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Jan 2017

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Why do you want a partner?

Most of us, if not all, are on a dating site because we are looking for a partner. That is the purpose of dating sites after all. We could blog on any social media site.

But why are we really looking for one?

Is it to have somebody around on the long cold evenings, for companionship ?
Somebody to do the jobs we may find difficult ourselves?
Somebody to keep us warm in bed?
Is it for financial security?
Somebody to have by our sides when we go to weddings, funerals, etc.
Is it to have somebody look after us as we age?
Or simply somebody to have sex with on a regular basis?

Does society make us feel like we are not complete without a partner or wife/husband?

Do we ourselves feel like we are not complete without a partner or wife/husband?

Why do we really want a partner?

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GregorysPeck●Cork, Ireland

Jan 9, 2017●1 Blogs●15 Comments

Yes again, go back to the basic human settlement, the tribe. Not one couple or family living and depending on just themselves. Modern day tribes (housing estates ) are full of hermits because of the culture we bought into.

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 9, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

JJ, maybe my answer to Greg is appropriate to you too.

And if you do find someone, you had better come back and let us know

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 9, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Len, woman-smell?

Len05●Antwerp, Antwerpen Belgium

Jan 9, 2017●18 Blogs●307 Comments

woman smell. the smell someone leaves in rooms or sheets.
someone cooking in the kitchen.
or another washing powder.
I don't really look much a people but I like how the linger.
at least about the people I like or love.

and I don't mean I sniff at things.
I just get a bit warm when I imagine holding a pillow when the partner left.

lisaj77●NA, Gauteng South Africa

Jan 9, 2017●271 Comments

Molly..i wasnt looking.. but someone to share my life with, that is what i want..

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 9, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Len, I like that man-smell from a fresh shower, or the pillow. So I do understand what you're saying.

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 9, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Pat, you sound like you're not good for choosing the right women for you.
Get help from a female friend.
Women can see through women better, men through men.

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 9, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Lisa, sounds like a nice aspiration

lisaj77●NA, Gauteng South Africa

Jan 9, 2017●271 Comments

shucks.. yeah...it is..

nonsmoker●Waterford, Ireland

Jan 9, 2017●282 Blogs●8,720 Comments

Molly all the good Hollywood cops have partners they dont want at first but cant be without at the end.

Embedded image from another site

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 9, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

I love buddy-movies

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 9, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Oh yeah Pat, that's exactly it...

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 9, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

I want more than just buddies though

Seri2016●unknown, Cork Ireland

Jan 9, 2017●6 Blogs●769 Comments

That doesn't include me right

inafunk●reno, Nevada USA

Jan 10, 2017●7 Blogs●2 Comments

as a retired psychiatrist, i can only ay that 70 per cent of people actually do not want to meet someone in person. actually dealing from a distance has its advantages. i have been to 7 cities and countries outside the usa with women who said let's see my country all were semiretired or retired my name is ira if you are seeking a travel companion to see your contountry contact me.doctoriragruber@att.net you really get to know a person travelling a few weeks. many women in america join meet em up groups but they only work in big cities where volume is name of game good post molly. too bad so many people go to online dating sites whe they have empty time. ira

KNenagh●Aachen, Kilkenny Ireland

Jan 10, 2017●3 Blogs●3,678 Comments

I do want someone to share my life with. Someone to talk to, the first one to ring if something good or bad happened, to bounce ideas of, spend time doing things on the weekend, hanging out on the couch in the evening and of course get good and regular lovin'

I don't care what society thinks and my family simply wants me to be happy (and healthy) in whatever form I choose to.

IncubusBaig●Islamabad, Pakistan

Jan 10, 2017●770 Comments

For me... its just simply to have someone to grow old with.. when your eyes meet and both of you know exactly what the other is thinking.. when you're both comfortable with prolonged silences.. when you're both ok with giving each other space when they need it.. or give them a loving hug and it actually makes things better miraculously..

All the other things are trivial to me.. things like doing chores, running errands, financial security or even going to weddings/funerals.. I can do all of that perfectly well on my own..

As for the physical aspect.. I don't consider it to be too hard to synchronize with most.. Its just a matter of being unselfish and attentive..

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 10, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Scotty, yes it was...maybe 3 times

Doc, meeting up with people is the only way to really get to know them. But yes, people are slow to. Meeting people from abroad if you have romantic notions about them can be fraught too. It is very complicated unless one is retired and willing and able to move to the other country.

KN, Having somebody to bounce ideas off is lovely

Incu, It's kinda nice to have somebody to dance with at weddings too

IncubusBaig●Islamabad, Pakistan

Jan 10, 2017●770 Comments

Molly.. I hear ya..

However, dancing is not my thing.. never was.. I'm way too awkward unfortunately..

IncubusBaig●Islamabad, Pakistan

Jan 10, 2017●770 Comments

By the way.. not sure how often you visit the poems section.. so just letting you know that I left a comment there on one of your poems..

IncubusBaig●Islamabad, Pakistan

Jan 10, 2017●770 Comments

Tru.. no idea what that is mate.. I'm still inclined to think I won't be able to do it!

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 10, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Luke

There is a lot of heat going on there

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 10, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Incu, I think you would be able to manage that one alright...no dancing required

IncubusBaig●Islamabad, Pakistan

Jan 10, 2017●770 Comments

Do people do that on weddings?

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 10, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Incu, doing that sometimes causes weddings

IncubusBaig●Islamabad, Pakistan

Jan 10, 2017●770 Comments

Hahahaha... oh hell.. I get it now! sheesh...

lan158●dubai, Dubai United Arab Emirates

Jan 10, 2017●116 Blogs●667 Comments

I don't anymore..to much stress.

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 10, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Aw Ian, and I was holding out for you

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 10, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

To which I wish to become accustomed. .

Elegsabiff●Motril-ish, Andalusia Spain

Jan 10, 2017●358 Blogs●9,358 Comments

using and abusing?

Elegsabiff●Motril-ish, Andalusia Spain

Jan 10, 2017●358 Blogs●9,358 Comments

Seriously, though, I really don't want a partner for the sake of having a partner. Been there, done that, not very good at it. There's always that faint possibility of meeting someone really special. Not the person you can live with, the person you can't live without.

Cliche, yes
Trite, probably yes
Do we all secretly hope for it sometime, someday? Nah.

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 10, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

I do

Elegsabiff●Motril-ish, Andalusia Spain

Jan 10, 2017●358 Blogs●9,358 Comments

Molly, every now and then the cynical facade slips and the teddybear peeks out

Olangoisland●Manama bahrain, Manama Bahrain

Jan 11, 2017●3 Blogs●62 Comments

Yes i really want to have a partner...its nice if both doing the same things together... Fascinating

mollybabyOP●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 11, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Olang, it would be nice alright

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