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RE: The COOL factor, do you bother, or does it bother you?

Only to the younger generations!!

Older generations could consider "not being cool" as quite a cool thing


May be just add it to your dictionary. It's more or less synonymous with "among"

RE: The COOL factor, do you bother, or does it bother you?

The definition of cool varies according to age, culture, who you hang out with, whether your culture has a class system etc ...

But I think the word cool is now not cool to use amongst the younger generations

RE: The. Wonderful budget.

RE: The. Wonderful budget.

RE: The. Wonderful budget.

Talking out of your backside there!!

My grandparents and parents lived during a civil war and dictatorship in Spain and know people who murdered or died of hunger and/sickness. My grandfather used to grow vegetables and feed many of the kids living in their streets to save them from hunger and ill-health. My other grandfather risked his own life by throwing ropes in to pits where had been pushed and set alight by Franco's "soldiers". And so it went till the 60's when ...,

We were a family of Spanish emigrants in France. Yes we went without many times, living in harsh poor conditions till my father "made good" working building homes for rich(er) people for quite a few years.

When I was at Uni I wanted to improve my English so I went to study inn England where I met the father of my children. I lived there till they were grown up and independent even though I was divorced by then.
I no longer live in England because it's not my country and I prefer to be living in my ancestral country where my roots and nationality is.

Hope this serves to demonstrate that you're in no position to lecture me or my family about war, poverty, sharing, immigration or ethics.

RE: The. Wonderful budget.

i added to my post afterwards!!

RE: Do you know anyone on CS?

RE: Eastern European, or western women .

Agreed

RE: Eastern European, or western women .

May be ... that would mean this English guy was running a "racket"
.... there was me thinking the only ones who were being "manipulated" were the "brides for sale" ... may be the ones who were being conned was the Western guys with the Girls as bait I'll never know as I refused to be part of it ...

RE: Eastern European, or western women .

Just got this a few minutes ago from a good looking 40 year old (from USA) : hello pretty I'm Micheal and i found you so attractive , hope you don't mind i will love to know more about you, what your name and were are you from ?


I think I was supposed to be blinded by his good looks and not notice anything else

RE: Eastern European, or western women .

Not my question nor my concern...




Well I think that this is cause for celebration!!! YCN actually describing himself as average!!!


As a aside... when I first arrived in Spain, I met an English neighbour who had a "Dating" website in Ukraine and used to travel there regularly. He asked me if I'd be interested in "looking after the website" and offered to pay me a fair amount of money for its maintenance. So I asked to have a look before accepting the job. I was gobsmacked by what I saw. This alleged "dating site" consisted of pages and pages of young amazingly beautiful women, most of whom had degrees and varied interests but were looking for "love" with a Western man who they promised to "take care of" and cherish for the rest of their life. Ok so I looked for the guys looking to date page since it was supposed to be a dating site. There wasn't one. When I asked where was the section for the guys looking to date, the neighbour replied that there wasn't a "public" one. Although they had a record of the guys who became members, the women could only see them when one of them would get in touch with them...

Being a Western lady with more ethics than need for money I turned the job down until the "dating site" became a true dating site rather than a bride for sale site as it appeared to be.

Why this story? Just so that you know that there are plenty of women who wish to make a life in the West with a Western man whatever motivates them to do so. Desperation, the wish for something different like you? The dream of a different life? Who knows

Good luck with your quest for a Eastern future partner. May it be what you dream of

RE: Eastern European, or western women .

RE: Eastern European, or western women .

So tell us YCN, which of those "attributes" you list do you have in short supply making impossible for you to date a Western woman?

Wondering what is included in the "etc" that Western women also demand....

RE: I miss the days when we had fun people .

Perception is an interesting thing ...

RE: I miss the days when we had fun people .

Those were the days when (some) men were not continuously posting threads or comments to run down women, (or women running down men) and we used to appreciate one another's humour because it was teasing but never nasty or below the belt!! And us women (mostly) had one another's back ...

They were cool times, in spite of the fighting in some of the threads between "sworn enemies" or "political opponents" ... the rest of the thread were a blast!!

RE: Curein oneself

Everything is relative and we're all inter-connected energetically/vibrationally. Any healing anyone does adds up towards reaching critical mass of high vibration

RE: Say .... Nothing, ... STF Up Thread #2

RE: Mohamed is...

Many boys/men named Jesus in Spain. It's my brother's second name

Still being used these days ...

RE: Have you ever been cat fished?

Just to clarify, my comment about therapy was about knowing that someone is dishonest and allowing the relationship to continue developing ... not about someone who doesn't realise they're being lied to ...

I think we should listen to our intuition and notice those those things that don't add up. Because if things feel like they don't add up, or we feel uncomfortable then it's for a reason...
Sorry you were so hurt
Many years ago, I was chatting for a very long time (sometimes for hours) with a guy who said he was separated. He used to travel a lot for business and was very fond of his dog who was a beautiful animal. I suddenly realised that he never talked about putting his dog in kennels or organising dog sitter etc... And it dawn on me that he was probably not separated. So on our next conversation I asked him: "Does your wife know that you're separated?" There was a long pause and then blah blah blah the story, my wife does not understand me blah blah blah It was quite comical really!! Thankfully we had never met!!
We used to get on quite well so we carried on chatting for a while till it petered out naturally...

I think it is possible to fall for someone you haven't met face to face yet and hopefully it happens between people who are both honest with one another ...

Something that people should probably not do is send money to anyone they've met online. Easy to say when not in the middle of a "love story" ...

RE: Have you ever been cat fished?

Well one would assume the photo on the profile is a recent one.
I don't think you're stupid. I think she was deceiving ...

RE: Have you ever been cat fished?

What I used to find annoying was when men had no photo but wouldn't accept to put one on their profile so that I'd have to give them my email address to see what they look like and if I refused they accused me of may be having "false photos" on my profile!!

But yeah!! becoming a bit too fond of someone without having a clue who they really are is probably not so healthy

RE: Have you ever been cat fished?

Why would anybody consider a relationship with someone they know to be dishonest?
I wouldn't like to put a label on it, but may be the person could do with some counselling to raise their self-esteem

RE: Do any of the women of CS like to dress up and look good as this in a dress?

I hear you... when I was young most kids were all a lot thinner than many kids today.

Many factors could be involved in the change apart from unhealthy diets as people get older.
More and more people take antidepressants and there's a particular combination that promotes weight gain on top of the fact peoole who have depressive episodes might comfort eat.

I don't think that having a plus size model in a magazine promotes it as normal. Unless all the models in all the magazines were suddenly all plus size models. Which I don't think is likely to happen.

As for banned words on cs, there was a tread somewhere trying to find all the banned words I don't think any of them are a representation of words that may be 'banned' in most magazines ...

Nothing is ever black or white ... society and expectations are not what they used to be ...

RE: Do any of the women of CS like to dress up and look good as this in a dress?

That should say 30 years AGO...

RE: Do any of the women of CS like to dress up and look good as this in a dress?

You must be very grateful that your kids turned out ok in spite of everything not going smoothly.

I worked in education 30 yesrs when it wasn't ''fashionable to be offended at everything'' and trust me, some kids were getting traumatised by 'events' beyond the parents controle that influenced how they felt in their skin when they were teenagers.

Ones limited experience does not always provide a wide perception of what is going on in and out of other peoole's home and so one should refrain from having such harsh judgements on others from that limited perspective. Imo

RE: Do any of the women of CS like to dress up and look good as this in a dress?

People of whatever gender who heap expectations of how "a girl should look" on the shoulders of teenagers ... teenage magazines in particular ... fat shaming in whatever form ... etc etc ...

RE: Do any of the women of CS like to dress up and look good as this in a dress?

Well that's great! And it sounds like you were able to guide them and everything went smoothly...

There are some people out there though who raised kids AND worked in education and can vouch for the fact that things don't always "run smoothly" no matter how much parents love and care for their children. Because sometimes life throws in a wild card. It could take many different shapes like for instance private piano lessons where the teacher takes "a bit too close of an interest in the student not music related" and now you have a traumatised child who may not be able to talk about what is happening straight away etc. etc. etc. ...

We can't generalise with the upbringing of children. There is not just one set of circumstances and that's as it should be ...

RE: Gentleman

Ahhh right!! I forget!!! We're all so good at theory!!! But we're still all here on CS and most of us single

RE: Special treatment

RE: Gentleman

Right... so if that's all there is to it and you know it... why are you single?