No, they look nothing alike really, apart from their toenails.
I do think we tend to gravitate towards people who are similar, or complimentary in some ways and if our cognitive functioning is in part genetic, then maybe other physical features come along with that cohort. Or vice versa.
I doubt my mum and dad saw each other's toenails before they were married, which is maybe interesting in itself. They didn't speak the same language, either.
I think there's something in what you say, but not necessarily only noses.
You know when people get married and then a couple of weeks, or months later split up? I sometimes wonder if people distract themselves from difficulties by doing something fun and exciting, maybe even the 'done thing', but then find when the distraction is over all the problems are still there?
I wonder if saying 'I love you' is sometimes a way of communicating that something is wrong, maybe the person doesn't quite understand what's wrong, or can't communicate what's wrong. Maybe when someone says 'I love you' for the first time it's time to explore and communicate on a deeper level, rather than just reciprocate the gesture?
Just reciprocating, or not reciprocating maybe ends a conversation that really needs to be explored?
Perhaps it's a way of expressing "I need something back from you in order to keep my emotions open, or keep myself vulnerable" and when nothing, or little comes back she shuts down?
Maybe we do subconsciously offer each other plants in the hope it'll be watered and cared for? Or cherished?
It's not something I say easily, or naturally, even to family.
What I have recently noticed though, is it's a bit like giving someone a plant - I can think of someone who watered it and put it in the sunshine (my daughter); on the other hand, I can think of someone who seemed to think it was some kind of triffid. I've got a Basil Fawlty style comedy image going on inside my head of the plant getting watered when Sybil is around and threatened with being doused in petrol and set alight when she's not.
I think sometimes we talk about those words being said, but actually we're focussed upon how they're going to be responded to.
Perhaps a thread about what the responses to 'I love you' might mean to people might be interesting.
jac_the_gripper Forum Posts (5,363)
RE: Its in your Nose
Who let you on the computer without your carer, Ralph?