Profiles Tell Us Nothing!
I seldom bother to look at profiles because it is often just a mixture of who people think they are and what they want other to believe.
On the other hand, what you commit in writing in the blogs, forums, etc reveals your soul. It strips you bare to the bone. And it tells us exactly who you are. Few people have a true perception of who they really are. Also, the terms we use in our profiles are relative to the culture we grew up in and the way we were brought up.
Some years ago a younger relative who studied psychology ask me to fill out a questionnaire, which was part of a task she had to complete. The questionnaire was in fact a survey of what I thought of the particular person. It had probing questions about her strong and weak points. I found the idea very interesting and made 20 copies of it, which I promptly distributed amongst my family, friends, colleagues, and their spouses. Some of the questionnaires went to their adult children to get a varied age spectrum.
Good grief, was I surprised with the diversity of the results? Things that I deemed as my strong points were only noticed by some and other ‘good things’ about me were not even mentioned. The very same applied to my bad points. I would not have recognized myself in some of those papers. Even husbands and wives had different opinions about me.
But the big surprise was something I paid no attention to but most the people had it listed. Some people admired me for that trait while others condemned me for it. I guess that it is needless to add that those who did not like it, had been at the wrong end of it at some stage or the other.
I am indebted to my young relative who asked me to help her with the task. She taught me that the way we look at ourselves is just one opinion and that other people do not necessarily view us in that light. Everybody has a different perception of us. And more importantly, what others think of us, weighs much heavier than what we imagine ourselves to be.
Have a great day. Not all Mondays are blue.
Comments (44)
great blog my friend
a blog ....like this
It is fascinating to think that what you perceive to be a strong point may not even noticed by some people. It may be taken for granted or it may not be important to everybody.
Great minds think alike.
Or perhaps I can read minds.
What I do notice from some men interested in dating is how they would like me to be which has nothing to do with reality, but a vivid imagination.
Yes, and it is astonishing how different people on the same level can have completely different perceptions of you.
I know that I sometimes have a different view of someone than my friends would have.
Well, well, well! A very kind comment by your standards. Keep it up. Perhaps the orange juice still have too much acid in it. Try mango juice. I may add that I don't agree with your statement re the low esteem. Methinks it is people with an overinflated ego who don't care about what other think about them but that is only my opinion and yours is also noted.
I think it is much to do with our individual dealings with different people. We don't treat everybody the same so we would come across to them differently.
If you compare your comment with the previous, it will demonstrate. You were exposed to all the sames blogs and yet your opinions differ as day from night.
Here is what I have written on my profile:
About me:
Sometimes in life we need to pretend and say.. "I see nothing.. hear nothing.. know nothing!"
And like other roses, I too have my own thorns.
I’m looking for:
There is someone who has given me a reason why I mostly just post a blog, post comments, play scrabble.. and then be invisible.
And I am sure you have read my blogs and my comments. So what does it all tell you about me?
I think treating people differently relates to what relationship we have with them (personal, romantic or not, professional etc.) and how much we like them – or not.
Yes, and you have seen my responses to you and it should tell you all you want to know. If I spelled it out to you here, we'd be in tug-of-war contest all day. But at least the two of us can differ and still see eye to eye afterwards.
I fear I was not clear enough. A mistake I often make. I did not mean your previous comment but rather to compare yours with the comment made by somebody else just prior to it.
What I'm trying to say that it is obvious that the two of you have completely different opinions about me yet I have manifested myself with the same material.
No bother, I just didn't get your quote in this context.
You can PM me if you don't mind. To me, it's good to hear about who I might be, both negative and positive (if there is any
Then I can compare your assessment to my friends' at the office.
Hmm, but we can still find something from nothing through different ways like archaeology.
I will comply to your request but it will take a little time and I have to go out shortly. I will do it when I get an opportunity (maybe not today). You like to delete your blogs (the evidence) at regular intervals so don't ask for proof; you have destroyed it.
Boy, am I going to enjoy this!
Yes, we can. If we try hard enough.
This was my profile when still looking;
I would like to meet someone.
Someone who knows what he wants and won't settle for less.
Someone who believes when something has been dealt with, it should not be brought up again, it is be thrown in the ocean
where there is a sign saying; No fishing allowed.............
Your toys and possesions don't impress me, what is in your "upstairs" does.
Never lie to me, as I will not give you a chance to tell me the second lie.
I believe that communication is the KEY...........
I say what I mean and mean what I say....................
Naaaahhh.. I won't ask for any proof. So no worries..
If I have already been invisible when you come back, could you please leave it on my other "pigeonhall"?
Thank you and have a nice day!
of course we can say something about other... I also get what impress about you... negative or positive, only me know..
Sorry! But I agree with KN. On this one. ...
Oops! Sorry Again.
I agree with many others too!...
I always try to tell the truth. I wish other people would do the same. Truth hurts because u dont want to know it.
Yes, ok. Your profile tell us what you want to tell us. The question is, Is the the person really what the say? We don't know until we have seen a few blogs and comments. That is when you get to know the person. the profile ma tell us a but but the blogs and comments show us all.
Quite, the blog, forums, polls etc tell us every thing about the people who participate. I think it is safe to say that us bloggers know each other pretty well.
Sorry, I only got back a few minutes ago. I am servicing my blog now, then I'm going to eat and I have a few other things to do.
I'm sorry, my hard drive crashed a while ago and I had to reload my laptop. In the process I lost all my contacts. For some reasons still escaping me, I made no backup of my contacts. Drop something in the mail so I can return it again.
Applying for a job is just one example that what other people think is important. No hatter how high your self esteem, if you cannot make a good impression on the recruiting officer, you can forget about the job. What other people think of you, affects your life.
I though KN and I were in agreement. But it is ok if you agree with her. We have agreed to disagree, not so?
I think most of us try but not all succeed to the same extend. And the truth only hurts when you've done something wrong.
Yes it does. Parents are role models to their children and it is important what they think of their parents. Teachers are role models to their students. People who don't really care what others think about them, don't care too much about themselves. The image that we project is part of our persona and we are judged by that. That is why we strive to improve ourselves; we care about what other think of us.
U answer very politically correct.
Most people dont want to hear the truth period.
It's so true how many people can look at one person and see you so differently.
Thing is at the end of the day we are who we are. People can think what they like and do!!!
I know for me personally here on the blogs my perseption of people can and has changed somewhat.. Always I might add for the better. Usually I find the more I come to know somebody the more I actually like them...as you start to see what makes them tick. The same in real life.
Sometimes I think we see what we want to see also.
Interesting subject though and like you said for you personally you was viewed by people close to you all differently. Guess that makes you an interesting person eh?
Always love KN's comments. She seems to hit things on the nail every time.
Have a great day
Again you seem to speak for all of mankind. And then you put a period behind to show it is not negotiable. Who am I to argue with somebody with such conviction.
Yes, I may be interesting to some but not to others.
But interestingly enough, I don't seek people's approval in what I do and I don't care about what just everybody think about me. There are people who are excluded from my world and their opinion regarding me is mind over matter. That is I don't mind and they don't matter.
I don't mind about what the Queen of England think about me because because we live on different planets but when my neighbor thinks that I'm too lazy to mow my lawn, it is of my concern. However, if he thinks that I'm smoking dope because somebody picked up some drugs outside my front gate while my whole lifestyle suggest differently, I don't care a dime about his rantings. His opinion is not based on facts.
I don't care is some people don't like me for that feeling normally is mutual. But I care about what the people who interact with me daily think about me.