I think it's to do with suffering hardship with dignity and strength, but of course suppressing emotions can be very damaging.
There's a whole load of research about women and crying - it's deemed acceptable for women to cry in many cultures across the globe, but not express emotions like anger. We tend to express anger with tears, but then lose sight of our true emotions, thinking we're sad, rather than flamin' furious. It seems the more oppressed women are in a culture, the more they express their anger with tears. The last thing you want a group of oppressed people to do is express their anger about it.
I'm guessing the same applies for funerals. If there's a history of unfairness and oppression in terms of poverty, industrial, or maybe war related deaths, the last thing you want is for people to get angry and upset.
It is likely to hamper your chances because most people won't be able to handle it, at whatever point you tell them.
If you're going to be involved with someone who can handle it, they kinda need to be a thinking type of person. Tell them up front and give them the opportunity to think about it, I reckon.
What evidence do you have that in large families children are neglected, or do not get enough attention?
In large families it may be there are more people to give attention, as well as receive attention.
When my daughter was small, I received many comments about how difficult it can be just having one child and how much more dependent they are on attention from just one person. The implication was that children from larger families are maybe better at interacting with others.
Including the dog is human psychology based upon ideas of fairness. Dogs don't get fair. It'll just confuse the dog, giving her the impression she's got a chance of being in a better pack position which she'll keep fighting for, as she's doing now.
They need to ostracise her (send her to bed and make her stay there) until she learns her place at the bottom of the heap (and do this consistently every time she pushes her luck). They need to do simple things, for example, always eat first and feed her afterwards so she understands her place in the pack. She'll be a happier and more secure doggy knowing where she stands.
The dog is not mean, she is just asserting her place in the pack order.
Neither of the humans know how to be a proper pack. Even if they get rid of the dog, they're likely to have relationship issues because they're not behaviourally/emotionally self-, or other-aware enough to work anything out for themselves.
People are generous around here and don't mind stopping for me to make a fuss of their dogs. I made friends with a beagle-ish mutt called Cookie yesterday. She was lush.
jac_the_gripper Forum Posts (5,363)
RE: Must we feel so singular about religion..
You have two dogs now?I have none.
I think you should share.