How can you appreciate?
How can you appreciate the opposite sex if you have had sex with countless numerous people?Sex loses its meaning?
Marriages will not last?
Does it lead to more extreme things?
What then has meaning?
My new car gives me anticipation to get in and drive it...but after 5 years, I don't have that same anticipation.
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Ded,
Maybe I can correct you, this blog goes for both males and females.
Noooooooooooooo
You bring up a great point. There was a time when I was a huge proponent of starting with loving yourself, and I still am. How can you love somebody else if you don't love yourself?
However, what your point has brought into my mind is this question. Is it possible to love yourself too much; thus, neglecting anyone else around you...making one become selfish to a point?
I want to believe that men and women are simply different, but equally valuable.
Quote of the day..
No matter how modern; independent and evolved we think we are, change takes time. And change never comes without bumpy roads. A period of adjustment is always a part of change.
Onwards and upwards
We evolve, as individuals and also as a group (society) different timing for each of us.
My philosophy is: "anything is possible but not everything is good for you, chose wisely" as I do not know what suits you or what you may need in certain moment of your life I have to let you be.
Tolerance, understanding, empathy...we all have our ulterior motives but as a society we should evaluate the impact of our individuality (development as a single human being) among others i.e.when majority of us are doing the same (why????), we could set up our behaviour as a norm....hence It could be a wrong example for those who come behind us ....danger!!!!!!! alarms!!! attention here!!!!
...same too with KN.
Maybe all these choices we have might actually help society/relationships down the road.
As long as they have only me when they are with me
I agree, certainly, with your whole assessment of where we are today. Including the ending part about how our "reality" has been designed to cater to a man's way of thinking, and how confusion among both genders is prevalent.
From your assessment, you would say the confusion with women is how to fit into the business/political world.
I would say for the man, it is a confusion on how to keep a woman in a long term relationship.
There is a movement, I think today, that is progressively aligning these new aspirations. I would say though, it is more so geared toward women with feminism and men are sort of left behind, trying to figure out where to go from here.
Wouldn't the feminine woman be more comfortable with the traditional roles of a woman...and thus be okay with that? So, there really would be no issue in her eyes?
Not all men are dogs. We hear about it a lot in politics and Hollywood....because I think that they have the most public coverage.
However, with this movement we are in today, the women dogs are coming out to bark too. Like you mention, the woman with her glass of wine and a new man every week.
As I mentioned with Molly and KN, maybe this is good. Because the man or the woman who is looking for a genuine long-term relationship, will now be a bit wiser to the opposite gender's activities.
I wonder if a man will ever go after a promiscuous woman..like a woman goes after a promiscuous man.
As mentioned before, letting people's true colors shine is a beautiful thing.
I heard once that it was going to be released as public information, all of the private messages that were ever sent through the internet...(fb, twitter, private email...etc.).
I am not sure some people would like that or not...or....if it would ever happen in the first place. But one thing for sure, any and everything ever shared on the internet is stored somewhere.
But when you say choose wisely, I think of how useful all these "private" messages would be in order to assess just who we are allowing to be associated with in our lives. As an employer, who we are potentially hiring for a job.
It mirrors the old religious saying, that God is always watching us....this time, it might be that everyone has access to watching everyone.
Each gender has masculine and feminine side.
The women with a highly defined feminine side would be the feminine woman.
She would have a softer side to her.
....and whatever that sort of personality brings to a relationship...would be what it is.
Hmm, this is simply called common sense and being able to make sound judgments in regards to other people.
I wonder if a man will ever go after a promiscuous woman..like a woman goes after a promiscuous man.
I never went after a promiscuous man and don't know an awful lot of other women that do.
The women with a highly defined feminine side would be the feminine woman. She would have a softer side to her.
But, I am thinking about a woman who enjoys being a mother and a homemaker. Who enjoys cooking for her husband and being supportive to him.
I think everyone can have a soft side to them. Having your life together, holding down a job etc. doesn't make a female hard. I know a women with lots of kids and that is very traditional that I consider "hard".
I know women that enjoy being at home and being a home maker. I know men that are supportive of this decision and the couple made it together, however, I haven't met many men that would have supported me doing this.They expected someone with a job and paying half of everything. I'm not complaining as this is my choice and the type of guys I'm going for. The one guy who would have liked me to stop working and be a stay at home mum - he wanted to ensure that I was financially dependent on him so that he could dictate to me what to do. No way Jose! Btw. I date adults, so I wouldn't even be interested in dictating anyone's life.
I'm always supportive of my partner, that is one of the things a relationship is about for me.
I actually like cooking and do it regularly for him and the kiddo - he likes cooking, too and cooks when I'm late home from working in Dublin.
Absolutely...but many people are very good at putting on false fronts.
That was my take on what Maya was referring to as a feminine woman.
It would be interesting to hear if she could elaborate more on it.
But, I have certainly met some masculine women in my day....at least I think I can tell the difference between the extremes when it comes to feminine and masculine natures.
Extremes are extremes and not how a lot of people behave.
Making the judgement if a person or not is good for them is something that person only can decide/see themselves.
....as for the rest, I agree with it all....
....but, I am going to double read it and I will gladly point out something I don't agree with.
Rational, indeed, is lovely. :)
In fact, your statement about not having both is rather profound, if you ask me...and is worthy of a blog topic in and of itself. It is an eye opener for both women and men.