I have "very strong feelings" for a man much younger than me...and he has the same for me. You are asking if this might be an impossible hurdle when you don't even know how she feels about you; I know how my man feels about me, but I still feel that there is a tremendous hurdle for us to leap, if we are to have any future together. I am living one day at a time. Is this enough for you? It's enough for me now, for I don't seek marriage and nor does he. But I'm no different than most people here...I would like to find "the one" for the rest of my days. I wish it could be him...but the realist in me says that it won't be. Sigh.
Give it a little time. And, by the way...welcome to the fishpond/cesspool! To answer your question, I would say that you should not be concerned....at least, not yet. If you are going to delve back into the pool, you must do so with faith (I can swim....I know I can do this) and yet with caution as well (I must know my limitations and not dive in shallow waters, etc.). The online dating world is a whole new ballgame for many of us, but give this man your faith, for you have said that it is going well. Don't assume that he is up to no good. I'm in a relationship, but I am here for the Forums nowadays. I come here for another sort of "entertainment" (such as it is lately), but not to find a man. If, in time, you still have such concerns....address them directly with him. There's no other way to get the answers you seek, than to ask them of the one who has the answers.
It's possible to find real love..... But it's hard to figure out what to do with it. I've been in a relationship with a younger man for months now. I even tried to end it when I realized I was in love with him, but my self-imposed separation from him only lasted about 2 weeks. We didn't want to be apart. We are very much in love with each other (real life, not long distance or cyber), we spend every moment we can with each other, we do all the things that any couple would do together....and I am enjoying every minute. But I just can't figure out what to do with it beyond one day at a time.
Interestingly, I have found that many Greek men will freely admit that they are married or have girlfriends. I have absolutely no interest in being someone's mistress or "side dish" and I want all cards on the table from the beginning. I'm not saying that I've never been lied to in this regard, but I can say that I have never been lied to in a way that would have me suspicious or doubtful. If I've been lied to, they did it well, for I'm not blind to the typical signs. I once asked a man (a Greek man at work who flirts with me frequently) if he was married. I wasn't going to date him no matter what his answer was, but I was curious about his open flirtation. When I asked him if he was married, he said "No.....but my wife is."
I've learned that the only way to let go is to know and fully accept that you must go through the full process first. It's a grieving process that only time and strength will get you through. You grieve for the loss of your dreams and hopes, you grieve for the loss of your love, you even grieve for the loss of your naivete, perhaps...you feel a tremendous loss and sadness, and so you grieve. It's like entering a tunnel. You know that you must go through the tunnel if you ever want to get to your destination....the other side...but the tunnel is deep and dark and you question whether you can make it through. Sometimes we simply don't allow ourselves to fully grieve and we try to fight it, but if we're ever going to move on, we must go through the tunnel. It takes strength and time, but if we don't push ourselves to keep moving through the tunnel, we will remain in darkness. Every teardrop, every moment of doubt and questioning and anger and pain....this is all part of the painful process of moving on. With strength and with time, there WILL come a day when you can begin to see the light again. It's painful, but it's the only way.
I ordered a burger at McDonald's and the kid behind the counter asked, "Can you afford fries with that?"
CEO's are now playing miniature golf.
If the bank returns your check marked Insufficient Funds, you call them and ask if they meant you or them.
Hot Wheels and Matchbox stocks are trading higher than GM.
McDonald's is selling the 1/4 ouncer.
Parents in Beverly Hills fired their nannies and learned their children's names.
A truckload of Americans was caught sneaking into Mexico
Motel Six won't leave the light on anymore.
The Mafia is laying off judges.
Exxon-Mobil laid off 25 Congressmen.
Congress says they are looking into this Bernard Madoff scandal. Oh Great!! The guy who made $50 Billion disappear is being investigated by the people who made $1.5 Trillion disappear!
And, finally... I was so depressed last night thinking about the economy, wars, jobs, my savings, Social Security, retirement funds, etc., I called the Suicide Lifeline. I got a call center in Pakistan, and when I told them I was suicidal, they got all excited, and asked if I could drive a truck!
Is it just me? When I read a thread posted by someone who purports to be in a city or town in the U.S. and that person cannot string 5 words together without a number of grammatical and spelling errors, does this not seem strange to you? I have been out of school and out of the U.S. for a number of years, but has our educational system fallen so low that our youth can't even communicate in English any longer? Are such posts the work of scammers...or are they the result of a lack of education and a lack of caring? I am a lover of carefully chosen words and of heartfelt expression and I am saddened to witness the decline of language. Sigh.
I don't agree with this. Guys lie, women lie. Who can really say who lies MORE? Come on, folks. Are we really that ignorant or that convinced that one gender trumps the other in such a matter (or in many others)? Truth is not the privilege of one gender vs. another...truth and honesty are up to the individual, not the gender.
As one who has access to a lot of emails and status reports and task force communiques from direct sources, I can tell you that there are many factors and many behind-the-scenes reasons for what you are questioning. With so very many nations across the globe offering tremendous support through food, water, medical supplies and personnel, etc., and given the size of the airport and the numbers of planes that are requesting a landing slot, the logistics alone must be intensely complex. Those that are in a position to determine the landing slots must prioritize by considering a number of factors....the size of the aircraft, the time it will take to offload equipment, the cargo being delivered, etc., etc. I don't know what sort of aircraft was used to bring Hillary or Bill Clinton in, but I do know that Hillary's plane DID bring supplies, not just her and her accompanying team of personnel. As an example, and I am not free to provide all the details, I can say that Greece is one of many nations who have offered assistance and they have requested a landing slot as soon as possible, but at this time they don't have anything sooner than a date in early February. This is how it is....there is only one small airport and it cannot support all of the aircraft requesting landing slots. As for a previous poster who wanted to flood the State Department with phone calls and demand that more be done, I can only say that you have no idea how much IS being done, but the mission of the State Department is built around diplomacy, primarily, not aid. Yet, having said that, the Department is heavily involved in providing relief, assisting with medical evacuations, coordinating relief efforts, etc. None of us should be pointing fingers and claiming that one group or another (or one country or another) is not doing enough to help Haiti. I am fully certain that many, many nations and organizations are doing all that can possibly be done.
Message from Secretary of State Hillary Clinton below.
Rest in peace, Victoria.
This morning I spoke with the family of Victoria DeLong, the Cultural Affairs Officer at our Embassy in Port-Au-Prince who lost her life in the earthquake. I expressed my sincerest condolences on behalf of the men and women of the State Department and the American people. So many have lost their lives in this tragedy. The United Nations has suffered grievous losses. And the Haitian people have endured unimaginable heartbreak. For the State Department, we have lost one of our own.
Victoria was a veteran Foreign Service Officer who worked tirelessly to build bridges of understanding and respect between the people of the United States and the people of Haiti. She served her country with distinction and honor, and she will be sorely missed.
Victoria's friends and colleagues at the Embassy are working day and night to support vital relief and recovery efforts, and our thoughts, our prayers, and our deepest thanks are with them as well. Along with the military personnel, the search and rescue teams, and all the aid and relief workers now deploying, they represent the unwavering commitment of the United States to stand with Haiti in its hour of need and in the hard days and years to come. My heart is with the DeLong family today, and with all those in Haiti and around the world who have lost loved ones and friends in this disaster.
On a deserted island, I'd want the President of the United States (no matter who he or she might be) because the odds of search and rescue teams finding me would be a lot greater if the President was with me!
If no rescue was possible, I'd want the man who is in my pic with me!
Yeah, I fully agree. The moment I read the initial post (and I knew nothing about a previous one at the time), red flags popped up all over the place. The kicker was the part about the guy going to Iraq on 23 Dec because his best friend was very sick.
Any idea, oh elusive WichitaFallsGirl, how impossible such a scenario would truly be? I don't suppose you've tried to get a visa to go to Iraq recently, have you? Or book flights...or arrange, on your own, to go visit a sick friend for 2 weeks and have a place to stay, etc., etc., etc.
This is pathetic b.s. and you, whoever you truly are, should be ashamed of yourself! In light of the fact that many young men and women HAVE lost their lives there and continue to do so every day, seeking attention and empathy by lying about a young man dying in Iraq is not just abhorrent, but it is sick and twisted as well. Shame on you.
The way I look at it is that we can go through life on a fairly stable plane with few highs and lows or we can ride the roller coaster and throw our arms up, scream, climb ever higher, and enjoy the ride to its fullest, taking the dips and dives along the way as well. It's less painful to stay on the level, steady plane. Without great joy, the risk of pain is far less. But it's a bit of a flatline, isn't it? I'm no different than anyone else here...I've loved and lost and I've hurt and cried, more times than I wish. But I wouldn't trade the love for a flatline, not for a moment would I do so. I don't think you really want that, either. I'm not bitter about my past loves....I'm better for having known them, even if they didn't last. I don't fall easily or often, and the few men I have loved in my life have been good men. Though they didn't last a lifetime, they brought me far more joy than tears. One gave me two sons. I don't regret a moment I spent with them. Don't be afraid to love. Rather, be afraid of the flatline.
Thanks for answering. And, as English is not your first language, then my opinion of your writing is much more favorable. If it had been your first language, I was surprised at how many mistakes there were in your writing. But I have total respect for anyone who is writing in a language that is not their native tongue, so I now applaud your work.
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RE: Lady Gaga
Sorry, but I can't do that...I really like her.