Expecting Too Much?
I think I have been expecting too much from marriage. All I wanted was a relationship with my wife as my mom and dad had. But no two persons are the same. Let alone two couples. The permutations are too large in number.During the 21 years that I spent in my parents’ home – minus one year of military service – I had not once heard a single harsh word uttered between them. Not in front of me or my siblings in any way.
Oh, they had their differences yes; there were days when you could cut the atmosphere with a knife; days when the house was quiet and they would disappear into the bedroom and we could hear a heated but muted verbal exchange interrupted with a ‘shhhhhht!’ every now and then when voices got louder.
Then of course there was the banging of the doors. That was the first thing that alerted us that things were not kosher; and the lack of any music. Other times there was always music playing.
But comes dinner or bed time – whichever the first – the two were reconciled, cooing like doves
and we could eat as a family or go to bed knowing that all was kosher again.
Is that really asking for too much?
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There are so many good blogs here on CS. Why don't you read some of them. You are really getting monotonous now.
Dear Catfoot,
What you fear now is a common thought that always come to those who have ever hurt on their previous marriage. That feeling come to you 'coz you are care with your future wife, you do not want anything to happen to her. Others, you still have a wounded or unpleasant memory deep inside your heart that have not healed yet.
My suggestion, if you are ready with your new life now, you have to left behind those fear, use your parent marriage as a models, use your previous experiences as a mirror. So you will know which are the best thing you can do or not.
I believe with your generosity and maturity in thinking, you can succeed on your future marriage.
Good luck, my friend
Interesting in reading this, different people different view. and let me miss my mom's nagging on me...
Those are kind words
You are right, dropping my expectations will be a betrayal of the values my parents taught me.
So your mom nagged too?
Be careful of the melting snow. it is wet.