No, it's not on account of being human, it's on account of being 'on your own'
Happily humans are the most sociable animal on the planet and have organised millions of social groups ... but they all demand that YOU approach them and register your interest!
None will come knocking on your door with invites!
Log out, step away from the computer, put on hat coat shoes and go outside! Local library will have a list of community organisations locally and there's always the International Groups ... Lions Cub, Rotary, Freemasons, Round Table, Scouts, Red Cross, St John's Ambulance, Toastmasters ... you can have an hour on the pc to research those!
COMPLAINING about being lonely is like a padlock that will shackle you to it.
NO ONE likes a complainer and that was pretty obvious from the first reply posted here!
You must be a real desperado to have bothered about a third meeting with 'this skinwrapped bones with massive eyeballs and a terrible accent thing'
What you claim to have said to the cashier fairly damns you too - there's a lot can be read about how a man deals with 'little people' in positions of service such as receptionists, waiters, cashiers eh?
As for 'Italians being calmest and most chilled ...' that more or less 100% proves you're a phoney!
Seriously fella, if you want to stand a chance with gals it's up to you to figure them out for yourself.
It's not as if there weren't a thousand 'expert sites' on the net (Let Google be your friend)
But standing on a (cyber) street corner begging women to tell you 'whats wrong my approach' is just so, so, so not effective.
Kill this profile, get rid of the pics, follow some advice from the saner sites that offer dating advice and come back with a different approach and a different, male oriented username!
Flame away ... there's TWO reasons
1) I'm come to expect that people who ask advice really never wanna here the answers
2) Guys who do 'women only reply' threads are so hoping some chick is gonna come into the thread and they hope to hit on her! So far ( and no disrespect here to those who posted ) - yer getting the Wise Ole Hens!
And 'Top o The Morning to Y'all' on the Emerald Isle !
I'm not going to bother here anymore Jacs, it's plain you have no idea at all (perhaps about anything at all either) and mostly this is just you googling something and posting 'as if you had a clue'
IF you were even capable of very basic english comprehension you;d not be ranting about 'inviting a third parties into someone's sessions'
The point made was that many counselors will ALLOW a friend of the client to attend (early) sessions until the clioent feels they can cope on their own.
If the client INVITES a friend along then that is WHAT THEY WANT TO HAPPEN and it can hardly be fair to level judgement against them for lacking confidence, esteem or courage to need an assist any more than it would be reasonable to condemn a leg fracture patient for using a crutch as an early aid in their recovery. If it's the difference between them making a start or staying stuck in whatever rut ... then it's going to be allowed.
For most who enter therapy or counseling of any variety as a client there's a sense of trepidation, perhaps even fear. For whatever reason they feel at a disadvantage... counseling is at core about 'getting apst feelings and perceptions of disadvantage so that a person can tell themselves 'Yes I can' after perhaps years of believing 'No, I can't...'
We all know that the presence of a third party is less than ideal even if only for no other reason than that person is not bound by any code of conduct,
There's also the risk that the accompanying friend might be be shocked beyond belief concerning the harsh treatment their friend received, or some act they admit to having participated ( even if 'participation' was as a victim ) and the client suffers a further abandonment by someone close to them.
Jacs, what exactly are you trying to achieve here ?
I hadn't read the entire thread before but I have now, are you simply looking for ways to disagree with more or less everyone about more or less everything?
You're just trying to wind me up when you ask
'How far do I mirror the kind of behaviour I seek to disparage'
I do my level best not to ... and I say that knowing well that the weakness we see in others is only reflected back from our self.
They are largely well meaning people ... but well meaning can create havoc, and theres no doubt western society is in a state of havoc just now !
From your reply and some of those above, shall I conclude that you're not really paying attention here at all and your intent is simply to be dismissive ?
The evidence leans heavy in that direction.
The models that are being taught in mainstream organisations are largely following the medical model.
That introduces a further complication ... that 'those of inadequate intellect' who could never cope with full medical training but who have placed Doctors as Gods (a fallacy that many doctors themselves have bought into with their training) but see themselves as 'Agents of referral'
There's other issues 'with the system' that dictates certain actions at certain stages ... esp regarding referral to medical based mental health services ie psychiatry (and we can discuss that at length if you wish)
We can also delve into the fears and insecurities of those in the field who are insecure and hold patients back in therapy for their own financial benefit. I'm not even going to allege they know they are doing it, but yanno, 'some people are just going to take longer than others' and 'Hey, you know, these problems didn't come about over night ... you have to be patient...'
If you know anything, you know that such a statement from An Authority or An Expert is accepted as a hypnotic suggestion for future behaviour ie the client EXPECTS their therapy to take a long time so, it does.
The Nocebo Effect, which is what the above is, then leads to the creation of an Iatrogenic (Medically Induced) Illness as stresses in the system (if not released) evetually lead to organic disease.
You can read about the emerging field of PyschoNeuroImmunology (the medial industry attempt to claim for itself that which many 'natural health practitioners) have known for millenia.
You want reference - Deepak Chopra, Car n Stephanie Simonton, Norman Cousins, Dave Ellman ... there's hundred of books and authors all saying the same things !
The difficulty 'on this site' or any other net based way of dating is that they sell far more hope than they can ever deliver.
The site itself is 'free' but hey, you;re 68 years old, by now you know better than most that
NOTHING IS FREE
There's a price to be paid for everything, if not in money then in labour, and if not that then in physical or emotional pain.
Easy to see the price of love is physically painful at childbirth!
And very obvious that it extracts an excrutiatingly high price in emotional pain when one looks at the messages, threads and blogs in these places.
But, is it possible for a woman of 68 years to find love again ?
The answer is a resounding YES .. my own grandfather at age of 71 met and married a wonderful gal of 68 years and they created a further two decades of love together before finally passing, he two weeks after her!
No, it's far from being the first ... theres over 150 of these already. The one you speak of though is the one where the owners have decided to so heavily promote their business!
We have surgical tourism, dental tourism and etc so hey, why not wander off to India for wee break and and a bit of baby tourism eh?
One wonders though ... what becomes of any child created in such places who dares to enter the world in a 'defective condition'...
You'd have to say what your 'other supporting reasons are' of course because unless you do that it's impossible even to consider the question.
As for outrageous discrimination ... well Islam and Christianity have been at war with one another over most of the history of their existences. What you're suggesting is handing over property 'to the enemy' and the CoE will no more do THAT than Islamists would consider handing over a mosque.
It's a stupid, often violent and bloody war, but then that happens when you get politicians and church people imposing their will on people and seeking to control them.
But such a question coming from an american, who's country is pledged to war against Islam ... one has to wonder 'What's your real agenda here Gal?'
They heard about Independent Youth Living Allowances from the Govt and realising now that they can divorce you when they are 15 years old are happily counting down the days ...
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RE: Why do women only want money or endless gifts ?
You think ... chat-only wants to be called Loretta and have babies?Well, I guess it's his right as a man ?
Hope he finds a nice surgeon !!!!!
(And shrink )