Martia Forum Posts (2,888)

RE: Sick of heart breaks

Well Some of the guys I dated were in their sixties but acted like they where the biggest playboys out utterly ridiculous

And finding the right one is defiantly BETTER than winning the lottery at my age...its a jungle out there.

RE: Is it around the corner

I understand completely where you are coming from Rivame I remember when my ex talked about going back to the UK he asked if I would go with him and I said no way could I leave our daughter and grand daughter alone in Aus as you know he went anyway.

Then when my daughter met someone she did not hesitate to move to Sydney and I was left on my own which was very hard at first for me and I never said a word as she had been to hell and back with her accident and her ex walking and father walking out and she deserved sone happiness bless her, I decided I wanted someone to love and to share my life as I had so much love still to give.

You know the rest, but when her relationship broke down she came back home... its hard sometimes(boy its hard) with two families living in a 16 square house but when this property sells we will make sure that the new place will have plenty of room or a unit so even if she doesent meet someone again they will have somewhere to live and my guy is quite happy putting his half towards that type home for all of us.(yes I am so lucky)

This is what we do' this is what being a parent is and all of you would do the same without a second thought.

Nature' this is a very good thread and often our dear Dags gets a bit big for his boots but all he needs is a swift kick up his budgie smugglers.....till the next time.

RE: Is it around the corner

Daggs its good to have a discussion about this but what gives you the right to tell Merri if she has been to see a Doctor that is quite an insult,since you have found someone you are apt to become really smug about it and that is not fair.

Looking through both Merri's and Wash's posts they are very close to their families and no matter what ever happens they know that they can rely on each other.

Thinking about this I can see both sides to the story now' and I realise that it would take someone very special for them to ever consider leaving the family unit,both of you must be very much loved.

RE: Is it around the corner

You are so right about unlearning and to relearn' I think that is the main stumbling block of any relationship.
As we get older it becomes harder as we do get set in our ways all we can do is to remember to give and take as non of us are perfect.
So often I think about how lucky I am to have this sweet and gentle man in my life as I put the top back on the toothpaste and retrieve so many of of the things he has lost around the house.

RE: Is it around the corner

Never a truer word has been spoken Ven' it seems that the people that have been hurt in the past and have trust issue's seem to congregate on here.

When you think about it they have so much in common its a wonder that some dont get together ...or is that asking too much.

RE: Is it around the corner

When I met my guy he traveled from Canberra and back every weekend and School holidays, 11 hrs on the road there and back to see me for 6 months before he relocated, in that time we realised that we loved each other enough to live together.

He was a high School maths teacher in Canberra but now he is working in a private School here teaching children with attention deficit disorders and various offshoots of that condition.

It was like fate really as when we first made contact he was living by himself drinking at night and working too hard by day.
When he moved in with me he took extended leave just in case it did not work out for us.

In the second week of moving in this teaching job was advertised in Benalla and he got it.
He really loves this work and it is only 3 min from home.
He does not drink at all now doesn't need it.

I am so lucky to have met him' for once it seems that fate was on my side as to me he is everything I have wanted in a man,we are working towards buying a home together and we will go in half each to purchase a property somewhere on the mid north coast of NSW.

The farm was so run down but we are bringing up to scratch so with luck when it goes back on the market it wont be so hard to sell.

When I was looking for a partner I would have been quite willing to drop everything and go anywhere as was my guy, it was just lucky that we were looking for the same thing.

It took me two long years to find him but the experiences in between were invaluable as I found out what I was really looking for and I would never make do I couldent' as this is the rest of my life I am looking at.

RE: social network exeriences

I am on FB but not very often, its got its place like keeping up with family and friends' but I have seen in some cases it can take over peoples lives and in that context its very dangerous and intrusive.

Believe it or not there was a world before FB and somehow we got by without it ok.JMO.

RE: Is it around the corner

Ah Wash therefore lies the problem with so many just think if everyone felt like that dating sites would not exist.
When I first ventured into the world of internet dating I was like that'and waited for them to contact me and some did which boosted my confidence,so after a while I got my courage up and contacted a few myself.

What was surprising is that some thought I was very attractive and and got back to me..but an equal number rejected me outright as not attractive to them at all ,but it did not worry me as I realised that beauty is in the eye of the eye of the beholder.

When you contact a lady they can only say yes or no its not like its in person,you come over as a really great guy but you have put restrictions on yourself like saying my family always comes first'
It sounds like well...I will never care for you as much as my own flesh and blood and they come first so dont bother' so of course they wont' those that are genuine are Ladies that are looking for someone to love them with all their heart as they would you and would want to be at least equally important in your life.

My dear if you found that special lady she would grow to love your family too as that is part of what makes her special dont you see.
Also there is a good chance that anyone you meet will also have family that they love as well.


Let your guard down dont close the door before its even open.
We are on this world but once and most of us need that special one in our life to make us complete that is how we are made

RE: Sick of heart breaks

Maybe CS thinks my pets are more attractive to look at than myself.

Or it might be seen as some form of advertising food maybe.

RE: Sick of heart breaks

Oh Kizzy you are still a spring chicken...instead of looking at what you havent got lets look at what you have.

You are financially independent.

You have your wonderful children who will always be there for you.

You have your health and most of your teeth I guess.

You love your Career.

Live close to the Beach.

No Guy in your life......could be a plus if you think hard about it.


Now what you haven't.

A guy in your life dunno: Ok you have time on your side but if you are getting a bit frisky get the latest modal Vibe' start doing the dating sites in earnest and find the one with your name on him.. because he is out there' its just a matter of finding him,you might have to kiss a few more frogs in your search as you know but if I could do it at my age YOU most certainly can.

When the going gets tough Kizzy gets going.

RE: Photo Comp - Subject is STILL LIFE

Love the Queen Palms, got six around the house but dont seem to grow anywhere near the size of these ones ...I expect its because they need the Tropics to really do well.

RE: People with beards are shifty looking

I think Peter Ryan is one of the shiftiest people I have ever seen,and from today's paper he is keeping up to that image. Even a beard could not hide that.

RE: People with beards are shifty looking

I love beards on older guys' in fact I talked my guy into getting one but he shaved it off.

RE: Tony Abbott, is he mad?????

The only hope we have got of escaping the dreaded Carbon Tax is a change of Government before July the first...and that aint gonna happen.

RE: We looking help

I think this answer covers it all,and with the help and advice you have got from this thread with the links as well its just a matter on starting the process by pressing one of those links.

Let us know how you are progressing from time to time.

RE: We looking help

I would suggest you do what I did many years ago'and that is go to the Australia High Commission in London or call up and ask how to apply to migrate to Aus.... in fact this will already be on the internet any questions you might have.

Its no good asking us really as we cannot help you,this is something you must look into yourself and speak to the people who can.

Good luck.

RE: Anyone up for some multiplay games?

Ok Ok are you a fake

RE: Anyone up for some multiplay games?

Looking where the heck do you get these rumours from ????? for goodness sake and what has this young guy done to you for you to have a go at him like this ....Do you know what!! I dont get to hear any rumours because I dont message anyone like that to hear them in the first place' never have never will as dont mix in those circles of backbiting and deceit.

Yea Yea you were only joking.

RE: finding love

Your mother was a very wise lady.

RE: Tony Abbott, is he mad?????

No I did not mean that' Communism means all the same (I think) no rich or poor leaders or followers just equal....it cant work impossible.

RE: Tony Abbott, is he mad?????

Just wish Gillard would do the same thing and take the Carbon Tax with her.

RE: samaritan and rats

Any chance to get stuck in to somebody aye Carl .....

RE: finding love

Its up to you if you are just sitting there waiting it could be a while' so... if you see someone who looks interesting send them a flower and see what happens.

RE: samaritan and rats

I used to have pet rats and my fav was a sweet pale cream and white female I named Jenny, she was one of the sweetest cleanest little souls I have ever come across I took her everywhere with me when I was about 9yrs old never forgot her.

I feel sorry for Rats in a way as they dont know what they are' they are just trying to survive just like the rest of the living beings on this planet,cant say I would go up to a to a wild one and pat it though.

RE: HOW SICK IS THIS

I love horses as well' but the trouble is Curly you cant have them go to sleep at the bottom of the best even if it is king size.

RE: Your best ever date

Damn' would have loved to have met you' will give you my phone number so when you go this way again the cuppa will be waiting.

RE: HOW SICK IS THIS

This guy is looking for publicity and he is getting it,I haven't looked at it as that is what he wants,he is not worth a second thought.

I am about the living.... as far as I am concerned I want to be cremated when I die and the ashes thrown on the garden to help the rose bushes.

RE: HOW SICK IS THIS

Oh Def you are so right. I simply do not know what I would do without my four dogs and one cat' it does not cramp our style in fact it enhances it one hundred fold.

RE: Your best ever date

Hi Risky thanks,I hope things are sorting themselves out for you
There are some great people on here in fact the best group I have seen on here and they even put up with me and my idiosyncrasies.

RE: Your best ever date

Ditto sweetheart' but get rid of that crew cut.