Ambrose2007 Forum Posts (8,881)

RE: Can or Do "Independent" people make good "Partners"?

At least I'll get there before GG does!

RE: Can or Do "Independent" people make good "Partners"?

GG and I can only aspire to be as cute as they are. Might take us a few years, but I'm optimistic we can achieve that.

RE: Can or Do "Independent" people make good "Partners"?

How about in practice?

RE: Can or Do "Independent" people make good "Partners"?

Are you saying you're a god, Healthy??!!

In that case...

RE: Can or Do "Independent" people make good "Partners"?

I *think* you're saying that while you are "needy" when it comes to your religious beliefs, you are merely "wanty" when it comes to a human male?

Are you saying you're mostly looking for a man to join you in being needy with respect to your god?

Are you against worshiping your man, then?

I know I like some mutual "worship" in a romantic relationship. As you know, I have no desire to have a third party involved.

RE: Can or Do "Independent" people make good "Partners"?

RE: Can or Do "Independent" people make good "Partners"?

Well, it's one of the many "socially correct" truths about relationships that I think are either misleading or simply wrong as stated.

I see cliches about not wanting "games," as well as declarations about being independent as generally obfuscating deeper truths about people relate (should relate) romantically.

Romantic love, in my view, is about achieving a union. A true, deep, and healthy union doesn't require a list of "medical warnings" like "no drama" or "my independence must be respected." It's not about two people co-existing, in other words, but about two people bonding, being together. Two is better than one kind of deal.

RE: Can or Do "Independent" people make good "Partners"?

Well, again, "independent" is one of those eye-of-the-beholder traits. It means something different to everyone.

Some people believe being independent means saying/believing things like: "I don't need you in my life - I have all the happiness within me - but someone might make a good complement to that." I've heard that a lot here. Others mean that they like to do things alone and/or need a lot of their "private space." Still others might mean being allowed to tie their own shoelaces.

I don't like the "I don't need you except as a complementary person" or the "I need my private space" kind of people. Or, more accurately, I don't like (as a romantic partner) the kind of people who feel they must announce those kinds of things.

It's kind of like the point I've been making (in other threads) about emphasizing the negative. It's not that there aren't qualities we view negatively, but we ought, in my view, not emphasize them - that is, our methodology should consist of seeking what we like in a person, not what we don't like.

Similarly, our emphasis should be on seeking a person we may become very attached to (positive methodology), as opposed to someone who will leave us alone (negative methodology).

RE: I went online to have a chat...and so on the floor a big big rat!

From what I've seen, you may have set a new record low in your insipid threads (which I'll be avoiding like the plague henceforth).

RE: am I missing something??

RE: am I missing something??

Your original post is far to vague to reply substantively to. Though I have an idea what people *generally* mean when they refer to "drama," one's conception of that clearly varies from person to person. What's "drama" to one is "interesting" or "exciting" to another. Some people consider "drama" to consist of having an actual serious conversation. I met a number of women online who responded negatively to the very notion of having a conversation which might involve some controversy and debate. Perhaps they considered that to be "drama" - I don't know.

I do know that I'm not compatible with any woman who makes "drama-evasion" a central plank of her compatibility stance. Reminds me of those profiles that state: "Not into games." That seems more reflective of individual relationship misadventures - that is, focusing on what went wrong in prior relationships rather than on what makes one happy in a relationship - and I don't think that's a very productive approach when seeking a romantic relationship.

RE: What Is It That Always Draws Us Back?

Thanks, Sas. That's T's doing. She likes to commemorate our every activity in film. Well...maybe not all of our activities...

RE: Do You Believe in UFO's?

Just hovering there peacefully (it was a glowing spherical object). My son and a half-dozen of his friends watched a silent triangular craft land briefly on a hill maybe 50 - 75 yards from them out in the California countryside one night. My sighting was in the Northern CA countryside as well, though it during a hot summer day. (And no, I wasn't drinking any beer...yet.)

RE: Do You Believe in UFO's?

I've seen one, and so has my son. And I'm not even a Democrat.

RE: Do You Believe in UFO's?

Right. No one - even the USG - denies that unidentified objects in our atmosphere exist. It's a question of what they are.

I think it likely that some of them aren't from around here.

RE: What Is It That Always Draws Us Back?

I returned from Canada a week ago having left 6-foot snow drifts and returning to verdant pastures and lawns denuded of all "white stuff"!

Now it's bike-riding season and driving without slipping all over the place on my northern trips!

Glad you're back, by the way. The place isn't the same without you.

RE: What Is It That Always Draws Us Back?

Maybe there's something in your coffee, S?

RE: Can a time frame be put on falling in love?

Well, the basic thing is falling in love at the same time (or near it).

RE: ROSEOFSHARON - IMPORTANT!!

Who are you and what have you done with our beloved Rose??!!

Sorry that happen to you, A. So bloody annoying when that happens.

RE: Perhaps not a new story...

Well, first I'd contact him and tell him what you know (assuming you haven't already "talked" to him).

I believe she does have the right to know, even though it will hurt her, because it seems likely that he will do this again (and again!), and she deserves to be informed of this aspect of his character.

RE: Who is the Most Talented nation in the world ?

And those aren't nations, either.

RE: Why do men run scared when women tell them how they feel?

Friendship doesn't involve "real emotional feelings"??

RE: Why do men run scared when women tell them how they feel?

You, you oughta know, E.

RE: Why do men run scared when women tell them how they feel?

Is that addressed to me or to the OP, Venusenvy? I don't think we've established that about the OP yet (or I missed her reply to that question)...

RE: Why do men run scared when women tell them how they feel?

RE: Why do men run scared when women tell them how they feel?

I was wondering the same thing. Whether or not they've met in person has some relevance to this situation. First, it's relevant to the reality of the professed emotions (love not being likely sans physical meeting, so the likelihood of illusion is much higher), and second, a day without communication is less grievous for those who know each other in person, I think (though one day isn't particularly grievous in any case; sometimes it's the best medicine during a disagreement).

Third, if your relationship is exclusively "virtual," that places a different and often more problematic set of difficulties, where ceasing communication might be more significant than in a "Real Life" relationship.

I'm glad to hear you've re-established contact. For what it's worth, I see nothing at all alarming or unusual in the man's response or in your situation in general. Love ain't easy - particularly the initial feelings of vulnerability until your relationship clarifies.

RE: Why do men run scared when women tell them how they feel?

You win the prize, John.

RE: Why do men run scared when women tell them how they feel?

RE: What Country is the most Free...?

They sure like to keep it confusing up (and over) there!

RE: A TURN ON.....??

I don't think anyone could blame you for that, Ken.