I think a lot of arranged marriages do work but only because they happen and are in areas of the world where marriages are still considered sacred. The Middle-East is one of those areas along with the Far-East. Women there would never think of talking to another man without their husbands consent. In fact, a lot of social activities there are planned so as to not mix men and women together. Also, in those countries the man is the head of household in the very definitive sense of the word, the "overlord" if you will of all his possessions....Including his wife! Here in the US or in some European countries, those marriages are threaten by societal pressures of a modern world and some of them end up in divorce, not without the woman suffering all the stigmas of her culture's customs and religion. Just as there are different languages for different parts of the world, different customs do also apply. More than half the Middle-East is under the lunar calendar which is about 400 years behind ours. Their way of thinking is very different than ours, especially on family issues.
Like dieting advices in magazines and how they fit with your way of life and personality, how many of you read and take the dating advices out of those pages? And in the same thought, have you ever dated someone who didn't quite fit the scenarios and personalities from those advices? Have you ever been in a "unique" situation when dating? How did you handle it?
For me, it was in 1999, me and my date met at the local bar. We played pool and she didn't have any problems letting me know how hot she was for me. I was completely embarrassed in that bar. Out the bar we went. It was raining cats and dogs and we jumped in her truck. I must say at that point I thought she was completely crazy but I stuck it out and was curious to find out where we were going. We stopped by a park where she proceeded to get out the truck and go for a "walk" in the rain. I thought she was out of her mind but I also have a sense of the spontaneous. We played in the rain, sat on a bench, walked some more... Now, had I taken the advices in those magazines, I would have booked as soon as the pool game was over. But I didn't and we ended up staying together for 6 years.
Physical appeal first. I'm a guy, what the heck. But as soon as the mouth opens, then personality appeal takes over and then the hell about the physical. I'd rather be with someone who's so-so who can stimulate my mind than be with a gorgeous woman and be bored about 20 hours a day.
You're right. but I'd only go up to 5 years above me and 7 to 10 below me. If there is a perfect age for me, that would be 35...But in a year, it'll be different
Yeah, I feel you. Honesty can be a detriment but look at it this way: at least you don't have to watch your back or remember any lies or who you told them to. Keep honest, keep positive, bro. Our rewards for that won't be non-existent.
Greg Bear, Isaac Asimov, Ann Rice, Robert E. Howard, H.P Lovecraft, Leonard Nimoy, And many more who have kept me company over the years. Magazines, poems, periodicals, news letter.... Anything that falls in my hands!
A business man on his way to Mexico city Encounters a local who's sleeping in the shade of a tree. The business man is perplexed at the man's obvious disregard for a days work " Amigo?" says he. " why are you sleeping in the middle of the afternoon Instead of working and making your wage, eh?" " Senior..." says the local. " And what would you suggest I do?" The businessman replies. " Well, vato! You could build houses, tend the fields, build roads, repair a roof....No?" The local inquires." And why should I do that, Senior?" " Chico!" Answers he. " So you can enjoy the fruits of your labor and later on relax and enjoy the nice summer's day sun in the shade of a tree, of course!" " Amigo," says the local." And what do you think I'm doing now?"
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RE: DO ARRANGE MARRIAGES WORK ?
I think a lot of arranged marriages do work but only because they happen and are in areas of the world where marriages are still considered sacred. The Middle-East is one of those areas along with the Far-East. Women there would never think of talking to another man without their husbands consent. In fact, a lot of social activities there are planned so as to not mix men and women together. Also, in those countries the man is the head of household in the very definitive sense of the word, the "overlord" if you will of all his possessions....Including his wife!Here in the US or in some European countries, those marriages are threaten by societal pressures of a modern world and some of them end up in divorce, not without the woman suffering all the stigmas of her culture's customs and religion.
Just as there are different languages for different parts of the world, different customs do also apply.
More than half the Middle-East is under the lunar calendar which is about 400 years behind ours. Their way of thinking is very different than ours, especially on family issues.