Will The Right One Ever Show Up?
I think most of us here are waiting for the right one to show up; some actively searching and some passively waiting; even though our profiles may indicate the opposite.
CS is not going to provide a shortcut to instant happiness. We will still have to go through the normal process of getting to know each other and discarding those that we don’t see as fit. CS will only give us more opportunities and with the increased opportunities, there will unfortunately be more failures. The main thing is to remain patient. Look things over and correspond for as long as possible before meeting. No matter how good the front, with enough conversation, the true colors will surface sooner than later.
No, don’t lower your standards if they are realistic because that is what you stand for. However, if they put you out of your league, you cannot expect other to lower their standards to accommodate you if you are not prepared to do it. To reach a compromise does not need to be an unconditional surrender. You will never find that perfect partner. He or she only exists in your imagination.
It is more important that the two of you share the same values and that you are reaching towards the same goals. The details of how to get there can be worked out along the way.
Also, remember that your new partner had a life before you came along. He/she will come to you with a history and possibly some baggage. It is very much like buying a used car. The body may have a few dents, the engine may have a knock, and there may be some things in the trunk, left by the previous owner. But all of that can be fixed. After all, you also have a past with a flaw here and there. You are not perfect either. Nobody is!
Most importantly, consider that your new partner may have the same fears that you have and maybe even one or two additional fears. You don’t know how love treated him/her before and you too may not be exactly what he/she envisaged in his/her mind.
And don’t be blind for his or her shortcomings. If there is anything that you cannot live with, break it off immediately. You cannot change the other person. On the other hand, if you decide that you can live with it, you have to close your eyes to that flaw and live with it.
So, will the right one ever come? Yes but you may only get one chance. Don't squander it.
I hope you enjoy this Friday and the weekend that comes with it!
Comments (72)
you see, when I started here I was serious enough
even to relocate, now, this is my internet social media
have no facebook nor tweeter, so is my page to have fun
chat with people around the world, CS not that bad
Great blog!
Used car, eh?
Well, I'd love love love a Jaguar XJS please?
Just give that used car a tune up!...
It is very clear to me that petrol must be very cheap in your country. Did you know that if you leave a Jaguar idling while you fill up the tank, you will never get it full.
Some used cars need a bit more than just a tune-up. Sometimes it is cheaper to jack up the number plates and to put another car in between.
We like the secondhand car don't know our true worth till we offer ourselves on the market & see if anyone wants to grab a bargain, personally I may not be perfect but I am at least vintage
Unfortunately for me he passed on in 2007 of lung cancer.
Do that mean very old?....
I'm always nice to you. It was the salesman that got the stick.
Yeah! Whatever Bob.....
There are some advantages in being a vintage car. For one, the owner no longer have to pay the license fee.
At least that is in SA, I don't know about elsewhere.
No! But they sold the old cheese, to me anyway!...
Quite! When you get a good spouse, you hang on for dear life. However the problem come when he/she passes away because then you measure everybody else against him/her and you will never find somebody just like him/her.
My mother died in 2000 and since then my father had a 3 or 4 'girlfriends'. None of them lasted but the strange thing was that all of them resembled my mother in more than just looks. He has given up now and spends his old age alone. Thankfully he is very active in his church and the bowls club.
I was (is?) heavily involved with somebody who used to blog regularly and I enjoyed nothing more than when we commented on each others blogs especially when it was still all hush hush.
Though we still have fairly regular contact she seldom blogs and has not been on CS for ages. I wish she would come back.
That is why the invented the test drive.
you try before you buy!
Whatever is one of the most dangerous words to be used by a woman. It means: I don't agree with you, but I don't have the time for an argument now. I need to think about it a bit longer to work how the maximum degree to chastise you.
Finding that special someone is like finding a very rare, vintage wine! One that you may only come accross once in your life! So you handle it with care! Patience is one of the most important virtues in looking for that special person!
Listing to the left or the right? Gosh, people spent a fortune to see the Tower of Pisa. Maybe I can attract a few tourists as well.
The problem with these old wine is that when you open the bottle you have to finish it or it goes sour.
Older women are just great!
They don't tell,
They don't yell,
They don't swell,
And they're grateful as hell.
In that case I'm opting out. I have seen all the students I want to see in a lifetime. The closest resemblance the have to humans is the footprints they leave on sand!
There are many profiles that states that he/she is not available. I cannot for one minute believe that a person will decline the opportunity to find his/her soul mate if the opportunity should present itself.
Regarding the standards, I don't mean that you must lower yourself to accept a thief or a liar. Those are not your standards but your principles. A physician is not going to marry a dockworker. If a dockworker sets the standard of a future spouse at physician level he is unrealistic and has no chance of success.
It is a fact that some people rate themselves higher that their actual value.
Hmm, sad about your husband. Also fact that you will never find somebody like him again. All you can aspire to is to get somebody sharing the same values as you and build it from scratch. Just my opinion though.
Do you need to be young to test drive a late model.?
NO....
Oh, he will, the question is if you will recognize him. And if you really want to find him. JMHO.