I think it's very odd when you don't fully know your origins. My parents are my parents, but there's enough missing information about my mother's origins for it to have affected my sense of identity. The more I've been able to piece together, the less at a loss I've felt in this area.
Having said that, there's always a nagging doubt that I might not have put the pieces together correctly and that I have 'created' my sense of identity. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
I'm concerned how my granddaughter will feel not ever knowing her father. So far, she's not really questioned it, she has a mum and a Gugu (grandmother) and that's it. One day, she will question it, though. My daughter and I are at a loss as to how to deal with that day.
It's not uncommon that deeply unhappy and/or abused children dream of having been switched at birth and that their their real parents will turn up one day. It's maybe a way of feeling lovable, or a way of having hope of getting out of the nightmare.
I reported a seriously under-age profile yesterday and it was gone within seconds.
I think CS staff are very protective of children in more ways than one, plus, it might be a lot easier to remove a profile than a thread, or face-puzzle.
Whilst some people might not like naked pics and ones of women in particular might have an exploitative element to them, we are grown ups.
When my daughter and granddaughter moved out I thought, "Thank goodness I have the dog!"
Then my dog died.
I like the atmosphere of family, too.
Oh, and btw, I'll come and help you wash Still's mouth out with soap and water. One of either side of him watching him do his lines, arms folded, feet tapping. Hmmmph.
Yes, and more boys/young men seem to have a close friend who they talk about things with, like girls/young women do.
I think it's all very healthy.
I remember being disallowed from having a boy in my room. We were only talking and doing homework together. I thought it was normal and my mum turned it into something sordid. It kind of spoilt our friendship.
I realise this is frowned upon in Western culture, but I think it's healthy for families to get on well enough to be able to live together.
I'm glad my daughter and granddaughter had their own place for a while. It gave us the opportunity to change roles and move boundaries. I hated them being too far away though, and I'm glad they are back.
And of course there is a move towards families living together for financial and practical reasons. If minimum wage will get you one unheated room to live in, conditions will be better keeping that money in the family.
Either way, it's sounds like many of them have good communication/sensitivity influence.
My daughter once said at about age 13/14 that she preferred boys who were raised by their mothers alone. She felt they treated her as an equal, as a human being.
Well, it might not be the whole paradigm collapsing.
I think many people don't take holy books literally, or believe everything in them. Holy books do contain parables and so there is an invitation to interpret, as I see it. People do seek their own 'truths'.
But it does appear that atheism taps into something for some people. Maybe the sense of security, or unity that it may threaten is more subtle and less catastrophic for 'believers'. If you've already rejected a paradigm, then the frame of reference might be be 'this has collapsed for me, therefore it will collapse for others if only I tell them why'.
If people haven't rejected a paradigm, perhaps they won't have the same frame of reference for it's potential catastrophic vulnerability. Perhaps it would be more about losing something, like losing the right to worship openly, or talk openly, for example.
Maybe it has less to do with morality and more to do with not needing group belonging, or a pragmatism which might threaten how some people make sense of their world.
It's easy to blame others when feeling hurt and angry.
Did you get to vote as a Scottish immigrant in England? Perhaps you feel upset and angry at yourself for not being there.
I think it's possible that some Scots are scared of going it alone and being independent. Let's face it, jobs are scarce, zero hour contracts are rife and many people rely on handouts just to live in one cold room and scrabble for food and clothes, never mind shoes.
Many people aren't in a position to lose what little sense of security they have. I can't bring myself to berate people for that.
Having said all that, this referendum wasn't a waste of time. It's a stepping stone in the process towards independence. You'll get there.
jac_the_gripper Forum Posts (5,363)
RE: switched at birth
Has your mind learned not to travel to naughty land?Damn, that's no fun.