I think, with reference ot the book, that the author is very young and very limited in his thinking and imagination.
How pathetic that he gets a whole new scenario to play with, in his mind, and what does he do? He takes his mind right back to what he is familiar with, in this very limited world we live in, full of material things, and exceptionally limited knowledge.
His mind even moves in ever decreasing circles, thinking up dramas with his limited family and friends and old work colleagues, and when that isn't limited enough, he takes the humanity away all together and takes the form of a horse and celebrates even more limited thinking. Now go figure!
Well done. 3 months now for me. Look out for the third week. Sometimes your mind will trick you into thinking you are home free and then something will happen and you might succumb to habit.
Giving up is not about staying off nicotine, it is about being vigilant of your thinking and beliefs around being a non-smoker.
Why should you be sorry whether I care about my advice being taken or not. It flows from me freely, (too freely, some might say), and there my attachment to it ends. No big deal.
Hope your life works out for you. I would agree with Snuggs though, in that you need to look at why you want to help people, (or what makes you think that you are qualified to do that).
Helping people is a great way to get into abusive and co-dependant relationships and get really badly hurt if not abused or killed. You are coming across as someone who can hardly help themselves right now, so vulnerable.
I wasn't talking about taking my personal advice. I personally don't give a rat's behind if you listen to me or not.
What galled me was not acknowledging each person who told you to dump him. You personally answered the others, but did not personally answer the ones who advised ending it. Call it the Libra thing in me, but that is not fair nor right in my book.
Many of the people who advised dumping him, did so from personal experience of being in similar situations to the one you are in now, and their advice and your situation could well have brought up all that negative stuff again for them in the thread. But, they still found the time to answer and advise you, only to be ignored except in a very general way several pages in.
I was thinking that too. She has studiously avoided even answering anyone who said dump him, which, besides showing an appalling lack of manners for those who gave genuine advice, means she has no intention of ending this fiasco with him.
She appears to be looking for ways to feed her fantasy that any of this, which she is describing, is in any way normal, or healthy, or good for her.
Many of us have profiles that are looked at every day, many times a day, by dozens of weirdos. It doesn't mean we build scenarios around all of them, or any of them for that matter, or make threads about them, asking for advice we don't even acknowledge.......
There has to be at least some measure of trust to love someone, often, sadly, even parents and siblings, and even our kids.
People who talk about unconditional love have just never been pushed far enough, or hurt sufficiently, or abused enough, to have experienced the breaking down of respect and even love for someone.
Same as an intolerance can happen with partners, so it can happen with anyone, even your closest family, in the right circumstances, and inevitably it is much more painful when it happens.
Anyone who tells you differently is talking through their best feature.
That is what I learned too. He didn't actually live with either wife as well, but just visited now and again. His youngest wife was with him just before he died. (That is documented.)
Anyway, the OP didn't pass Socrates test in telling us this, because it fails on all three levels.........It is hearsay, so no truth in it. It is something bad, and it is useless information......
I read a study once that stated that people are more likely to be friends with someone they give things to, than get things from... It is apparantly the act of giving that cements a friendship. If it works both ways all the better.
I have friends since childhood, ones from teen years, and some, I have been friends with for more than 40 years. My friends range in age from 1 year old to 97 years old. Whenever we meet we take up the conversations where we last left it off, and feel that no time was missed since we last saw each other.
We delight in each other's company and celebrate that each time we connect again. That is as it should be I think.
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RE: Afterlife - Whats your guess?
I think, with reference ot the book, that the author is very young and very limited in his thinking and imagination.How pathetic that he gets a whole new scenario to play with, in his mind, and what does he do? He takes his mind right back to what he is familiar with, in this very limited world we live in, full of material things, and exceptionally limited knowledge.
His mind even moves in ever decreasing circles, thinking up dramas with his limited family and friends and old work colleagues, and when that isn't limited enough, he takes the humanity away all together and takes the form of a horse and celebrates even more limited thinking. Now go figure!
Guess heaven is going to be a ball for him huh?