gingerb Forum Posts (4,139)

RE: Am I a Hillbilly??...a Hick, a Yahoo?

Good country music gets right past cynicicm, to the heart and soul of the truth of living, and all it's attandant emotions. I have a soft spot for country music myself, but only the best of.....

I generally tend to love all music as long as it is not badly written or arranged, though I rarely listen to any these days, because then I might have to acknowledge I had feelings...

RE: blue jeans are for men .. wimmin should wear skirts

Apparantly you need good circulation and air flow to be firing on all cylinders.....

RE: How sad is that?

I think you have hit on something there. Naivety allows for being in love, or what people suppose is love, but is really a dangerous place for someone to be, not using their common sense.

Knowing too much doesn't seem to allow for those softer feelings that come with naivety, and being cynical is no fit replacement for the gentler feelings needed to see people through that love fog needed for long term relationships.

RE: blue jeans are for men .. wimmin should wear skirts

Men should go back to wearing skirts. Trousers were never the right shape for men anyway, scrunching up the tackle and all that.

RE: How sad is that?

Many marriages are broken beyond repair on honeymoons when people are forced into each other's company for weeks at a time when they don't really know each other. Maybe she wasn't giving him any, or found out he had a small appendage and laughed at him. Who knows these things.

It would appear that she wasn't the light of his life anyway, because he would have been watching her, (to the stage where he couldn't take his eyes off her, if they were madly in love,) and so he'd have seen her get in trouble, and rushed to help because he would be supposed to care, and since he was experienced in diving and such things.

The valves on those tanks are round the back aren't they, so no way she could have turned it off herself, and if someone else did, no way she could have reached it to put it on again.

Someone would have to have held her under too, because natural instinct is to go to the top if in trouble. She would also have looked to her husband if she got in trouble, since he was the one she'd have known best, and she'd have known he was experienced in such things and could help her.

Any of that being the case, (and not saying it is here,) he'd have been in a position of trust and in a great place to take advantage, if he was harbouring a grudge. He definitely had opportunity.

For anyone to flip to the extent of cold-bloodedly killing someone like that, would mean they had some latent psychopathic or homicidal tendencies or other mental illness lurking, and it was only a matter of time anyway... Motive is not always so easy to find.

Just wondering what kind of a woman would marry him knowing he was accused of killing his first wife just a short time before, and at that time on the run.......

RE: How sad is that?

No accounting for people.

RE: Happy happy birthday baby

Many happy returns.

RE: Do you believe in past lifes?

Hi Stress

It was just something I have been observing over time.

Everyone who is regressed can't be Cleopatra or Napoleon, yet a large number claim that, or some other famous person, or a person who is close to a famous person in history.

Even those who claim to have lived in a certain place at a certain time with the address and everything, could just as easily be seeing someone else's life in the past and not their own.

Just because someone does astral travel in regression form and see things in the first person, does not mean that what they are seeing is their own life.

There is absolutely no proof anywhere that past lives can be proven for any individual because it can't be proven that the life you are regressing into is your own.

Now I know that because it has become an accepted norm in today's thinking, it is hard for anyone to look outside that particular box, but I think it is necessary not to perpetuate lies or misconceptions, because we can learn nothing new if we persist in travelling up the same wrong road over and over, just because everyone else seems to be going that way.

I know you will understand where I am coming from here Stress.

RE: Do you believe in past lifes?

I can't see any logic in it at all. It is all hearsay. No court in the world would accept that as any kind of proof of anything, let alone any form of accepted logic.

There is nothing at all to say that people who do regressions don't just get glimples of other people's past lives, not their own. Spiritualists do this all the time. It is called mediumship, when they see and often inhabit the life of someone long dead, in order to explain something to someone living.

The power of suggestion in hypnosis is a powerful thing, as is auto suggestion, ( the suggestion that finding your past life is actually what you are going to be doing when you are regressed). A willingness to have things suggested to you is also a dangerous thing. No knowing how people can manipulate others when in a hypnotic or relaxed state and suggestable.

No accounting for mass gullibility though, or a willingness to be part of that.

RE: Correct mistakes, But don't be self-righteous..

I would have to agree with this. It is incredibly bad mannered.

I often wonder how any of the serial-correctors would feel about attempting to have conversations on here in Korean, Chinese, Japanese, Urdu, Finnish, Swedish, or any of the languages that are first languages for the people who post on here, and who made the effort to write in a language they are not familiar with or speak on a daily basis. To be laughed at, or corrected for making the effort, beggars belief.

RE: The Smoking and Honesty Thread, cont...

I used to believe that too, but this time it was partly forced on me, even though I knew all the things that every smoker knows about better health and such. I was very resentful for the first week. I actually slept through the first 72 hours because I couldn't bear to be awake and thinking about buying more. The only thing that kept me going past that is a steel core I have, where I won't let anything, (particularly myself), get the better of me. Today, finally I haven't missed them at all.

RE: The Smoking and Honesty Thread, cont...

Hi Lago. Huge hugs.

RE: The Smoking and Honesty Thread, cont...

Use techniques to help you, like take a deep breath when you get the urge, or get up and do something, or distract your mind with something else. Also give yourself an immediate reward every time you don't give in. And don't indulge the thought that you will never be able to smoke again. To outright deny yourself something is to court disaster and cause a craving. Good luck.

RE: The Smoking and Honesty Thread, cont...

Hi Jan. I've been coming in and reading the odd post on and off and could have sworn I read someplace that you found a significant other ??????????????.......

I love to see nice things happening to people in here.

RE: The Smoking and Honesty Thread, cont...

No what I mean is I just don't want them. The only thing that makes you want a ciggie , is having one.

If you never have that next one, the need for them gradually leaves your body.

RE: The Smoking and Honesty Thread, cont...

I cut cold a couple of weeks ago and now don't want them any more.

RE: What's your Philosophy

I learned that you have to step back to see the big picture.

RE: Can you travel half the world to meet your soulmate?

No kiddin' It didn't put me off dating again. I just put more safety precautions in place these days.

RE: Can you travel half the world to meet your soulmate?

I wouldn't travel that distance any more, no matter if he was the most perfect man for me on earth. I travel lesser distances these days, like within the country mostly.

RE: Can you travel half the world to meet your soulmate?

Needless to say I don't do that any more.......

Glad you met someone nice.

RE: Can you travel half the world to meet your soulmate?

Been there done that long time ago, after months of talking online. He was very attentive, nice words, nice pics, very sociable and caring.....

He turned out to be the drug addicted, alcoholic, liar from hell, who robbed me of over 1000 dollars, before trying to set his dog on me, then shoot me, and that was before he proposed.....

Needless to say I got out of there as soon as I could.

Not saying don't go meet them. Just saying be careful.

RE: What di you think of Sara-Freder

She is a complete fraud.

RE: What is the most common way(s) your romantic relationships end? Is there a pattern?

I put down the ending of my relationships to my own decisions every time, even though sometimes I make it look like the other person made that decision. I sometimes engineer things so they don't want to be with me any more.

I have many intolerances. For instance I couldn't see myself being near, never mind living with, someone who abuses alcohol, or drugs, has dirty personal habits, lies, or is abusive or intolerant in any way, especially verbally.

When I find those qualities in someone I am seeing, then I am often very sweet, sometimes saying nothing, but when an opportunity arises (as soon as possible afer the incident), I tell the person I no longer wish to see them, and I break all contact. I detatch completely. I never go back, nor stay friends.

I value certain standards for myself and my family and have limits to the habits of the people I allow to be around us. I do this because I care about maintaining the standards my family live by. Experience has taught me that to compromise my standards, by allowing second chances to people in these circumstances, ends up in repeated incidents of the offending behaviour.

I like a peaceful harmonious life, even if I decide to live it alone with just my family and close friends.

RE: how do you fall in love with a computer monitor....

Well said Kid.

RE: how do you fall in love with a computer monitor....

I was continuing on the topic of whether we can reognise the warning signs online, for people we wish to have relationships with, as well as we do in real life.

To make my point clearer, If a person, any person on here, told me that they didn't like people, and didn't take care of themselves, I'd personally see that as warning signs of a recluse or someone with problems and I would avoid them because that is certainly not what I am looking for in an open loving relationship.

I wasn't being personal to you, but just using what you pointed out about him, as an example to make my point.

At the end of the day, as with all of us, we sometimes don't see what can mean trouble later on in life, mostly because we are not looking for it at the time when we are making a decision whether to be with them or not.

In that respect the internet is no different from real life.

RE: how do you fall in love with a computer monitor....

Would'nt dream of bashing him or you here, but the warning signs were there. The "being in love" often masks it.

Anyone not taking care of themselves and not liking other people, are people with problems.......

Sometimes the joy we find in just being with another person hides the obvious or stops us looking for it in a lifetime partner.

RE: how do you fall in love with a computer monitor....

Not much in it, between virtual or real life I think, if the right conversations happen and honest answers given.

RE: how do you fall in love with a computer monitor....

Exactly!

RE: how do you fall in love with a computer monitor....

New keyboard and some of the keys aren't working properly.

RE: how do you fall in love with a computer monitor....

Nuanes!!! It is easy to tell in text if a person is coming across as aggressive, sarcastic, mean hearted, nautious, wimpy, or whatever, if you are looking for it.

Like with real life, weigh up the words, especially in light of things previously said. Look for anomalies. Use judgement.