Ambrose2007 Forum Posts (8,881)

RE: Should the Pope be prosecuted?

God...wouldn't that be something? Reminds me of the old days when the Pope and secular authorities vied - sometimes violently - for power. This would be the ultimate secular victory, I guess - the Pope languishing in a prison cell, trading cigarettes and reading Hustler magazine...?

RE: Would you be bothered if you DON'T find your twin Flame on here

Did I break up with GG and not know about it?

No, agreed, the odds aren't great here (or maybe anywhere - including Real Life), but you can improve them enormously by being clear with yourself about who you are and what you want.

So what famous CS couple broke up recently, Jan??

RE: Would you be bothered if you DON'T find your twin Flame on here

Well, it's a reasonable number, Rich. I think it's somewhere between 7 and 11 from the forums; probably many more outside the forums. I'm one of them, btw.

RE: Falling In LOVE!!!

RE: Falling In LOVE!!!

First of all, Deb, why have you turned your back on us in our hour of need?

Seriously, I'd describe "falling in love" as a kind of "snowball effect of increasing affection, attraction to, and valuing of a person." I like the image, because the snowball is "falling" - that is, it's rolling downhill, gathering more and more snow. Likewise, our affection and desire for the person we're falling in love with builds in both size and momentum during the fall...until finally you hit the bottom. One can only hope it's a soft landing.

RE: Falling In LOVE!!!

First of all, Deb, why have you turned your back on us in our hour of need?

Seriously, I'd describe "falling in love" as a kind of "snowball effect of increasing affection, attraction to, and valuing of a person." I like the image, because the snowball is "falling" - that is, it's rolling downhill, gathering more and more snow. Likewise, our affection and desire for the person we're falling in love with builds in both size and momentum during the fall...until finally you hit the bottom. One can only hope it's a soft landing.

RE: HOW TO BE FUNNY

My camera was set to make it appear as though I'm wearing a wig.

RE: Why Belief in God Is Not Innate

Very interesting, Ooby. Thanks!

RE: Am I that bad looking

RE: Am I that bad looking

I *almost* went there, Os.

To me, that demonstrates a certain sloppiness/slovenliness in expressing oneself that could easily carry over to physical behaviors. If you, dman, wrote to a lady as you wrote your original post, she might not take you seriously. Of course, at your age that might not be so important. And some ladies probably don't care about that. But intelligent and educated women of all ages, in my experience, appreciate someone who takes the time to express themselves well.

RE: Am I that bad looking

It's your attitude (confidence, self-esteem, etc.), not your looks. That's fairly obvious.

Being good-looking is insufficient for being successful with women/relationships. That certainly can help, but the way you comport yourself can easily negate it.

RE: Cuddlefish

But Healthy, I don't see what this has to do with the Federal Reserve, Obamanation, and the upcoming martial law?!?

RE: When you want to take your pain and anger out on someone...

Very thoughtful of you, L.

RE: When you want to take your pain and anger out on someone...

Take a photo of me and a grandchild (preferably with only half of his eye showing!). Seriously, nice photo, L.

I have to say that I reserve that special privilege almost exclusively for the people emotionally closest to me. They're the only people who can summon that kind of emotion from me.

Though I have no inclination to vent on strangers, I could respond angrily to certain behaviors from people I don't know. For example, I definitely saw red when a pickup nearly clipped me while I was out bike-riding, for example. Speaking of which, it's finally bike-riding time here in South Dakota! At least I don't have to worry about running into deer on my bike...

The Momentum Style of Love vs. Steady State Style of Love

Well, Ginger, I think at base I'm asking how and when people reach the point where someone decides to be a couple. I've heard some women say that they make that decision when they attain a certain critical measure of respect, as opposed to love. A lot of possibilities in relationships are on the table when it comes to human beings...

RE: prenuptual agreement......how important in your next relationship

Exactly.

RE: I would Marry the first women that can beat me in a bike race

Aren't you looking for someone who could out-climb you up a hill, G??

RE: I would Marry the first women that can beat me in a bike race

I just want to find a woman who can do as many pullups as I can. Shouldn't be too difficult, since I'm old, like nesara.

RE: prenuptual agreement......how important in your next relationship

Absolutely - if you don't trust her that much, don't marry her (this is different from BJ's concerns).

RE: prenuptual agreement......how important in your next relationship

Well, that's a good point, John. I think you're saying that if you died, you'd want to make sure your children would get their fair share of your estate.

But...maybe I'm not interpreting you correctly, because you could cover that easily enough with a will; perhaps your concern is that should you and your wife depart company, then you would want to protect your assets for your childrens' sake, but that would surely imply that you had some doubts about your proposed union, no?

Would you mind clarifying?

RE: prenuptual agreement......how important in your next relationship

Exactly. If you have any doubts about a person, you shouldn't marry them. (Hi, J!)

The Momentum Style of Love vs. Steady State Style of Love

That would explain a few things.



Well, I'm not sure less sharp and bumpier is inherently better, Laura.

I don't think I was sufficiently clear in my original post - understandable, considering the complexity of the idea I was attempting to convey and its potential for being misunderstood - but I wasn't intending to inaugurate the usual "What do you think of the honeymoon phase of love, and when do you grow out of it" thread...though this thread did go rather beyond that.

What I meant to ask was how each of us experience the process through which we reach the point where we identify ourselves as in love with a partner - and, as a corollary, how and when we decide that our love translates into a desire to make a lifelong commitment to being with them.

Of course, the question is complicated by the frequency with which people fall in love but don't make those kinds of commitments, and also by relationships where one or both members aren't in love with each other.

RE: Do you like fit sane people more then not fit sane people?

Being fit can sure cause a lot of problems in life, it seems.

Happy Easter, Morgie!

The Momentum Style of Love vs. Steady State Style of Love

The Momentum Style of Love vs. Steady State Style of Love

Perhaps it's best you don't give all the details, Z. You and "Polly"...well, some romantic stories are best left unsaid.

The Momentum Style of Love vs. Steady State Style of Love

Do you believe you've discovered how to experience "deep love," Christmas?

The Momentum Style of Love vs. Steady State Style of Love

Yeah, I'd say Stress has had considerable romantic experience - certainly far more relationships than I've had (or would want to have!). Also, he's a pretty intelligent observer of the human condition.

The Momentum Style of Love vs. Steady State Style of Love

Right, T, as a general rule I would agree that younger people are a bit faster. They certainly have fewer encumbrances generally. But I think a lot of it has to do with one's personal psychology. A person who's very romantic/passionate is probably going to tend to move a tad faster - though they may be able to combat that tendency as they grow older and more experienced.

To Jan and Felixis - yes, I'm principally talking about the initial phase where one falls in love. True, in later life, some of original passion may wane, and the relationship may look more like a "steady state" type, but again, I'm talking about the process wherein one falls in love. I would expect that having a head-over-heels phase would lead to a somewhat different balance of emotions in the long-term (and I would suspect that the ideal relationship would involve that more passionate phase).

RE: Can anyone help me understand this?

What about her fulfilling yours? Were you sensitive to your own needs?

RE: Can anyone help me understand this?

Honestly, it was all HER fault.