trust
One of the strongest pillars that account to the foundation of a good and sound relationship is through this very volatile yet complex and at the same time look so simple emotion given to us, man. T R U S T. With or without it can either break or make a relationship. Life is so complicated and somehow it doesn't look like it gets any easier, with all the negative feelings we have. However, some may or may not agree with me, that Trust actually is a result of some logic and reason applied before its execution.This time, we will cover an area that doesn't only cover lover's realms but it can be to a friend, to a parent, to a fellow employee, to a supervisor or simply to the government.
TRUST. How does it affect our bearings towards the people that are important to us and even to those that are of less significance. And in general, the world for that matter?
Should we give our trust to someone or should we make them earn it? In example, if a person tells you something, would you give the benefit of the doubt that what he is telling or saying is true? This is about being close to that person as he or she will significantly spend most of the time with you.
Or should you assume that theory, where TRUST IS NOT GIVEN RATHER IT IS EARNED. Stemming from the experience, that, everybody is a liar. Therefore, no matter what that person is telling you, until you prove it to be true, you wouldn't give any credit to his words or arguments.
In case of a lover, would you be leery at first and distance yourself until you can feel comfortable that he is telling the truth? Therefore, TIME is always at your side and don't just jump fast to any commitment, rather take your time to know and study how compatible can you be to this person?
Thank you all for your participation..
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great blog
Then I would definitely know so much our compatibility, push button issues, likes/dislikes and anything that might trigger some kind of bizzare attitude.
My marriage lasted 28 years and it was one of the most beautiful thing that happened in my life. I am with someone now who already proposed but so far only with him for the last 8 months yet...
So yes. Indeed time is our friend on building a solid ground that warrants adjustments, adaptability to develop to a solid compatibility..
Thanks Wen.
It is nice to wary sometimes...it alerts you faster on things that might not be pleasant. But don't be paranoid, though, it can be very difficult...JMO
I have always found it very hard to trust ...the few times I have trusted it turned sour, so I think, no matter how well you think you know someone, only time and reason can validate total trust.It is a kind of knowing, without the drama of that little word called maybe..lol ( just my opinion of course) Great Blog
But yes trust is a measure of how much willing we are to build life with this person.
I am someone who will give any body the benefit of the doubt. My mum used to say I was too trusting... BUT in giving someone the benefit of the doubt does not mean that you automatically take every word they say as being SO! but rather that I give them an opportunity to be the person they want me to believe that they are.
Does this make sense to you?
I am nobody`s fool and whilst my mum thought I was too trusting in my heart I always knew what I was dealing with.
Some people NEED to feel trusted even when they have made bad choices to have someone believe in them.
I would not marry someone I could not trust though... though I would be a friend to someone, as everyone needs friends. I would just be AWARE of who they are.
I know what I am trying to say... just not sure it is coming across. I just feel everyone needs second, third and fourth chances at times.
Trust is VERY IMPORTANT though and I feel it essential in any relationship... You just have to know in your heart whether you can or are able to trust someone.
Yes you got your point across nicely....once you are true to your feelings trust lies within the heart, It's either right for you, or wrong for you... when you love with all your heart trust is not an issue when giving or receiving...It feels Natural.
I love your positive outlook Wallops, yes, just because we're taken for a ride sometimes we have to give it one, two more times.
Trust takes time but I will indulge in believing people until they show me otherwise...I am generally not suspicious and enjoy people but will not be an open book until I am comfortable...trust your instincts...a good motto to live by...by the way just wanted to share that I am really happy...my wrist cast came off today!!...a great day for me indeed!!
I'm glad your feeling better my friend.
I see you and I know I can trust you, my friend!
My respects Ed. And same thing with you.
Welcome back my friend. And yes, indeed it's a quality of trait best built over time. But there's a lot of people who'd be trusted right away because that's who they are. No matter where and when they don't charge. They're built-in nature.
Thanks again and hope you'll be around for a while.
Yes I know that generally being with a person for a while just to know them helps.
Your question? Maybe there are people who may never trust again. Like Nam said and for me, I am sure it's hard.
Thanks again Umka.
Take care
Anyway, once a person earns my trust by behaving honourably then they own my trust on a whole different level. I will give them the benefit of real doubts if they've earned enough trust.
Thanks as always.
Stay longer my friend.
I agree with OBS about trust. It is on loan until it is earned permanently! I can like someone right away but I don't always trust them. Trust is earned! When you meet a future lover, it is easy to be blinded by other things and become more trusting which can be a mistake!
JMO
Take care my friend.
So glad to see you. Of course my dear.
Be careful always. Mail me.