Ambrose2007 Forum Posts (8,881)

RE: Baffled

Good point, T. I would never give a passionate kiss unless I felt passionately, so perhaps I'm suffering from tunnel osculatory vision on this one, my friend.

RE: Baffled

Are you saying you're the lady in the OP's tale, Jan??!

Yeah, that certain would explain a few things. A passionate kiss surely is in the eye of the beholder. As well as all the interactions he described.

Sorry you had to suffer through the traumatic experience, Jan.

RE: Baffled

Groping or the lack thereof certainly wasn't the problem. I'd say it was pretty straightforward - she wasn't into you physically - except for the "passionate kiss." In other words, the amicable repartee could be attributable to enjoying your company sans physical attraction. But that kiss...it does seem somewhat enigmatic.

Also, she seems rather courteous and intelligent from your description, which doesn't square with an acting performance. But ultimately it doesn't matter. Apparently she just wasn't feeling it (unless there are other complex factors...like maybe she's married or already in a relationship or something similarly nefarious).

RE: Baffled

But the "passionate kiss," Zel? Doesn't that strike you as a tad anomalous?

RE: |Why do people in good relationships post all their details on here?

If only we would just leave. Then you could finally enjoy a satisfying and wonderful love life.

RE: why do women prefer a partner who is older than her

Is there something you're not telling us?

RE: Do LD Relationships work? I know this poll has been posted many times....so don´t beef at me.....

By "comfortable with communication," read: You must like to talk a lot. If you don't enjoy getting to know someone by phone and email, you aren't a candidate for an LDR.

RE: Do LD Relationships work? I know this poll has been posted many times....so don´t beef at me.....

Well, I think a key factor in making one work is to know your "end game." Are you willing to move, to make major changes in your life? If not, you shouldn't be in the LDR game. I mean that *anyone* who is not prepared and willing to uproot themselves shouldn't enter into an LDR (unless they're looking for penpals)

I'm saying that if you are unwilling to move, you probably won't be able to make an LDR work, because, as I mentioned previously, an LDR is a means to an end - a transitory affair, as it were - and that "end" is being together. For that to happen *someone* has to be willing to uproot.

Other than, some patience is called for as you work things out in a more problematic setting than normal couples worth within. You need to be comfortable with communication, and able to handle loneliness (not being able to see your love as often as if she or he lived next door).

RE: Do LD Relationships work? I know this poll has been posted many times....so don´t beef at me.....

Why do you think something's wrong?

RE: If god is all powerfull?

But wouldn't it already know the results of it thinking about thought? And so on, ad infinitum.

Reminds me of a joke I once heard. But I already know the punch line.

RE: If god is all powerfull?

The most sophisticated argument is that a god could be "all-powerful" in the sense that it could perform anything that is permitted by reality to perform.

If you think that's a tad lame, I would echo your sentiment.

Most if not all of the defining characteristics of Judeo-Christian god either logically contradictory or incoherent, or lead to highly problematic claims re its nature.

For example, consider a being that knows everything. What need would it have of thought? And in what sense could it will anything?

RE: How come you don't believe in God?

Oh! I've been trying to read the word(s) on the cap, and haven't made them out yet. I need to get me one of those!

RE: How come you don't believe in God?

It's embarrassing to me as a human that a dog with a cap is one of the most sensible creatures here.

RE: How come you don't believe in God?

Make me!

RE: How many of you believe that Iraq war drama 'The Hurt Locker' deserved the best Direction Oscar rat

What irritated you about its political message?

RE: How many of you believe that Iraq war drama 'The Hurt Locker' deserved the best Direction Oscar rat

I haven't seen it, but sight unseen I would think it would be a contender for the worst-titled film of the year.

RE: Do LD Relationships work? I know this poll has been posted many times....so don´t beef at me.....

Oh my god - not again!

Yes, they can work for awhile - that is, they can work well enough for people to fall in love and decide they want permanent relationship. However, virtually all LDRs are transitory; they don't work indefinitely, in other words.

RE: Spelling mistakes... does it matter

A case in point. Is someone who has difficulty (or cannot summon the time and energy to bother) constructing a grammatical sentence capable of fairly evaluating - teasing out the many logical nuances - of a complex argument?

I'm thinking: No.

RE: Spelling mistakes... does it matter

Hi, V. Well, first, I indulged in a bit of hyperbole: most but not "virtually every post" contained grammatical or spelling errors.

My basic concern is for citizens of my country. I find it disturbing if they don't understand or care about writing clearly, because I link that - correctly or not - to thinking clearly. I'm saying that a citizenry that cannot compose basic grammatical sentences might have trouble with the niceties of morality and social justice - and that trouble will likely impact my life. As evidence for that thesis, consider that Bush was re-elected. And that impacted lots of lives (and not in a good way).

I'm not interested in correcting people's grammar/spelling because I wish to humiliate them; rather, on the rare occasions when I point out an error, I do it with the perhaps Pollyannish hope that it might encourage someone to "raise their intellectual game."

But back to the subject of this thread: "Spelling mistakes...does it do they matter."

Well, the clearly correct answer is: "To some they do, to some they don't."

Risking presumption, I would count you and several posters here as among those for whom spelling and grammar *do* matter - in terms of selecting a friend or mate. Considering how well-spoken and articulate you are it would be hard to imagine that you wouldn't desire something roughly equivalent from your "significant others," no?

Now Jan - despite her education, she prefers the rough-hewn, man-of-the-Earth type, but she's one of those unaccountable exceptions.

RE: Spelling mistakes... does it matter

To me it's more about coherently expressing yourself - that is, very basically, writing in a way that's lucid and easy to understand - not spelling flawlessly. Everyone, myself included, suffers from the occasional typo or missing word. I'd say it's more important to understand the structure - that is, syntax - of language. In other words, if you make basic structural mistakes such as writing "your" when you mean "you're," I find that more significant (assuming you don't actually understand the difference; if you do, it's just a "brain fart," and no harm done).

That said, I find it interesting and a bit disturbing that virtually every post in this thread contains either spelling or grammatical errors.

RE: Just for the record....so lets get it straight

You're very brave, Sultry. I always wait for approval from The Clique before posting, myself.

RE: Just for the record....so lets get it straight

I wish you two would get a room...

RE: I don´t like the jokes threads....

True, Jan, but you know, you really don't have to read them or...

But hey, wasn't my thread a "joke thread"?

RE: we are not a monogamous species...

I'm impressed! How long have you been around (I don't recall seeing you until fairly recently, but then I've been out of touch with CS for awhile)?

RE: we are not a monogamous species...

No, I don't think it's necessarily associated with intelligence...I'd say it has more to do with character and the personal values which stem from that. Intelligence isn't going to help if you don't have that particular element of character (I'm not sure exactly what it is, but I think I can recognize it when I see it!).

RE: we are not a monogamous species...

Yeah, that definitely isn't cheating. No one can or should deny themselves if a clearly better choice presents itself (though that should be subject to a highly critical review, to put it mildly, especially when it involves someone you love), but there's a right way to go about it. Key would be exiting your current relationship before embarking on a new one, in my view. It's the honest and decent thing to do, even if will doubtless cause considerable pain.

RE: Help asked : what is love and friendship ??????

That would certainly explain a few things (re your virginity)...

RE: we are not a monogamous species...

Good on you, A!

RE: we are not a monogamous species...

To make it easier for your man to drag you to your cave??

I don't know - there's just this quality that some people have (both men and women) - that makes them loyal. All my relatives have it. I have several lady cousins out here who'd be about as likely to cheat as the sun would be not to rise. They're rock-solid in that way, and happy with themselves. My lady is like that, too. So am I...in principle.

RE: we are not a monogamous species...

Just finished my workout, Arlene, so I'm thinking you could bring me two?