Yes, I have been afraid to tell the truth, I have lied so as not to hurt a person. I have been stuck in a situation where I lied to myself, to the person that I was desperately unhappy and I did not know where to turn. I had to hit a wall and fall apart before I could face up to it. Then I had to stop with lying to myself.
He would? My man. I am sure does not tell me everytime he speaks, communicates with another woman. I would find the information tedious listening to that all the time.
He may say 'guess what so and so said today' and I will listen, but I don't think
'I wonder what is going on there'
We are in danger of paranoia on this.
Why not give the man a chance to explain his actions, rather than hang, draw and quarter him?
What you should do is make it clear to him that you are not interested and that you are aware he is dating a person, of course that is if he is coming onto you.
He might just be being nice, a gentleman and sending you a flower.
I met my man from here and he is chatty, a gentleman with female members.
So don't rush into telling her anything, see what he has to say, if he is being suggestive, then tell him not to be.
My anger comes out with coolness in front of other people. I become chilly and aloof.
Not often I feel anger, I am not an angry person. But I have had moments in my life where anger has got the better of me. As soon as one loses ones temper, one loses the argument.
Our friends here have given you some wonderful advice, and you will feel bad and be burdened with guilt. Time will ease that.
I can't give you any advice that the good people have not already given you.
But I can offer you some hugs from over the pond. Do allow yourself some breathing space while you work out what you want to do and be kind to yourself.
I think you are a bit like me, secure, happy with oneself and can happily state the obvious...
Smug of me to say, given my own status. However, I was and still will always remain myself.
I am a believer in one wants to be with you or not. I do also believe that one is in charge of their own life. I have and will always remain mistress of my own life...
A great believer in humans being individuals...
I like that.
Always a joy to see you, especially those fabulous pins...
I have a man that truly loves me. And I mean truly loves me. I know this, I don't have to ask for his love, I don't have to secure it. In fact, I do not have to do anything other than enjoy the love that he feels for me and I can revel in the fact that I can deliver it back.
So when a man loves a woman, it is easy, it is nice, it is pleasant.
Yes we do care, yes we do want a man to love us.
You know? I had lunch today with my father and my stepmother. One couple who have loved each other for over 30 years. They hug, laugh, touch each other lovingly, make love and delight in each other. If he does not tweak her butt every day, she thinks he is going off her. He tweaks her butt everyday. Because he adores her.
As his daughter, I embrace what my father has, I have found that too, because I was raised being adored and loved. And when you are adored and loved, it is natural you want to give that back to your partner.
Love is about laughter, fun, hugs and time together. I climb on planes to be with my man, a man that I love just as much as he loves me. We always have fun, laugh, we cry and we are together as one on the same chair.
I do not disregard him, I would never do that. Why the hell would I?
Somedays it is tough, when we are alone, the rejection, the loneliness, the fear, the going to bed alone...
Who knows why some women do this, I cannot answer this, but there are plenty who would not turn their back.
Good to hear Sass, let's hope he is back soon. And I hope you are doing your exercises for your wrist.
Yes all is good this end Sass, preparing for my return to Europe.
I bet you miss Guiri here, I used to miss the Captain too but then I can have him in life so it was was wasted energy and if he did not keep pissing people off and getting himself banned then he would be here more often. Although he is busy with work and that keeps him out of mischief.
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Where is the coffee shop these days???
Morning Sass...How are you lovely?