You don’t attract what you want. You attract who you are.
You don’t attract what you want. You attract who you areThe moment you’re happy on your own is when the right relationship enters your life (Myke Macapinlac)
Many people complain about not being able to find a partner, or finding the wrong one, or not being able to hold on to the right one.
Some blame everything on past partners, rather than focusing on improving themselves to a level that makes them good partner material.
Is the answer within ourselves? Do we attract what we deserve?
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we get attracted to the one that is out of reach!
We attract what we send out.
If we play victim we will attract someone who wants to rescue us.
And if we are needy we attract someone who wants to control us. Etc...
In other words being vulnerable will not bring something very positive.
To me it appears so at times.
There aren't a lot of guys I would be attracted to as a partner though - someone decent, bright, interesting and that has my back as much as I would have his and that wants to share his life with someone.
But as a fact, there are a few - and unsurprisingly, these guys do have a choice of potential partners.
I did have it in the past that when I was miserable, I attracted miserable guys. When my life is full and going well, it is easy to go out and meet people.
Thankfully it did happen that I did meet one of the "good ones" and it lasted as long as we were on the same page in regards to what we wanted to do with our lives. So yes, if you want to attract "good", you have to be a good partner yourself.
That is a bit scarry.
Come on....was looking for a different resp
IMB, if you are only attracted to ones who are out of reach, you may have commitment issues and thus are only attracted to those you cannot give a commitment to
Daniela, some people want to be controlled, or at least have somebody look after them. Others want somebody who is weaker as they need to be in charge. I have seen people here saying that they wanted stern, controlling men. So it takes all types.
KN, I hope the good one is still going strong
Ben, men think with their 2nd brain quite a lot
BB
Prof, did I disappoint you?
and yes, I believe we attract what we deserve..
If we think, negatively, then it is all negative
If it is positive, then it is all positive
So I always try to be positive in life -
Coz I got a V-taper
I totally get it now!
I can slip it in your tea if you want..
What were we talking about again?
we deserve everything we take.
However, many people take what they get
I agree, being happy in your own skin doesn't have to mean being complacent or rigid in your ideas.
There is a whole world out there, and it does need to be discovered and enjoyed to expand your knowledge and experiences.
However, I do eat porridge for breakfast
I do put honey in it though
Great blog as always Molly
I wouldn't mind a drop of Amarula in there though
it's like South African Bailey's but nicer
And thanks
It makes him/her more attractive.
Simply because of hypergamy and briffault’s law.
After all of that you have love, physical /mental attraction blah blah blah ....
Just saying .... but I cant stay, shopping time ahead and I’ll probably have a bad attitude about it ;)……
Very good blog Molly
S.V
I don't know many men who stay with women when the advantage goes either.
Maybe there is a different law for that - the law of the jungle
attracting them! But then again..there's this horse fly that sits on
my window sill that I've kinda cozied up to. Do I need therapy?
Cafe
Lol
But your right, we don't attract what we want, the attraction is what they WANT from US.
Me when I mention I have ms, I get treated different by people especially women,
Welcome back
Hi Itchy, so you don't feel we have any control over our own attitudes?
As for your final statement , are you not the 'they' as well as the 'us'?
Q: you always describe yourself in terms of your physical disability rather than your personality.
Do you feel it personifies you more? Or do you feel that it is what personifies you to others?
If the MS doesn't affect your activity level, is it necessary to mention it, especially at the early stages ?
Its given me a great appreciation of life and friends, but people don t notice that. I m one of those ,the glass is half full type people , not half empty types. Hope I made sense.
Obviously the first impression we make in real life is the physical. But if the person themselves doesn't identify themselves as being their disability, but their personality, then that comes across to the other person.
There is a girl here who was born with no limbs. That may be the first thing they see about her, but boy once they talk to her they meet a different person. An independent, intelligent person full of plans for the future that no lack of limbs will stop her achieving.
She doesn't identify herself as her disability, instead she identifies as her personality, brains, wit, etc., and that is what shines through.