I don't need games when authenticity provides so much more material for focussing on people, including myself.
The thing about 'mysteries' is we get stuck thinking about a few little things which don't make sense and leave us confused. It can be uncomfortable, frustrating and very, very boring after a while.
Authenticity can throw up new insights and inspirations all the time.
I have no idea what he is doing, or what his motives are. I have no idea when the OP created her profile, or what she's looking for now.
Y'know, my profile isn't entirely up to date. I'm still thinking about how to update it as I have stuff in process and changes I'm coming to terms with. Does that make me a bad person?
The OP is questioning stuff and maybe at a crossroads. It may be that her partner is a no good, dirty dawg. It may be that she's insecure about some harmless behaviour of his. The only way to sort it out is to sort it out with him, however. Our input will be influenced by our life experiences and our prejudices...and that's not much use to their situation.
Well, you're only the third person I've come across, including Daniel Tammet and I, who feels an emotional response to different numbers.
Most people look at me like I'm crazy when I ask questions like that.
As a small child, 2 years old, or less, I remember realising my thoughts included verbal information and not just colours. I felt a big loss.
I'm not a synesthete, but I do have learning difference traits, so I can relate to using different cognitive pathways. It was only about five years ago that I realised not everybody perceives sound and visual stimili like I do...and suddenly my world started to make much more sense.
Perhaps trying to live up to an ideal where we never hurt our kids, our partners, our parents, or our friends is a bit of a tall order.
For one thing, hurt is a two way thing between two people. Someone may say, or do something which we feel hurt by, but our interpretation of their actions is always intertwined with our previous experience.
Food safety laws are there for a reason and are very sensible. A food item contaminated with one E-coli organism and kept at an incorrect temperature could contain enough organisms within 10 minutes to kill, or permenantly disable.
The issue with waste food from supermarkets, or other food outlets is not necessaily that the food is not fit to eat at the time it's thrown away, but that it can't transported and processed under the food safety regulations easily. You can't just take a whole load of sandwiches to a homeless shelter without risking already vulnerable people's lives - the food would need to be transported and stored correctly. Mostly the resources and facilities to do this do not exist.
Research has demonstrated that women are more likely to cry than get angry as it's generally less socially acceptable for women to display anger emotions than men.
It's also been demonstrated that the more oppressive a particular society is towards women the more likey they are to cry as a means of expressing anger emotion. The last raw emotion you want to allow an oppressed group to express is anger, as they are more likely to rebel against the oppressors.
The result of this is that women are very often out of touch with their true emotions and authentic selves. It can take a fair amount of self-awareness work to recognise the tears as anger.
Anger can be a useful emotion and I agree with you Molly, it's far better to recognise and process it, than suppress it.
I also suspect you're eating disordered in some way. Please, explore that possibility. It doesn't mean you have to change your eating patterns, or feelings about food, but some understanding may bring you some peace of mind.
When the British railways were floundering in the 60's, I think it was, a lot of the unprofitable lines were closed down. All of a sudden the bigger, profitable lines became unprofitable because they didn't have the smaller lines feeding into it. For decades since privatisation, measures have been taken to try and reverse that process.
It didn't take a confession to work out the German pilot was likely suicidal when he crashed the plane and it might not take a confession to work out what happened here if it was a suicide attempt. It might just take an investigation and trial.
When the British railways were floundering in the 60's, I think it was, a lot of the unprofitable lines were closed down. All of a sudden the bigger, profitable lines became unprofitable because they didn't have the smaller lines feeding into it. For decades since privatisation, measures have been taken to try and reverse that process.
It didn't take a confession to work out the German pilot was likely suicidal when he crashed the plane and it might not take a confession to work out what happened here if it was a suicide attempt. It might just take an investigation and trial.
Relationships don't ask questions, people do. Asking questions (How are you feeling right now?) is one way of communicating. Shunning questions with the idea that a 'mature relationship answers them' may inhibit communication and isolate two people from each other.
If people have questions and insecurities maybe it's productive to voice them and explore them, rather than repress them.
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RE: sweet little lies
I find open and honest communication more interesting than betrayal of trust.