We get fires on the mountains aomewhere just about every year in this part of the world, but it's just brush with enough rocky barriers that it doesn't reach the inhabited areas.
It's enough of an adrenalin rush seeing that. I can't imagine how frightening it must be living in a more vulnerble area.
I agree with Rohaan, but also, why should it be your choice how people should sensibly conduct their relationships, rather than the people involved?
If it brings joy, or comfort to people what difference does it make whether they have online relationships, hit the sack and part ways within hours, or court, get married have a mortgage, 2.4 kids and half a dog?
Their choice, not yours.
Perhaps you might examine why it bothers you what other people choose to do.
I'm with Tim Cantopher on this. He wrote the book 'Depression - The Curse of the Strong'.
He suggests it's that very attitude of never giving in, of always being strong which actually leads some people to the exhaustion which is the depressive state.
It's in how you're wording it that isn't helpful, Bodey.
Say, if a parent loses their child, holds them while their dying and buries them, is it ethical, or productive to say an ensuing depression is self-created and just a product of their faulty thinking?
Sometimes, maybe just sometimes, depression is there for a reason. Maybe it's a coping strategy which is a necessary part of survival at some point for some people.
Allow people to own and trust in themselves, eh? Allow people to find their own paths to different coping strategies how and when the time is right for them.
If we each lived in a vacuum, I'd agree with you that depression is totally self-created Bodey, but we don't. We have experience which we react to, often forming a tangled web, which I agree may be self-defeated.
It could also be very defeating to come across without making a proper distinction between empowering and blaming people for their own struggles.
People have to find their own paths. People have to find when, where and how they may take responsibility and ownership according to their abilities, their individual experiences and their own belief systems.
Yup, and you opinion affects how you see people and the way you see people affects how you are and the way you are affects your interactions and your interaction affects your opinion.
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RE: What is important for a woman? (Why are you here)
Hey ho, such is life.