Thanks all ... he's sorta weighing things up along all of those lines... she's not that into him / stress can do weird things to a person and a couple doz other ideas that cross his mind too!
They live a couple hours apart here and he's offered to drive over but she's said 'no to that' and that's the 'big bug' here I think. He seems 'OK about' the US trip but doesn't understand what feels like being 'pushed away' here
And yes, we had the conversation about 'did he go too fast too soon' and though he thought they were both pacing things about the same he's even wondering about that now!
It's interesting and a privilege to be party to his pain I guess but it's also a bit wearing (for me as he's a fairly private sort of a man) so I appreciate the opp to 'share with the group' so to speak!
Wonders ... even if I'm anonymous and I give no clues as to who he is, is it a breach of anything that I even raised this here?
I think it's almost self deluding to believe anyone can 'get to know another' over the internet.
At best we can learn about what they tell us and, if we're alert will spot incongruities or lies in time.
But we only get to know a person by spending time with them ... put most simply that's because 'actions speak louder than words' and also because that's the only way we get to see ho they interact with others.
My 'net dating horror story' was a lady who was as sweet as candy cane 'online' yet decidedly different when we met IRL (happily she wasn't a big distance away so there was no global travel involved) and was it seemed deliberately difficult around other people ... even the waitress who was pleasant towards me was snarled at.
I'd be inclined to agree that a good number of people on here are quite insane ... though I truly wonder if the poor ole moon is entirely to blame for that!
So, mate of mine is dating a lady from the USA these last three months or so, and they seem to get on real well when I saw the two of them together.
But he was telling me last night that she's heading back to the states for two months and she's said 'No' to his visiting before she leaves.
There's a fair bit of stress attached to her visit but he said he feels kinda pushed away. They trade a txt every very bed time and chat a lil while online each day or trade emails and those (he tells me) are always warm though less warm than previously.
So, he's wondering - is he getting the slow heave away or is he reading too much into this situation and he should just lax and expect all to be good when she returns? If age matters she's 53 and he's 51.
Poor dude, he says he's not felt this way ( a bit angsty ) since he was 17 yo
contribute to their keep by doing 'meaningful work' that produces for the prison system?
I ask the question as the NZ Dept of Corrections is engaged in commercial horticulture now to the extent that they are becoming a threat (commercial growers say) to their livelihoods because DoC don't have to pay wages and their operational costs are heavily subsidised?
What happens in other countries and what are your thoughts?
I mean REALLY anyone who posts links to Gilbert O'Sullivan should be taken out and shot, no, no on second thought's death is too good for you so we'll have to think of something worse!!!
A LONG way worse!!!
Seconds, as Cher told us tis Information Technology in his kiss!
IT's in his kiss ...
Right, OK, mine post means I should be shot too ... after you!!!
For decades you whined on about wanting 'sensitive men' who would express themselves emotionally and now when one does you just set out to chew his balls!
Scratches head!
Yes, I realise that God made women to be loved not understood ... oh, maybe the promise of the world ending not by flood but by WOMEN
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What a lot of lurkers on here ...
You're no Lurker lady ...