It says clearly in my profile in capital letters that I'm no longer looking. Yet still I get messages from men looking for a relationship. My profile also says I won't reply to messages that say things like 'hi how are you' or any such impersonal words and yet still I get those.
A few times I replied kindly about not looking and received unfriendly mail back.
Now I stopped giving it any thought. I reply and chat if it feels right with no purpose of anything developping.
I've decided that not replying also contains a message.
If people send messages without reading profiles then feel like their (unrequited) message gives them some kind of entitlement, surely it's their own flawed/distorted perception causing their discomfort. Nobody is responsible for somebody else's distorted perception apart from themselves.
I was 48 when I jumped off the wheel... not a single regret ... I sold the house, sold a few or gave away most of my belongings, cancelled all the insurances and financial commitments, gave my notice at the secondary school where I'd been a teacher for 16 years and started over. The fact I'm Spanish did help settle down fast as I didn't have to learn a new language like I did when I moved to England. Plus I had a lump sum from the sale of the house ...
I jumped off the hamster wheel 14 years ago and moved to a small village in the mountains somewhere near Malaga.
Since then I dip a toe in the trappings of modern life only when it suits me and live a peaceful simple life choosing what I want my days to be filled with. A bit of work here, a bit of work there, just enough to pay bills and buy food.
I like the modern technology that allows me to feel close to my family and work from home or fly to be with loved ones. But I don't have a home full of electric gadgets or a TV . People can choose ...
You know a particular type of women. The ones who are attracted to the particular type of man you are. And so all the other ones, who are attracted to the many many other different types of men, you know nothing about other than on a superficial level. Your advice won't work for everyone You're welcome
I once not so many years ago thought my house was going to burn down in a fairly local fire and so I said goodbye to all my belongings ... but then it didn't... Since then, I have whatever I want to have (and want or can spend money on) whithout guilt, knowing if I had to walk away I could. Why part with anything you don't want to or have too and not just enjoy it
I pack away some of my stuff and store it out of the way... Every now and then I bring out some of the stuff and store other things away. It's a way of recycling and not buying new things that I used to have but got fed up with
Being a woman is a full time job, and so is being a man!! Both should stand up and be counted and get their act together TOGETHER but two by two because three is a crowd
That's a perfect example!!! Your perception of a lady would knock most Spanish women of the lady throne!! Especially in the south where people are very expressive and not shy of showing their emotions!!! We can and we are loud We are loud when we are happy, when we are sad, when we laugh, when we cry, when we party
The one thing about it though is that everyone knows exactly how everyone feels to the great confusion of non Spanish people who think people are falling out or a bit drunk
In fact the word "evesdrop" does not exist in the Spanish language because Spanish people don't tiptoe around so nobody needs to evesdrop in order to hear what's going on. It's hilarious ...
The word lady doesn't really exist in Spanish. Married women or women of a certain age are addressed as "Señora" which is the definition of an adult woman and which translates as Mrs. Señorita for unmarried women or young women which translates as Miss And Señor for men no matter their age.
In gatherings men and women are often addressed as Damas (Ladies) y Caballeros (gentlemen).
The definition of a Dama is "a distinguished woman, especially well educated and high social class".
Anybody outside of high social class calling themselves a "dama" would be called presumptuous and laughed at. Because the word speaks of ancestral lineage and not of attitude and behaviour ...
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RE: How do you handle it?
Here have a hug