Profile Honesty
How honest should we be on our profiles?Would it put people off, or would it simply attract the type we are really looking for, and who are looking for us?
Should physical disabilities/abnormalities be put out there?
What about mental issues, from mild depression to dipshit loco?
Some people have no problem with either mental or physical issues, some even are attracted to them.
Same with body size. Should we put our BMI (Body Mass Index) on our profile. Although not a perfect method of measurement, is it not better than 'average ' or 'curvy' which means different things to different people.
Again, lots of people like fat or skinny people, and it would save them time in guessing/searching.
If we are selfish; unfaithful; possessive; short-tempered; undependable; argumentative; lazy; only want casual sex, etc., is it not better to say it?
If you want a partner to support you financially, why not say it? Some people want others to be dependent on them. Match made in heaven.
How honest should we be? And how able would people be to accept that honesty?
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Ok guys, gotta go and have my dinner now, my final night in Spain.
Tomorrow this time, I'd be meeting Zeurich in Amsterdam. She used to blog here.
See ya later
And say hi to Art for me
I've read all the comments which I also find interesting and it covers more or less what I want to say.
I've changed the wordings of my profile about 20 times in 4 years..have updated my pics..although blurred ones...and have had many dates.
The only thing I'm lying about now is my age (99) as people never believed me when I had my real age anyway. At least it keeps the suspense going.
I've also said the truth about my physical health but people don't believe me either and expect me to climb mount Everest! Lol
The problem is how long can one stay "detached"?
Daniela, if you are happy that you are telling the truth (apart from 99
Maybe not, but I am still more interested in a complete profile than a 'I'll fill this in later ' profile.
Brutal honesty. !
hope all is well with you,
Btw, "!I`ve been around a long time. Maybe the people like me." Bogart
I think we are all guilty, to some degree or other, of overlooking incompatibilities because of seeing something we like in the other person.
And yes, people do need counselling after trauma to fully recover.
I know another person who is married to somebody who had a very dysfunctional upbringing - alcoholic father & not a great mother.
Their relationship has suffered because he never got any counselling. He has never dealt with it. He turns to drink himself when stressed. Their relationship is going to break up I'd say, because he refuses to deal with his issues.
Any unresolved issues need to be addressed if they affect your life.
Straight down the middle seems a good road to go
It would take time to create that bond of trust certainly.
I must admit to enjoying this blog and having my say
Why don't you write more blogs? If it is a subject of my interest, then you can count me in have my say
I must admit to enjoying this blog and having my say
Why don't you write more blogs? If it is a subject of my interest, then you can count me to have my say
to instead of in
Typos
It's late
I write a blog if something interests me.
I honestly have no interest in blogs that are only there to cause chaos.
I enjoy differing viewpoints even if I don't agree with them. But I like blogs that are even-tempered and where all people can have their say.
Yanno, I can be serious as well as fun
Many women date guys who are at least 3inches taller and 6ft + is a requirement for many too
The average height for a UK male is 5”10, so only 1 inch taller, than you and you are well above average female height, because average female height is only 5”4, so does that restrict your choices? Or do you date shorter guys?
They don't have to be 3" taller than me in heels
I don't wear high heels that often, so it's not a problem.
However, I do like them to be a few inches taller than me in bare feet.
I would choose a mentally sound lady, with a warm, caring and romantic heart to start my new journey of love with
I just checked out your profile
What do you consider a very feminine woman to be ?
Don't worry, I'm not coming on to you, you live too far away
Profile is advertising
Ads are to catch attention
Now met 15? Peeps off CS
Guess how many honest in 15
Maybe 3. My own is the truth - as I see it - but not the whole truth. My pics are not photoshopped but they are flattering. I squawk with horror and delete unflattering ones.
I'm looking at houses and some ads are truth but not the whole truth and some are barely true and some are pure fibs. The sellers hope I won't notice - or see the potential - just like profiles, really
If you are honestly looking for a partner/friend wouldn't it be best to be honest?
Just the basics and leave something to find out with ensuing conversations.
A little like seeing what the blurry vision is actually like in focus.
I don't need to know your blood type, social security number, drivers license or place of birth but if you would like to pass on 3 references, body measurements, bank details and family history I may take the time to peruse them. If you are not contacted you have been unsuccessful on this attempt but I will hold your information in case an opening comes up.
I believe that if there is interest via messages the next step must be video chat, anyone not wishing to chat on video cannot be who they say they are.
3 were honest,, eh?
If you are honestly looking for a partner/friend wouldn't it be best to be honest?'
You'd be surprised how many people can't be honest.
So does that imply they are not honestly looking for a partner?
I haven't seen a job advert , so shan't send a cv
(Note to self- stop meeting people in real life
As for your statement " I believe that if there is interest via messages the next step must be video chat, anyone not wishing to chat on video cannot be who they say they are."
I totally disagree with this. I would, and have, met people in real life before I'd ever agree to video vhat. That's my idea of hell.
okay
I know some have a picture many years old.
When you talk about being honest should your picture not be blured, not old?
When is CS ATD?