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If people see no value disposing of litter responsibly, they wouldn't do it. You have to be able to see the value in a litter free environment in order to not carelessly drop your waste on the floor.
Benny, if serial killers saw no value in life, there would be no value in taking it away.
It's the sense that life is so valuable which creates the sense of empowerment in destroying it.
As I understand it, serial killers and mass murderers are defined different by law.
A serial killer is defined as someone who kills three, or more people in series. A mass murderer is someone who kills a group of people (I don't know how many people that has to be to qualify) at once. So, a mass murderer is someone who blows up a building with people in it, or goes on a shooting spree round a mall, for instance.
Whilst there are elements in common, there will also be significant differences, notably the psychology, or motives behind the killings.
Is this thread about why people develop into serial killers, or about how the victim's families feel?
Maybe it's you who needs to think and clarify things in your mind because at the moment what you are saying is something akin to, "Some people develop into serial killers because their victim's families are grieving."
By introducing emotions and drama you avoid a logical progression of thought. If you avoid a logical progression of thought, you have no hope of identifying contributory factors. If you fail to identify contributory factors you not only fail to find ways of stopping it, you may potentially contribute to it.
'Know their victims' in what sense, Galrads? A group might know that a barracks is full of soldiers, or a certain conference centre full of politicians, but will they necessarily know the people personally who are killed if they blow it up?
In which case, if 'knowing the victim' is about group belonging, an individual woman of a certain look and age has no less group belonging, do they?
You raise an interesting point about the phrase being 'coined'. It's a construct to help us make sense of our world and should be treated as such. We can't really afford to miss the point if we value human life.
I suspect it's easier to think of them that way, yes.
It enables us to distance ourselves from the the fact that serial killers are human. If we recognise that they are human we run the risk of recognising that we have more in common than is comfortable.
The Iceman Interviews (Richard Kuklinski) are interesting if you're any good at picking up on subtleties.
It's perhaps likely that she's angry, hurt and grieving for her loss. Her reaction, rightly, or wrongly is simply her process. She may never have learned healthier ways to deal with loss.
I realise when someone says, or does mean things it's hard not to react emotionally, especially when it's important to you, but her process is actually nothing to do with you as a person, or your partner as a person.
If you can't avoid her intrusions, perhaps view them compassionately, but remember they are separate from you.
If it's children, maybe recommend he keeps communication confined to what is necessary and reply to stuff which is unnecessary.
It will pass, he does need to work through it. You need to talk and work through too, through. Say how you feel about each incident that he raises. Explore your feelings, both of you. What do those feelings remind you of? What is to do with your past experiences interacting with the present? What is changeable? What needs to be accepted as simply being the way it is?
I wish I had more time to talk to you this morning, Pedro.
I'm not in the 'pull yourself together' camp. I'm in the 'it's healthy to be in touch with your feelings and keep talking about it, for there you will find your own way' camp.
Well y'know Dragos, it wasn't really a recognised career option for a kid from a council estate back in the 70's. It was just considered weird. And yes, I did things like that.
I can relate to 2I when she talked of women's career options back then. I remember having a total flap about policeman, fireman, milkman, doctor, boss, etc. being things I wouldn't be allowed to do. I felt my options were mother, or nurse, both of which involved vomit and I sooo did not want to do that!
I'm pleased we now use language like police officer and fire fighter which doesn't exclude girls and allows them to imagine more options for themselves.
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RE: Why do people develop into "Serial Killers?"
No worries, Peachy.I don't have issue with a bit of joking around. Like you said, it releases tension when discussing emotive topics.