yeah it's the season where we encounter many who have hurt or betrayed us, some severely, others more in an annoying way. lifes getting shorter everyday.
Came across this quote and it set me to thinking. “Lovers remember all things” Publius Ovidius Naso (43 B.C. - A.D. 17)
It is said Ovid was a prolific Roman poet whose writing influenced Chaucer, Shakespeare, Dante, and Milton.
Anyway for whatever reason it put me to thinking about forgiveness. Today as back then very little has changed I guess. Lovers have a sharp memory, sometimes too sharp. Forgiveness is not a one-time event. Last time I checked we’re all human, we can’t simply “forgive and forget” leastways I cant... I’m not wired that way. It is this realization that brought this to mind forgiveness is an art that must be learned. It is an arduous process one that each person must initiate, again and again and again.
This process of forgiveness begins when we each make the conscious decision to fight hatred and anger every time it invades our heart. Eventually, after many, many episodes of backsliding, love will once again win out.
When we focus on yesterday’s troubles, some unbeknownst to them, do continuing harm to our loved ones and ourselves.
The great irony of forgiveness is that it is circular, when we forgive others, we liberate ourselves.
I guess what I’m trying to say in too many words is ... If you’re imprisoned by anger or resentment, begin today to plan your escape. Freedom is always beautiful, and so is forgiveness.
Tis a great time of year to free oneself and forgive
Oh yeah what forgiveness are you dealing with now? and how is it progressing?
well start with your best assets...you are assuming that is a current picture.
it has become where the terms honest , no players, and so many others are like salt and pepper shakers on a restaurant table...they really do not say a whole lot about what they serving up anyway.
maybe identifying the "illusion" that started this thread would help clear things up.... just a thought ,
maybe Daneil can IM him and explain it to him or you could explain it.
Iinstead of it being a public thing, afterall these threads do tend to take off on a path of their own at times and your choice of "illusion" well that word is vague at best. You're a smart woman, so this should not be to big of a problem for you to resolve.
What I've been noticing is an increase of those in relationships with differing degrees of depression. They deny and transfer the reasons for their sadness by blaming their partners for their state of mind which they conveniently call being lonely.
Blaming others using the guise of loneliness is all too common.
fun flirting ends when one begins to take it seriously...
Sadly its hard for one to know when that will occur.
We cannot always be the one to say I was just having fun, sometimes /many times when flirting is the game someone will get an "illusion" of their own creation and it will develop a life of its own.
I've read his posts and not just the ones you are mentioning, thats his style of communicating. I find humor in it and hope He is not judge to harshly. Everyone can misconstrue correspondence especially when flirting is involved. Whats said in a Email or IM does not always signify exclusivity, Fact is,one on one flirting in private can be very enjoyable/ misleading .
Best of luck to ya Hillbilly finding your "real" thing. Illusions, much in the way of a thirsty person in the desert seeing a mirage ,it gives hope to keep moving on but the closer one gets to the mirage the quicker it fades.
I hope the next long cool drink of water you see in the distant is real and refreshing for you.
"waited for "Mr. Right" to come knocking on my door!"
I tried that knockng on the door once... damn radio show was talking taking chances, and risks and "going for it".
While on the way to friends house I saw a most beautiful woman and I stopped, turned around ,parked and knocked on her door....
She did not find my "go for it" attitude to her liking, minute later I was on my way to friends house. 3 minutes later three of the city's finest (police) had questions for me. All ended well but to sum what the Sargent in charge said I should arrest you for being stupid. Doing some dumb stunt like that."
We all laughed after they drove away.
Point is,I totally agree...
Waiting on someone to knock on our door is a paperthin chance at best.
I think theres more "hook-ups" happening outside the realm of the forums... No, It's true some believe their romance and relationship should not be a public venue... some have even said they don't talk about it with friends and family until it actually develops into somethin.
So finding on Forums odds Greater than that Mega Ball lottery
Finding in the dating section the odds of a picking a trifecta at the horse track.
It made me laugh when I was trying to picture this phenomenon in the real world, People in public places pronouncing their love.l I go to bars and restaurants. stores its something you hardly ever hear. Literally
I do see his point of all those who make it a point to profess their "undying" or"FOREVER" love of one another does not last. especially when the distance factor is involved.
those that do all this I love 'em forever stuff on public forum do the same when it ends badly, with as many if not more Public posts/threads.
Another thought comes to my mind....
To be so fearless, so hungry, to be so naive to be so easily swayed. To openly then pronounce their love for another and another and another.
Only to be hurled onto the rocks of trickery and deceit. Without a second thought like ocean waves upon a shore. To only pick oneself up and run blindly back into the froth of the very wave that so brutally placed you upon the rocks.
Some would say Admirable, Some would say they be daft..... Myself... I stand on that very shore watching and wondering maybe it really don't hurt as bad as it looks.... still I'm only in that same ocean up to my ankles.
So, before any condemn, criticize, comment with disdain, or laughter... consider the drive, the courage, the determination, the desire they have, to go back in that dismal abyss and treat each opportunity as a new fresh experience...
If as you say is true knowing the location of stars and planets can reveal the secret to the human condition then by math and charts one could very well speak on futuristic occurances that will come to pass in essence foretelling the future.
New solar systems, galaxies and even planets are being found daily... unknown till the recent decade yet they are part of the process to calculate the personality or characteristic of the human condition.
So in that sense the medically trained and the astrologer are indeed equals in the simple fact they are both working with a pinch of all that exists in their respective fields.
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the battle of forgiveness
yeah it's the season where we encounter many who have hurt or betrayed us, some severely, others more in an annoying way. lifes getting shorter everyday.