Gilly, does anyone ever take you up on your bets? Of course, we have all been all of these things...bored, lonely, depressed, etc. Stupid me, I was depressed while vacationing in a beautiful place in Greece last week. Depressed because I was alone. The beaches during the day were fine, but the nights depressed me.
Well, first of all, I don't take this personally. I am not so thin-skinned. But I disagree with what you write (don't take it personally). Drugs ARE taboo. And, although you are correct that it is not illegal to tell or write about drug use, I simply don't think it's wise to use the Internet as a means of exposing all of our vices or ill-doings. I'm just of a different mindset when it comes to the Internet. I don't view it as a place to interact only with those that we know and trust or must do business with; it has a far greater reach. Anything I write can be put before me in years to come...by a prospective employer, for example, or a prospective mate or partner. My words, once written, are a record that I cannot expunge from the Internet. So I try to choose them wisely, though I may not always be successful.
I am not ashamed of what I do or have done. I have had my experiences in my youth, although quite mild in actuality, and I have hidden nothing (not even during my employment interview). But you are right in saying that we should not do something at all if it will cause us shame. I agree completely.
In general, my earlier post was simply because I don't trust the Internet or the potential for harm that is inherent in exposing ourselves for anyone to see....forever.
I've been away and hadn't seen other posts about this. I wish you all the best as you continue along the path of full recovery. You have my most sincere well-wishes and thoughts for a healthy, happy, long life!
Fair enough, and I am definitely moving on...but if she wants to play, I feel it only fair to let her know that she doesn't necessarily have home team advantage. The playing ground is level, although she believes that it isn't. Actually, I take that back. The playing ground is definitely skewed in my favor, as long as I am against an opponent with such a frail and pitiful stance.
I've used a similar line as a response to some men who have wanted to meet me...in my HOME!!! I have asked them if they would want their mother, sister, or daughter to invite a man they have never met to their home. I find it abhorrent, but it does indeed weed out the chaff.
I am generally very reluctant to openly display my ignorance, but I cannot understand the brouhaha over this issue. I admit that I am not seeing the television pundits or reading all of the articles currently written on this subject, so I may be missing some very valid arguments AGAINST reform to our system as currently proposed. But I just can't for the life of me understand how people could be content with the status quo of health care in the U.S. If anyone of us had a serious illness or injury while uninsured (let's assume we lost our jobs through a massive layoff and lost our insurance and were simply too strapped financially to pay the high premiums for an individual policy)...well, if something catastrophic happened, are the opponents to reform ok with seeing life savings being swept away in order to pay for the $75 aspirins and $100 bandages? Are we insane? Of course reform is necessary! The pharmaceutical companies and insurance providers have control. I firmly believe that we need to take back some of this control. Somebody please do enlighten me. Why, precisely, should I be against healthcare reform? I'm willing to be convinced that I am wrong, but it will have to be one hell of a convincing argument.
The other half??? Do you claim to represent 50% of us?
Whether or not you're taking the piss here, (and I will quote you now)..."I don't give a damn." But please don't be disappointed in those of us in the lower 49%....we're not all so "miserable". The lower decks of the Titanic were a hell of a lot more fun, I'm convinced.
Most defintitely....high heels, but not so high that I am suffering. I try on every pair of shoes that I buy, I walk in them a bit...if I can see myself getting through a work day, then the night time is a done deal.
I have had men tell me in the past that I "think like a man".
Insult or compliment?
But I understood why they told me that at the time. They were expecting an emotional reaction to a certain situation (you see, this is also a part of the conundrum...expectations); my response was purely based on logic and I kept emotions out of it. This surprised them, which surprised me as well. Many, many women are capable of placing logic before emotion, when they choose to do so. There are times, however, when an emotional response is far more honest, so such responses should not be discounted as a female weakness. It's a strength, actually. If I react to something based on how it truly makes me feel and not simply on a logical standpoint, you (the generic you) will have a response that is real and shows the depth of who I am and what I think and feel.
I'm on vacation and am back in the States for a couple of weeks. I've been spending time with my oldest son and doing a lot of shopping and it's all been great. I will leave Atlanta on Thursday and go see my second son in San Francisco. Being able to spend this time with my sons and other family and friends is wonderful. And buying a lot of new clothes is pretty wonderful, too!
Well, I am currently in Atlanta, Georgia...will leave on Thursday for San Francisco...then to North Carolina the following Tuesday...finally, back to Greece on Friday. But, somehow, I think your post was meant for one person specifically!
The men will be there every Saturday for a month....4 Saturdays. Your girlfriend needs a ride one Saturday to the airport. I don't know the distance, but let's assume you have an hour to drive each way. If that's a close estimation, you invest 2 hours for her out of 4 Saturdays. I would have taken my girlfriend to the airport. I would have told the men to come at 8am, if that would have made you feel better about them. They are being amazing friends. Pay it forward, as the saying goes. That is my opinion.
Please tell your Dad that we already miss him and we want him to hurry back to us as soon as he can. Tell him that his friend in Athens sends him great big hugs.
I wonder, though... We say we forgive. (Well, I didn't say that, but others have!). This forgiveness process is not something I can really relate to...I mean, do you close your eyes and say it to yourself, to free the demons in your own mind, or do you tell the person who has betrayed you that you have forgiven them? If one moves on and has put things in their proper place, is this forgiveness? If I have successfully moved on, does this mean I have forgiven? Isn't it possible to just move on, yet not forgive? I don't think I am alone here. I long ago moved on. I haven't forgiven. Is this seemingly impossible? Not to me. I'm quite content and resolved. I have no burden, J.D....not from this history. No burden whatsoever. I have only recollection.
My job keeps me traveling. A few years here, a couple there. I will be doing this until mandatory retirement. As for your question....of course I want a companion! Why the hell do you think I am on CS???
No offense taken in the least. But, what you don't understand is that my heart is not still in anger. There is a pocket in my brain that holds memories. This is not a pocket that I draw from in present circumstances; it is just a memory place. I may not be explaining it well, but suffice it to say that I can compartmentalize and differentiate between situation A and situation B. What I experienced at that time remains in its compartment and has no bearing on today. You may not believe me, but this is the absolute truth in how I feel. I don't carry this around with me...it's years ago. But when asked if I forgive HIM....my answer will never change. I don't, I won't. I can live with this. Maybe this makes me seem callous and cruel, and I am neither. I just put things in their proper places. I don't tolerate betrayal. Why the hell should I? Am I not worthy of better treatment from one who tells me he loves me? God (if one believes) can do the forgiving. I'll just take the experiences in life that I am given and process them.
I have well moved on. I don't hurt at all. He is nothing more than a memory to me now. I don't think of him, other than in terms of reference. I long ago moved on. And I will never forgive him. Never.
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RE: I BET NONE OF YOU HAVE EVER BEEN REALLY BORED FED UP DEPRESSED FRUSTRATED OR LONELY TELL THE TRUTH ?
Gilly, does anyone ever take you up on your bets?Of course, we have all been all of these things...bored, lonely, depressed, etc. Stupid me, I was depressed while vacationing in a beautiful place in Greece last week. Depressed because I was alone. The beaches during the day were fine, but the nights depressed me.
So...you lost the bet. What do I win?