Bad Experiences With Men
My jaw wants to unhook when I listen to what some women have to say about their close encounters of the third kind with men. It crossed my mind that some of these women are just out to make men appear as evil monsters but I’m more than prepared to concede that at least some women may have had some really terrible experiences with men.
But all this makes we wonder with exactly what kind of men you are involved with? In all fairness, if you date an undesired character, you must expect to be treated in kind. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t say he has the right to misbehave because he is what he is but you cannot cultivate weeds and expect to pick peaches from it.
If a friend arranged a blind date and he turns out to be weird, kick your friend’s arse. You have been sold out. Otherwise you must take at least some of the blame – even if just for your inability to spot a bad character for they are not that difficult to recognize. They all carry a lot of baggage and it wells up soon enough in conversation. And if you get into it, knowing that you’re dealing with a dubious character, don’t complain about it afterwards because it was your choice to be with such a man.
I have seen it countless times that a woman who comes out of an abusive relationship, just hook up with another bad egg the next time. They find calm relationships dull. Harsh as this may sound, some women are attracted to ruffians and I think they want to be mistreated. I don’t know if they crave for the excitement or the sympathy but they normally get both.
I have also been had by one or two women but they were few and far between. The majority of women are normal and rational. Just like that there are many good men out there but the onus is on you to separate the dregs from the wine. If you pick one loose cannon, we can call it a mistake; it can happen to anybody. More than that, it starts looking like a trend. Remember, nobody can force you to date anybody. It’s your own choice. We cannot always blame others for our own bad choices.
Relax! It is Friday.
Comments (88)
Alcohol is very effective to clarify the mind. If you think the earth is flat, you will know for sure that the earth is flat when you have enough of it in your blood.
Yep, and if you're lucky you'll wake up with an unknown and equally hung over woman next to you in bed. And you'll spend the rest of your days wondering if you actually got around to it.
hmm, that is one of the side effects of alcohol. It seems to affect one's knees adversely. You battle to stay upright.
Well, that is one of the other side effects of alcohol. It makes women much more attractive, even beautiful. Some may say that it lowers your standards but that is not true.
Believe me, I have spent enough time around men to have heard practically any story there was to be heard
I don't know why you are explaining. That is a good word for a man to put on his CV.
That great! I also gave up drinking in 1993 and I still celebrate it now and then with a few brandies.
So did I! Went eating out and the day when I eat out and not order a bottle of wine to go with it, is yet to come.
No need to run when you're off. You will just smell worse. Try hot water and soap
One friend of mine who is going through it (he is still in the relationship because of dependent young kids) has been getting professional help.
Even being told that you are not the mad one; the bad one; the crazy one, is a weight of your shoulders. If you are being told it enough, you start to believe it.
Supper time, be back soon.
Although I was brought up in a Christian home, I'm also agnostic. My forgiveness is practical, not religious. Not really forgiveness, more like just writing it off as a loss. As long as you walk with a grudge yo have bitterness inside which can easily turn into hate. And hate eats you up from the inside. So before that happens, I cast it off me and leave it behind. Happiness is a state of mind when there is nothing to make you unhappy. So if you can get rid of those...
MiMi likes this one...
With matching bedroom heels too!!!
True but it is still not nice to see her like this.
I feel awkward when I visit them. It is uncanny how hard she tries to please everybody when everything is perfect as it is
Have a nice day Cat
you must get another model next time. This one is too... uh... mmm... Ok forget about it.
I'm sure you will look just great in there but i don't like that gal.
On your blog now, I like what KN said but something comes to mind and don't think anyone said,. Some people go into relationship knowing what the other half is like. They have this idea in there mind that they will change when this will probably never happens.
I too love older men, have dated all ages but older for me works....as it seems for u too
Ooh, what a day!
Cattie, you have not been had by that woman.
You were beaten up by her!
A good and solid dressing she gave you.
It was so funny.
I'm sure everybody wants to hear about it.
Tell us! Tell us! Tell us!
Won't know about that. I don't know anybody from Cork
That misconception about change is almost always there when a new couple forms. She thinks that she can change him and he thinks that she won't change. They are both wrong.
You are getting out of hand again. That episode is best forgotten.
Not saying you're wrong, per se. For all your well-presented dehumanising words you seem quite popular with the women, some at least.