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...Can be very complex at times. Working on our relationships, raising children, building careers, and exploring personal growth opportunities all require time and effort – no question. As complex as these things are, take comfort in the fact that the reasons we work so hard may not be complicated at all.

It has been suggested by psychologists that what people want in life is to experience pleasure and to avoid pain. As a result of spending a lifetime paying attention to what people are saying and feeling, as well becoming more aware of what motivates and drives me; I would suggest the psychologists are wrong. From these experiences, it is clear to me that what we really want boils down to happiness, and purpose.

Happiness

We all want to be happy. Not happy in a constantly blissful or euphoric sense, but in a fundamental and visceral one. It is not realistic to think we can be happy, or emotionally “high,” all of the time. After all, we get flat tires, receive poor service in restaurants, and have to pay our bills.

Stuff does happen in life which may not always make us feel happy, but the goal is to learn to be happy in spite of the annoyances and set-backs we encounter.

Happiness is the product of the day-in and day-out grind and still finding a place of contentment and peace in spite of what life throws at us. Happiness is to experience joy and take comfort in the fact we are living fully and without regret.

Happiness is to take advantage of the time we have on this earth by getting the most out of it. Happiness is going to bed tired knowing we didn’t leave anything on the field.

Happiness is also a choice. We can allow events to derail what we want, or we can choose to fight, persevere and win. When we listen to our guts - to our inner wisdom, we can hear what we really want. Then, we must choose how to respond.

Purpose

If happiness causes us to go to bed tired because of the effort we just gave to the day, purpose gets us back up in the morning.

Purpose is the fuel in our tanks that keeps us moving forward. As humans, we all want to know that our time in this world has made a difference and our life had a purpose.

I don’t need to look very far to see an example of the desire to have purpose in life. Brandon, my oldest child, graduates college in May with a degree in social work. There’s no question my son could have selected any major, but he selected this one because the most important thing to Brandon is to make a difference with his life.

He believes being a social worker is the best way to fulfill his purpose. What impresses me the most is the motivation behind this decision was not the analysis of his potential career earnings, but the analysis of living his life on purpose.

The expression, “living on purpose.” suggests we need to invest our time and resources in those activities that are best aligned with fulfilling our life’s purpose. Each day we need to inspect our words and actions to be certain they are supporting our core values and purpose. When we live on purpose, we can better enjoy and celebrate the passion and energy we have for our lives.

Still looking for your life’s purpose? Here’s one way you can find it. Take a sheet of paper and begin to write down all of the things you are passionate about. This is your list, so don’t cheat yourself. Be real and be honest with yourself, and just let it go.

Write down any dreams you have had in the past or any of your current dreams. The one that jumps off the page and smacks you right between the eyes and makes you begin to cry is your purpose.

Honor this one and respect it. And if you give it permission, it will change your life and bring the happiness you deserve.


Thanks Alex

Love can be eternal. While it’s true no one can make you happy, you can feel happiest about yourself when you are with someone who gives you the time and space to bring out your best.

why do we pick other peoples faults when we have so many of ower own is this what adam and eve or joseph and mary done
god said let he who has not sinned cast the first stone
lets stop throwing stones and live life.
have a great day.

I just got the "friendly boot" a few hours ago. What that means is that the woman I was dating contacted me and said that she wasn't interested in me romantically anymore but would like to remain friends with me.

Am I heartbroken? No. Am I a little hurt? Yes. Am I mature enough to remain being friends with her? No.

I'm sure some of you are thinking that I'm immature and that I'm passing up an opportunity to have a good friend, and you may be right; however, I have my reasons for preferring to break off all relations rather than attempting a longterm or close friendship.

First of all, I want you to know that I am capable of having friendships with women. It's just that the relationship has to begin at that level. For example, I am friends with many of the women who take my martial arts classes. To me that is a professional student/teacher relationship. The relationship began in that context and I'm not willing to take it further. Also, if I were to meet a woman online and if she were to say that she doesn't want to pursue a romantic relationship BEFORE we went out on a date, I would definitely be able to be friends with her.

I don't think I'm alone in thinking this way. If you begin a relationship with romantic intent, then once the romance ends BOTH parties must feel that a friendship can be maintained in order for a proper friendship to develop. I believe it is unfair to have one person hoping for another shot at romance while the other person views them simply as a compatriot.

What results is the "Nice Guy" syndrome. A man is there waiting in the wings for his opportunity to change his status. He does nothing but suffer in quiet desperation as he watches the one he cares about both emotionally and physically persues relationships with other men. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be chauvanistic and say "he". I'm sure this happens to women, too, but I think that this is a phenomenon more common to men.

Again, maybe I am being immature, but if I am physically attracted to a woman and at one time that woman reciprocated those feelings, I can't simply be a neutral friend. It is against my nature. Heck, I think it's against human nature. Think about it. Our basic purpose in life is to survive and to pass on our genetic material to the next generation. It is our higher brain functions that allow us to show compassion and to think of others before ourselves, but this base survival instincts cannot be ignored.

To reiterate, if the ground rules from the beginning were "You can only be friends with this woman", I can abide by that. I don't chase after married women as that is a social more and my higher brain function says, "This person is off limits,"; however, if the relationship begins in the context of "this might be a potential mate", I can't shut off that instinct to secure my "territory".

To conclude, I think that a lot of women feel the same way, and the idea of saying, "I hope we can be friends" is really a code to say, "I hope we can end this relationship on friendly terms." In other words, "I don't see this relationship working out. Please don't be a psycho stalker."

THAT IS ALL

Love is like a reflection
A mirror of your heart
Even a hidden emotion
Shows itself for a part.

The best kind of friend is the one you could sit ona porch,swing with,never saying a word,and then walk away feeling that was the best conversation you'be had.

A man and a woman who have never met before find themselves in the same sleeping carriage of a train. After the initial embarrassment, they both manage to get to sleep; the woman on the top bunk, the man on the lower.

In the middle of the night the woman leans over and says, "I'm sorry to bother you, but I'm awfully cold and I was wondering if you could possibly pass me another blanket."

The man leans out and with a glint in his eye said "I've got a better idea ... let's pretend we're married."

"Why not," giggles the woman.

"Good," he replies. "Get your own blanket."


Ahhhh.... Marital Bliss....

Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson went on a camping trip. After a good meal and a bottle of wine, they lay down for the night, and went to sleep.
Some hours later, Holmes awoke and nudged his faithful friend.
"Watson, look up at the sky and tell me what you see."
Watson replied, "I see millions and millions of stars."
"What does that tell you?" Holmes asked.
Watson pondered for a minute. "Astronomically, it tells me that there are millions of galaxies and potentially billions of planets.
Astrologically, I observe that Saturn is in Leo. Horologically, I deduce that the time is approximately a quarter past three. Theologically, I can see that God is all-powerful and that we are small and insignificant.
Meteorologically, I suspect that we will have a beautiful day tomorrow.
What does it tell you?"
Holmes was silent for a minute, then spoke.
"Watson, you idiot. Somebody has stolen our tent!"

Keep Smiling....

someone told me not too long ago that romance is dead. no one is left out there who wants to be with someone forever. i always thought they were full of it. until i was cheated on. i like to think of myself a good man and a pretty good catch for some1. but that feeling of being betrayed is really hard to shake. im sure im not the 1st person to be cheated on and im sure i wont be the last. im just dying to know were they right? is romance dead? am i wasting my time? do nice guys truely finnish last?

god i hope not

God gave me two things to choose,Devil gave me four an my wife just gave me one,well I had to choose the last offer AM I right?