Just A Thought

Ysa,
I was very faithful (as far as she knew) for a few days to one lady. THEN, when I found out she had a "Johnny Was Here" tattoo on her, that was the end of our long relationship. Sheesh!

@op well perhaps the problem is the 'with each other', or with the 'are' when it becomes 'were'
@merc never in love? Oh but I have been a few times, sometimes it was wishful thinking, and it usually ended as 'a vale of tears'.

Ysa,

Maybe love and relationships seem like they're not working so well these days. But then again, there's more people these days, and more ways to get the word out about relationships that don't work.

Media and news, even social sites seem to highlight more of the not so good relationships and break-ups, instead of telling us more about the good ones and the successes.

Just as the saying goes, "It's darkest before the light" or "darkest before the dawn," maybe successful love and relationships will make a turnaround after a period of seeming down.

Also, when two people do fall in love, they may see the world differently then, and think relationships are great, and the world is a better place now that they have found love.

I suppose it all depends on one's perspective of it all. And finding a successful relationship may do wonders to change one's personal perspective to "very positive."

When two people are 'in love with each other' one or both may become dissatisfied and fall out of love

This is the 'are' and 'were' - Once they were in love but he gambles and she is bad tempered!
They fall out of love - 'are in love' becomes 'were in love' - naiintindihan mo ba?

It is indeed true not everyone marries for love.
Sometimes it is in hope as was my second.
Sometimes it is for family as families form unions;
and of course sometimes in haste.
All three have I seen
but only in hope have I been party.

Hello Ysa,

Coming from the standpoint of your initial line of your blog, "If people truly love each other" So, that means why does divorce and heartbreak happen....in a loving relationship.


Of course, if the two people in the relationship are not in love, that would be easier to explain why heartbreak and divorce happen.


But, to go on about two people in love and heartbreak/divorce happening.....

Back in the day, after I got out of a 13 year relationship, I used to listen to a lot of pick-up artists. Not necessarily to become some sort of manipulator...but to better understand what women value in a man and hopefully recognize some of my own shortcomings and to become a better person. I think everyone should listen to pick up artists for the same reason. But, that is another topic but pertinent to my comment here.

There was this one pick up artist...at the time, he was recognized as the best in the business. He said, that attraction is not an option for women. What does that mean? Well, my interpretation of that is....for an option to occur, that means a decision needs to be made. In other words, if you have the option to choose red or the option to choose green, you would think about what color you would like most and go with that one. So, there is some sort of logical processing in one's brain going on...some thought process behind choosing which one you want.

Now, for him to say that attraction is not an option for women, that would indicate to me that what women find attractive is not a mental thought process, but more of an instinct...an impulse...an intuition. Not some logical thought process where they make a decision as to if they want red or if they want green. Some (not all) people act on their instincts...impulses....intuition. More so do women do that than men....but, men do also.

While listening to this pick up artist, he said, never take your date to a night club. Why? Well, given that some people act on their instincts....impulses...intuition, and now, you throw in alcohol and many different people dressed to their best and having fun in that atmosphere....the acting on those impulses...instincts...intuition are now enhance.

This guy wrote about all his stuff before social media was huge, like it is today. Now, if you take that same mindset of not taking your date to the night club...I would like to throw in....how about taking your date to some sort of social media platform....while she or he....has access to all these people...and some of these people have a silver tongue and are great at manipulation?

So, to answer your question...why do people bring heartbreak and divorce to a loving relationship....I would say because they made a mistake. They listened to there impulses....instincts....intuition and did a bad behavior. Some of those bad behaviors are forgivable, while others are not. Hence, heartbreak and divorce.

Johnny,

they say sometimes a guy can have "shortcomings" from bathing in very cold water or staying out in the cold weather too long.

Does this Pick-Up Artist that you mention inspire the ladies he dates to get "Johnny Was Here" tattoos?

oops...I just seen after reading Robert's comment, I made a tiny mistake...using "there" instead of "their." Anyway, leave it up to me to notice that.


Robert....that tattoo is necessary.

Love is not enough. It's not glamorous to admit this but I think we have to need each other a bit

Very true Ysa...there is always more than one reason for just about everything.

Relationships are strengthened by honesty and patience.
If you have honesty and patience, then the relationship will be stable even if the love is less.