Still waiting?
Are you still waiting for that elusive perfect partner? Well, I have news for you. He or she may never come. It is pretentious to believe that somewhere and somehow somebody out there was made just for you and all your whims and desires. And if there is somebody like that, the chances of the two of you meeting, are negligibly small.
By placing yourself on a pedestal, believing that you deserve only the best is folly and may leave you on your own forever plus another few days. Chances are that if you can locate that perfect partner, he or she may not see you as perfect at all.
Let’s face; it we are mass-produced; each one unique and yet all stereotyped. We are born the same. It is the events during our lives, and how we cope with it, that define us for what we are. The random factor is far too great to calculate the outcome. People change and adjust according to what life throws at them. What is perfect now may not be so in the future. The opposite is also true.
You have to make compromises. Compromising does not mean that you have to surrender. It merely entails a strategic reevaluation and restructuring of your goals. There is no need to lower your standards and there is nothing that a coat of paint cannot fix, providing that the superstructure is sound. And be prepared to receive a bit of painting as well. You’re not perfect either.
It is not all about finding the perfect partner; it is also about being the perfect partner. It takes two to tango and a chain is only as strong as the weakest link.
Have a marvelous weekend. It may just happen this weekend.
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this reminds me my parents they hated and loved each other
in their own way they had fights almost everyday still if one of them became ill the other was worrying about him/her and they lasted till end came for them, first dad a year later mom
no such a thing as the perfect partner/we as human being we're not perfect at all
Only problem is ......how to get to him!
My parents also had their differences, but we seldom knew about it. The silence between them at the dinner table was often the only telltale. Oh yes, and thee occasional slamming of a door. That is how they displayed their dissatisfaction. It rubbed off on me. When I don't close a door softly, you can know I'm annoyed.
Not Sleeping yet? What is the time there?
And who is on your profile pic? I did not recognize you until I started reading.
And btw, he won't know until you tell him.
I can only speak for me personally, but certainly don't wish for a "perfect" person, because God knows, I am far from it myself.
In fact, it's the imperfections that attract me the most.
Compromising is fine when it's a two way street. If it's a dangerous one-way you've accidentally turned down....then you're in a spot of bother.
Love is beautiful, but, man it can be dangerous too.
I think I need a defensive driving course....
your comment reminds me Sheena Easton song/I found love on a 2 way street and lost it in a long way highway"...good song indeed
Took a short nap right after I came back from work 4 hours ago.
Yup, that's a pic of me alright, taken almost a year ago while holidaying at a friend's resort in the Philippines. Face scrubbed clean of any make-up
He knows all about it. What I meant, is how to make my maiden trip there and claim him as mine
That's moi sans make-up!
Went and had a looksie but couldn't find that song. I'm not familiar with those lyrics....but do know what she is singing about....
All smooth?
Funny that you mention it. I'm the same. My friends would wonder what I see in her, but that is the way I am.
That is life, but we adapt and survive.
I really did not recognize it as you.
Oh yes, you're only six hours ahead of us.
And just tell him you're coming, and do it.
We must remember we're not as interesting as we think we are...
We are not?!?!
Hi Kariena,
Priceless! It would seem that you never have a dull moment. You ever walk without shoes?
Blykbaar mag ons nie meer Afrikaans praat nie.
Careful plans must be made.
He's ready for me anytime, it's just me....I want to be financially ok before I go to see him. He offered to buy the ticket but I declined, graciously of course!
Right, we're not. Other people do not share our own opinions about us.
Niemand is cooler as ekke
If the offer was made in sincerity, you should have taken it.
The perfect solution to finding the perfect partner !
Decide if you're a dog or a cat type person
Humans never live up to our expectations
Quite, and I have been promoted as well. I no longer kiss the mirror good night. The mirror now kisses me.
Yes, be kind to her pets and she may adopt you as well. I had one like that but she would not let me out with the cat. I had to be in attendance all the time.
no body perfect
Waiting for the perfect partner it's wasting time
Have a great weekend
I wouldn't expect anything off anyone I wouldn't be willing to give myself. There are a lot of chancers not worth bothering with, but there are some great guys out there and they are looking for someone who is worth the bother for them.
I can't say that I needed to make compromises, I simply have always taken himself into account and vice-versa. If you don't have things in common with someone it just won't work. Having the right person coming into my life was fun and easy, if that's not the case, better forget about it.
I agree that you have to be a good partner to someone if you want a good one yourself.
Thanks for lowering my expectations...lol...
I am going to work now...hope your day is good...
What do you mean. I'm perfect.
Can you say the same about a human being?
Gosh but you have been scarce lately.
It is all about give and take. The problem comes when give and take go in the same direction all the time.
Expectation is the root of all heartache. By lowering you expectations, I have lowered your future heartaches as well. I will bill you for my advice in due course.
No, I cannot, but neither can I say that about cats.
If you feed a starving dog, you have a friend for life. That is the main difference between humans and dogs.
Hope your renovating is going ok.
Me again.
I cannot agree with 'no body perfect'.
I've seen some very perfect bodies on our beaches.