This thread deserves a wider audience, it is a wonderful thread...
I could not be with a person who lacked the emotional investment that I put into a relationship.
I would not want to be, as I would tell a person that I did not feel as much for as I knew they felt for me. When I became ready for a relationship, I wanted to have a person that would be able to handle all aspects of a relationship that I can. With a balance of being able to support me in my weaker moments, I was and still am very honest about that. While I am self sufficient alone, and do not need propping up emotionally, I have those times when I need to lean on a person.
As I am a great source of support in my other half's life, I want to love and support him because I am damn good at that. I knew I would make a good partner, but it had to be with someone who ignited that fire in me.
It would not work for me, I can only say that. If he loved me less that I him, I would leave and the same if he had greater depth for me. You cannot force what is not there.
There was not much time for emotion in my case, as my births were so quick, but the feeling of holding that little bundle, who depends so much on you, is the most wonderful feeling.
It just cannot be beaten and to see my ex husband just pick the little ones up and hold them, was amazing.
I am patient with my father, I am patient most of the time with 'HIM'
I am patient with my son, but my daughter and I often have differences of opinion that make me want to shake her sometimes.
With a thread, no effort at all, I am either interested or not.
No, I don't think it means one is being disrespectful, we all have our thresholds for tolerance and if I lose my patience, I will say 'I am losing my patience with you' It by no means lessens anything I feel for them. I have a high threshold for people and the quirks in their behaviour.
Ah you see, you are basing this on 'who you get along with'
In that case, I get along with both, but I have no wish to go chasing chickens around my backyard, and slinging them over my shoulder. I prefer my chickens oven ready.
I live on the outskirts of a city, I have the country at one side and the city at the other.
But I like a man that can grow his own tomatoes and know the difference between coriander and basil...
I actually don't see men as being snotty. Arrogant, I don't mind a dash of arrogance, I find it quite attractive, maybe, but snotty? No.
It depends for me on what I have been exposed to, my father was a businessman, my ex husband was a countryboy turned businessman and my American one was a corporate a**hole.
The country I love, but I do like the smartness and elegance of the city and I find that personality is not dependent on geographical parameters.
I prefer a man that can tie a tie, including a bow tie, yet can look just as gorgeous in a pair of jeans.
I really like that picture there Riz, it sounds wonderful.
My city? Nestled at the bottom of the mountains, we have the fortress, Hotel Sacher, which is my favourite place to go for breakfast on a Sunday, with my newspaper, sit on the terrace and watch Salzburg waking up... I like that.
In here, we have waitresses with little white caps on and white frilly aprons and the staff are just wonderful. The city is safe, people leave their babies in prams outside shops while they nip in for some Viennese coffee, not as nice as Italian coffee, but you know, I still love it...
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RE: Would you stay with someone ,that loved you more, or loved you less......
I do find this an incredibly sad statement.