Profile Honesty

How honest should we be on our profiles?

Would it put people off, or would it simply attract the type we are really looking for, and who are looking for us?

Should physical disabilities/abnormalities be put out there?

What about mental issues, from mild depression to dipshit loco?

Some people have no problem with either mental or physical issues, some even are attracted to them.


Same with body size. Should we put our BMI (Body Mass Index) on our profile. Although not a perfect method of measurement, is it not better than 'average ' or 'curvy' which means different things to different people.

Again, lots of people like fat or skinny people, and it would save them time in guessing/searching.


If we are selfish; unfaithful; possessive; short-tempered; undependable; argumentative; lazy; only want casual sex, etc., is it not better to say it?


If you want a partner to support you financially, why not say it? Some people want others to be dependent on them. Match made in heaven.


How honest should we be? And how able would people be to accept that honesty?
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Track, full honesty and disclosure seems to be beyond most of us.
Rob, I am sure some CSers do want marriage.

I know a couple who met in my garden for a CS Mini-meet, and they are still living together nearly 4 years later.
redex your on something lately is like another person .....im sure your not a fella molly but okay the blur is grand but is years old maybe make a new one you don't need show your head .
1-to. It is definitely better to get rid of people who are not attracted to you for whatever reason.

At least the you know that anybody who does converse with you, has no problem with that particular part of you.
A massive laundry list of expectations from a stranger is too much to ask and no one would write their life story on a profile, because it would be too long, too boring.

It take’s effort to get to know someone, their habits, their personality, their interests, their passions, personality and you can expect everything to be laid out on a silver platter, because dating takes work, time and energy, so lazy people won’t get what they want and will have to make a lot of effort to do get what you want

Molly you ask too much and when you start talking about finances, then you really are putting a concrete wall up and romance is not top on your list of priorities and financial support is, so a red flag would be waving

The reason a lot of men are going MGTOW is, because women used them and took them to the cleaners in divorces, so the last thing a man would want is a woman asking Q & A about his finances, job, home etc, because it’s not worth the risk with those types of women

What you ask for will never happen on online dating sites and never should, because nothing is ever cut and dry, so like it or lump it
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JJ, Mimi recognised me immediately from the blur, so there is no change to me wink
A massive laundry list of expectations from a stranger is too much to ask and no one would write their life story on a profile, because it would be too long, too boring.

It take’s effort to get to know someone, their habits, their personality, their interests, their passions, personality and you can’t expect everything to be laid out on a silver platter, because dating takes work, time and energy, so lazy people won’t get what they want and will have to make a lot of effort to do get what you want

Molly you ask too much and when you start talking about finances, then you really are putting a concrete wall up and romance is not top on your list of priorities and financial support is, so a red flag would be waving

The reason a lot of men are going MGTOW is, because women used them and took them to the cleaners in divorces, so the last thing a man would want is a woman asking Q & A about his finances, job, home etc, because it’s not worth the risk with those types of women

What you ask for will never happen on online dating sites and never should, because nothing is ever cut and dry
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Can't instead of can

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Freedom, so you are saying that we shouldn't want to know in advance if the man/woman wants a relationship which includesfinancial support, that you'd prefer to find out when you are in the relationship?
Johnj ?? do you think that, i feel i have always been me confused And certainly not on anything thats a never never unless its a rocking horse, laugh laugh

I think its got to be the gym cheering
I believe you girl ..bein to honest is not great either some will use to their advantage but money can vcome up and I think its a valid point to know if a person is at least solvent and able to make a few bob helps .but as I said even this can be overcome if its right person ..but at start I don't think its a suitable time as you get to know maybe
no red lately your as bold as they come and every place I looks at here you r firin fire out
Molly wow no need to change my age it did it all by itself laugh laugh now how honest can a girl get

As long as it does not say oi won the lottery or anything like that roll eyes
Honestly john ask anyone i have always been so even worse 5 years ago grin i was firing on all cylanders now a few less peace
JJ, I guess everyone has different needs and expectations.

I personally wouldn't want to find out when I am already dating them if they have/are something I don't have the tools/experience to deal with.
Okay Molly,

I gave it a try. I just asked some lady to marry me a moment ago. She wrote back to me, "Eat my shorts!"

See, just doesn't work for me.
frustrated
Red, it always changes the age automatically.

But it can't get it right if a person puts in the incorrect DOB at the beginning wink
Rob, I think you must have messaged Bart Simpson in error laugh
I agrees molly but you cant just ask a person has you any income is not nice ...but is important or if a peson has a sickness that's of a serious nature we should tell is so many things to consider is not like your married to people these things are very important .and for me not easy pry into another adults life
Oh doh never thought of that wrong D.O.B what a maze neither wonder i stopped searching.

should john i put on profile (i can look after myself financial can you) only folk that can need e-mail me confused

I think that is why a meeting up should be done after all e-mails. peace
give me a look at the bank statement sure it all that matters
"How honest should we be? And how able would people be to accept that honesty?"

Obviously honesty is an important part of promoting oneself, however, one's profile is the only forum people have to "market" themselves, therefore, I would suggest all profiles tend to highlight only the positives and none of the negatives.

As for how people would accept that honesty, I would say the statement "never trust a second hand car dealer" would be the most appropriate!
Hiya Sol,
And selling oneself is more personal than selling cars
Molly you're not looking for anyone. You've been here since the sun

Started to shine.grin
so you thinks everyone should say their fininancial status you has some hope where are you from that's never going to happen is like asking a farmer how many animals he has jaysus would be horrible really have no answers is pouring here again ...and you cant say here what you do in your life is personal for me anyway .
JJ, you got post number 69 cheering


Fancy shorts on their way to you grin
cork hoors one track minds
JJ, at least I'm not after your money grin
4 years? My goodness I thought we were here for 6, 7 years.
only reason id say that is because you has no pic up and is not meant as you knows well your her same length as me I thinks .and your still okay I enjoys your honesty ha ha ha good blog interesting points
Freedom, the majority of men's profiles are exactly the same.

I ignore them.

I only interact with people who have a decent profile up, and/or who have properly read mine.
JJ, pic or no pic, I'd say I have met more CSers in real life than anybody else on here
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yeah a lot youd never want to meet either but yeah are nice people here and no doubt you learn don't you are all types
I dont think anyone would be totally honest on their profile, we often have a perception of ourselves that is false and deep down we know its wrong.

Its been suggested that someone who knows you should write your profile, they would be honest and perhaps show your best qualities that you wouldn't think of.

I just wrote on paper an honest "about me" and "about my match", I maybe biased but I wouldnt even look at me, Id probably close the screen is disgust.

A few people here know me quite well, I'd be interested to see what they would say.
Map, if the perception we have of ourselves is false, but we know it is false, then surely the best thing to do is put as close to the truth as we can?
JJ, I only meet the ones I want to meet laugh
Molly, The difference is I'm not the one with a massive tick box list, but you appear to be, so I guy would have to have pages of personal information and everything on the table, before you converse with him, so not many guys would live up to those expectations you have.

Reality is that you will always get lies or white lies from people and that will never change, so adapt to reality or continue with your tick box list and continue to feel more and more frustrated, because romance is not your main priority and money is
professor
Freedom, money is my main priority? ?


Oh, how little you know me.
Map, I never ever lied about my bad cooking snooty


It is THAT bad....help

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Mimi, The truth is quite Artistic, I think you are probably an artful cook.
Yeah, she Artfully orders takeaways laugh
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