do people have to butt in where they do not belong? If I do my best to show that I can love a man as much as my pet, what is the problem.
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