Still waiting?
Are you still waiting for that elusive perfect partner? Well, I have news for you. He or she may never come. It is pretentious to believe that somewhere and somehow somebody out there was made just for you and all your whims and desires. And if there is somebody like that, the chances of the two of you meeting, are negligibly small.
By placing yourself on a pedestal, believing that you deserve only the best is folly and may leave you on your own forever plus another few days. Chances are that if you can locate that perfect partner, he or she may not see you as perfect at all.
Let’s face; it we are mass-produced; each one unique and yet all stereotyped. We are born the same. It is the events during our lives, and how we cope with it, that define us for what we are. The random factor is far too great to calculate the outcome. People change and adjust according to what life throws at them. What is perfect now may not be so in the future. The opposite is also true.
You have to make compromises. Compromising does not mean that you have to surrender. It merely entails a strategic reevaluation and restructuring of your goals. There is no need to lower your standards and there is nothing that a coat of paint cannot fix, providing that the superstructure is sound. And be prepared to receive a bit of painting as well. You’re not perfect either.
It is not all about finding the perfect partner; it is also about being the perfect partner. It takes two to tango and a chain is only as strong as the weakest link.
Have a marvelous weekend. It may just happen this weekend.
Comments (85)
If looking for the "perfect" partner means someone perfect, of course, nobody is perfect... and I am Nobody!
But looking for someone "compatible" doesn´t mean he/she will be perfect...
Two most compatible people can be the most imperfect at the same time, as long as they love eachother and accept eachother´s imperfections...?
Anyway, I´d rather be "on my own" and happy (with my dog & cat), rather than with someone incompatible and unhappy.
Just something I see a good bit on here (nothing to do with Minerva's comment), is that people are completely unrealistic in what they are looking for or bringing to the table themselves.
The weather is not playing along at present. It is cold, unpleasant and raining most the time. Most the work now is outside and I cannot pay people for sitting in the garage playing dominoes all day. They can do that at home.
Btw, It is raining quite hard at the moment.
I have one guy touching up inside today. He should not have been here today but he came with his wife who cleans my house twice a week, so I put him to work inside.
I said nothing about settling for second best. By lowering your expectations, the disappointment is less if the expectation is not met. At the same time the joy is greater when the (now lowered) expectation is exceeded.
It is fine to hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. Being prepared is half the battle won.
The garden will be a (major)
Hope you'll get it finished soon, just started myself and already hate living in a building site.
I think you could be right.
Yes, I believe summer in the British Isles is like winter here. I don't function well in the cold.
My small front garden was in such a mess, when I cleaned it on a sunny Saturday afternoon a while back, I discovered a rose tree and a fishpond under the undergrowth.
I miss this from my previous house. I had a much bigger ground. But now I'm in town where I was on the fringe of town. But no more electric cable theft and a proper G3 signal. Internet was a nightmare then.
True, it requires team work to succeed.
Is that not what it is all about. What is the use without having fun.
Hopefully there will be a perfect game tomorrow in Brisbane ...
Do you perhaps know the exact times for the game - our times.. ?
I chatted last night on Skype for about half an hour with a local guy, but unfortunately 10 years older than me and for me there was no sizzle. (DC would probably love him if she wasn't already getting into some exciting waters herself by the look of things!) He sent a message today saying I remind him of Joanna Lumley and he's sick of the rain and wants to take me away somewhere warm for a week, where would I like to go? Now THAT is style
I just started a new job so couldn't even be tempted. And today the sun is shining anyway
So! That's It?!
We/ I suppose to give up on everyyyyy thing! And just get what I/ we can?!!
Well! I be john brown...
You feel that! We should just give up on our dream doll!
My information is 12:00.
May the best team win.
My younger daughter lives in Oz. She says that the Aussies are pessimistic about their chances.
Sorry for keeping you people for so long. My house is full of guests. Everybody just rocked up unannounced.
I only suggested that it may not be worth waiting for ever.
>>>> You May Speak! My Child...
I don't. It is just my opinion.
For whatever it is worth.
I'm still waiting... for my last guests to leave. I don't like it when people arrive unexpectedly.
4 minutes ago
Hi CC
I'm still waiting... for my last guests to leave. I don't like it when people arrive unexpectedly
Catfoot I know the feeling.One time my fathers half sister just came to visit and we had no prior warning that she was coming.
She called from our local airport and said she was here.
So! I give up! Because it was your opinion...
Got dog!...
Luckily these were local people. The party seekers. But they have left now. Maybe I should try a new mouthwash, my breath must be smelling.
You misread me somewhere. I never suggested that anybody should give up on what they want. I merely suggested a different way to get there.
Ooooh! I see. Now you changing your story. Right!...
Wrong again. Show me where I said that anybody should give up on their hopes. I repeat, I only suggested another way to get there.
It's all over your blog! You were talking in code. Wasn't You?...
The Da Vinci Code?
Seeee!....
Raining cats and dogs here. Very cold and I'm retiring to bed (fading).
Yes, yes, I know, don't bother saying it.
Lol....
I specially waited to see what you will say.
Old Men
Well then; call me pretentious!