I always feel at home wherever I am, but I am often treated by others as a foreigner or an outsider. I just think that while some people can see us, others can not.
I am told that my biggest fault is that I do and say exactly as I please.
I don't care for conventions because I believe most of them are based in people-pleasing and lies. If I ask you how you are, I really want to know, and if you ask me the same question, then you better be prepared for an honest, even sometimes lengthy answer.
I don't do embarrassment, because I don't see the need for pretending like it matters. Anything that doesn't fundamentally change something for the better is a waste of my time and effort, in my book.
I only ever lose the plot when someone vulnerable is being harmed, and woe betide anyone who is doing the bullying then.
I have many more perceived faults but none of them bother me, since perceptions are just that...........
I think it is easier if you are not alone. I would wish for you that you have someone to go places with and plan a future with. It would be so much easier for you then.
My kids have been left home for some years now. Not only that, but my oldest daughter now lives in Barcelona, and my son just moved to Kiev. I only have one left in Ireland, and she and her partner and their kids don't even live in the same town as I do.
While I love to see them all independant and successful, and they are, very much so, I just couldn't get used to it in the beginning. It was like a bereavement every day. Luckily I had still been fostering teenagers for those first few years, so it wasn't quite so bad, but now I no longer do that this past year, the house is very empty.
I plan visits and chat with them on the internet by webcam and we get by on that, but it is still difficult not being able to meet for coffee or having our ritualistic lunch once a week to catch up with each other's news. It has been nearly a year since I have seen my daughter now, and she was the closest of my kids, and the one I would have had the most daily interaction with.
Nothing ever fills that gap I don't think. They range in age from mid twenties to thirty, so I would often go for a drink with them or to the theatre, and places like that, but since they are gone I no longer do that now by myself, because it is no fun alone.
That's all very well if it is something you can recover from, 12 steps or not, but what happens to that theory when yo are not going to recover, but get worse and suffer more........
No one was talking about anyone settling for anyone who is not attractive to them.
On a different level altogether, what you are attracted to starts with thoughts, based on your character, and your degree of growth and openness, or not, to the inner workings of your being...
When you are sufficiently evolved, you don't have to "tolerate" anything, or any one. You see beyond superficialities and accept everyone for whom they are in totality.
I think that anyone who wants to eat fish, should be made to catch it fresh each time they want it, and only enough for their own needs. When they do this, they will appreciate it more and eat less and the exinction problem will be solved.
Certain foods are just too convenient, and are abused because of this, and there is little appreciation for the effort it takes to provide for our often very selfish needs when it comes to food in general and our predelictions in particular.
I've already met several Irish and European members and liked all of them.
While there are many I wouldn't give house room to, I would like to meet Sommer and Captain, (both really interesting people, who have warm hearts, and whose conversational skills never tire), Jan, ( very sweet lady, fun, clever, well travelled, and wise), and Ivan, (whom I have talked to many times on FB and whom I find very knowledgable and intersting) from EU.
Eileen and Nuala from the Irish forums, (because of their generous caring natures, and they are both good fun).
Tina is a must, from Intl. I love her straight talking.
All of these people I would trust as genuine decent people who would never make me feel less than I am.
I have left out many names on here of people that I also talk with every day. I don't know them as well as the ones I have mentioned, and no slight intended, but when I meet people, I like to feel comfortable, and these people make me feel that.
All my father's family are blonde and blue eyed, from the pictures, and records we have back to the early 1700s. They are all typical Scandanavian looking people, of Viking ancestry.
My mother's family are celts, red hair, with hazel or brown eyes.
I went from (Chicago)Illinois, to (some town I can't remember the name of, near a little place called Knox) Indiana, then on to (Louisville) Kentucky, (Nashville) Tennessee.
Then (Florence, on the way to Cherokee) Alabama, and finally to Iuka, Mississippi, all in different stages over a period of a month.
I enjoyed it very much and met lots of interesing people. It was a great way to travel and see the country.
Some of the stopovers to get connecting buses were long, but the bus stations were well equipped and comfortable, and full of even more interesting people.
The staff were very courteous and my luggage never got lost.
There can be any number of reasons why it happpens to younger men too.
Most of the reasons have to do with illness and it's medications though.
Sometimes some kind of psychological trauma or esteem issue can cause it.
Younger men with ED most certainly have to go see their doctor as soon as they discover it, or even their local GUM clinic, and talk about it with someone who can help.
I think some men who can't get it up, (and there are a lot of them over 50), overcompensate for their disability. It's like they are out to prove it doesn't matter and insist on trying to please women more often than they would if they could...
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RE: What do you think are your worst qualities?
Poke it with a biro....